The state developed the second and third children but no one wants to have children, the answer of the post-90s is bright, and the post-80s direct call is too real
The third child has been opened, but for the second child, many people do not even want to have a child.
Recently, there was a small survey on the Internet about whether the post-90s were willing to have a second child.
Many of the post-90s answers interviewed have made many post-80s ashamed of themselves.
The idea of the 90 generation is clearly personality, but they have said that there is no throne in the family that needs to be inherited.
It is enough to have one child, and if you want to continue to have a high-quality life, you will not want a second child.
Even if the birth incentive policy is also related to the introduction, it is not too attractive for the post-90s.
Let's delve into why the post-90s are reluctant to have a second child, in the end, it is nothing more than money and education.
You know, the cost of raising a child is very high now,
All kinds of interest classes, toys, software and hardware facilities need to be well-equipped, can not be other people's children have, but their own home does not.
Behind all this is hard work, daily children and work pressure have been breathless.
If you consider the second child, then life must be a chicken feather.
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Different post-90s thoughts on the second child investigation
A small number of women think this way, not to mention the policy of encouraging several births.
It is to prepare Dink early, and I don't want to be born,
If it were not for the urging of the elders in the family to take their lives, they would not even want to get married.
Some people say this: at the urging of both parties in the family, the marriage was completed.
Also completed the task of procreation, but one child is enough,
Others have been giving birth to a second child, will they help raise a second child?
Is it possible that the second child is born, and diapers, milk powder, and education do not cost money?
Children who are sick need to be seen by hand, and child care also needs manpower, don't you need to go to work?
If you don't go to work, where does the money come from? Can the husband alone support several members of the family?
Others are more direct, and the fertility incentive policy has nothing to do with me.
I can't support myself, and I can't eat a mortgage or a car loan every day.
Not to mention having the energy to take care of the children and having extra money to raise them.
From the above answer, it can be seen that the post-90s generation is concerned about the children,
Be clear and unambiguous, because you want to pursue a better life.
Don't stop yourself because of your child.
Indeed, if you can't even take care of yourself, why talk about taking care of your second child?
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Why are there more post-90s who are reluctant to have a second child
Is it a social relationship or an individual reason?
As a post-90s, first look at the educational concepts of post-80s parents,
With the development of society, it is becoming more and more humane.
Therefore, behind the influence of these cultures, the post-90s concept of fertility,
Will no longer be deeply bound by the old society,
The idea that you have to have a boy and you have to have a few boys in the family is the way to go.
In the life of strong social competition, the post-80s generation is deeply under the pressure of work, mortgage, car loan, education,
The post-90s generation looks in the heart and also experiences such a life,
Therefore, they will pursue freedom more and want to have a high quality of life.
The post-90s are more independent, and the post-90s are more devastated by the pressure of life after the 80s.
Therefore, I will want to reduce the pressure even more, and I will see the matter of childbearing very clearly.
Especially in the post-80s with children there is no freedom at all.
The post-90s want to have more freedom and more pain points in the post-80s.
The post-80s generation has different ideas about the second child,
Thinking more is because the family has been urging, so I slowly slipped my own thoughts.
He joined the team of the second child.
Some post-80s are because they see the only children of the post-70s generation.
In the face of the birth, old age, illness and death of his parents, he could only support himself alone.
There is a very sad news, the man's parents are both hospitalized,
As an only child, this man was alone in the hospital queue, signed for surgery, queued up to buy meals and pay for money.
When I was guarding a pair of parents in the hospital in the middle of the night, I was more in the mood at that time, even if my parents had given birth to one more for themselves.
In this way, when facing major life events, there are still people who can discuss and help.
It is precisely because such a phenomenon abounds after the 70s, so many post-80s are willing to have a second child.
Just in case I am in the ward in the future, I don't want my child to be left without help.
This reminds me of some people who said:
"Having children, while young, the more the better, if a football team is better,
In this way, the child will also have playmates, and the cost of raising two children will not be very high,
The things of the first child can be reserved for the second child, and if it is well preserved, the third child can also be used. “”
At that time, such remarks came out, and many post-80s and post-90s were very disapproving.
How much is something for a child worth? The most expensive are housing costs, maternity examination costs, early childhood education costs, etc.
Is it possible that after the child is born, there is no need to cultivate anything, and the child can become a talent on his own?
Everyone's ideas and considerations need to be combined with their own situation,
The main force of fertility now is the post-90s, and the concept of fertility in different eras is different.
Different changes are also taking place.
In the old generation, it was always thought that there was a succession to the throne in the family and that it was necessary to have a boy.
Now after the 90s, I think that I can be born, and I don't care whether the gender is male or female.
Just need to pursue a higher quality of life, can pursue the value of their own life is enough,
And these are not bound by children.
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Changes in life brought about by the age difference between the second child
The main force of fertility after the 90s has a clear goal, even now they are encouraging three children.
However, after arranging the big treasure, the economic conditions allow it to prepare for the second child.
In this way, Dabao and Erbao will not face different age differences and bring about serious life changes.
Like a friend Xiaomei next to her, because she and her husband are only children.
After giving birth to Dabao smoothly, he never considered the second child.
But with the persuasion of her parents, Xiaomei considered more about the issue of age difference.
What if a child is born and is too many years apart? Who will bring the child? Will Dabao accept it?
After considering various issues, the whole family discussed and made a decision, and Xiaomei was only responsible for the birth.
After the birth of the child, the parents of both sides take turns to bring, have money to help pay, and contribute strongly until the second treasure goes to kindergarten.
In terms of Dabao, he actively outlined the good life of the second child, and after Dabao agreed, he was ready to prepare for pregnancy.
Xiaobian has to boast that only by considering these problems one by one and communicating properly,
You know, having two more children is not as simple as just having one more child.
Nor can the second child only become the responsibility of the mother, the addition of the second child requires the help and care of a whole family.
In order to make the mother willing to prepare for the second child, otherwise, if the second child is born, the working mother will become a full-time mother.
What woman is willing to live such a life every day?