Marriage is actually a cooperative relationship, two people cooperate to run a family, the "product" of this family is the child. If two people work together happily, the marriage and family will be very happy. Husbands and wives work together to raise their children, and when the children grow up, they help the children to start a family.
If the cooperation is not pleasant, it will not be possible to run the family well, and the child will grow up in an unhappy environment. If you want to have a happy marriage, you should pay special attention when choosing a partner, and you must choose people who are like-minded and have the same three views.
Since it is a cooperative relationship, it is necessary to abide by the spirit of the contract from the beginning, and both men and women must be honest with each other. A person who does not keep his promises cannot have good interpersonal relationships, and marriage and family will not be happy.
Before marriage, it is generally necessary to discuss how to handle the marriage, and the two original families cooperate to help a new couple establish a new small family. Since the two sides have discussed it, but when holding the wedding, it must be done according to the negotiation, so that the wedding can be carried out smoothly and smoothly.
The bride temporarily adds 100,000 yuan to the bride price, and the groom terminates the wedding
After Chen Juan and her boyfriend were in love for more than a year, the two were ready to get married, but they encountered trouble when discussing marriage. The boyfriend's family conditions are general, and the mother-in-law intends to buy them a two-bedroom and one-hall marriage room, but Chen Juan insists on buying a three-bedroom and one-hall house.
The mother-in-law is embarrassed, but does not want to let a couple break up because of the problem of the house. The mother-in-law originally wanted to buy a house in full, but now that she wants to buy three bedrooms and a living room, then their money is not enough. So they said let's take a loan to buy a house, pay them a down payment, repay the loan to the little couple, and write the names of two people on the property deed.
But Chen Juan disagreed, she did not want to be in debt as soon as she got married, so she insisted that the man buy a house in full. The boyfriend knows that his parents are not rich at hand, in order to do marriage for him, his parents have been working hard, and they are frugal, and he can no longer increase the burden on his parents.
The boyfriend pleaded with Chen Juan to either buy two rooms and a living room, or take out a loan to buy three rooms and one room, but Chen Juan resolutely disagreed. The mother-in-law had no choice but to grit her teeth and agree, they did not want to embarrass their son.
After agreeing to buy three rooms and a living room in full, the mother-in-law wanted to pay less for the bride price, and they originally wanted to give 80,000 yuan. In their place, the average family is forty or fifty thousand, and some are only one or two thousand, which is just a meaning. Now the in-laws have come up with 50,000, and the house is overwhelmed by them, so they can save a little.
But Chen Juan lion opened his mouth widely, and even asked for 180,000 dowry money. She said that the dowry money received by several of her friends was about the same price, and she could not be worse than them. Chen Juan's parents also believe that the dowry money cannot be less, which represents the importance that the man attaches to his daughter-in-law.
180,000 far exceeded the psychological price of the in-laws-to-be, and the old couple was stunned! The boyfriend immediately begged Chen Juan, saying that his parents had a hard time buying a three-bedroom and one-room wedding room in full, and they also needed money to run the wedding, and they really couldn't come up with more money.
But Chen Juan refused to give in, and the mother-in-law was embarrassed and worried. Later, Chen Juan's father relaxed, asking Chen Juan to take a step back, and her boyfriend's family also took a step back. So the two sides bargained, and finally negotiated the dowry money of 80,000 yuan. After the marriage is discussed, the next step is to do it according to the negotiation.
On the day of the wedding, the boyfriend happily took the kissing team to the woman's house to greet the kiss, and at the beginning everything went smoothly, and it was done according to the prior consultation. The woman's family warmly greeted the kissing team, and the groom sent various red envelopes, etc., and the atmosphere was very good.
But when the boyfriend was ready to take Chen Juan away, Chen Juan suddenly offered to add 100,000 yuan of dowry money, otherwise she would not go to the float. At this juncture, the bride suddenly proposed to add 100,000 pieces of dowry money, which was unprepared for the groom.
The groom was naturally very unhappy, but now that so many relatives and friends were watching, he certainly couldn't get angry. The groom went to beg Chen Juan, saying that he could not increase the price temporarily like this, and their family really had no money. But Chen Juan did not forgive and insisted on adding 100,000 yuan of dowry money, and Chen Juan's parents were silent.
Chen Juan's family feels that in today's scene, the man will definitely agree, otherwise the bride will not go to the float, what will the relatives and friends of the man's family do? The in-laws are also face-to-face people, how can they mess up their son's marriage because of the problem of money?
The boyfriend repeatedly pleaded with Chen Juan, saying that his family was not unwilling to give out the money, and he really couldn't get it. Their family is just an ordinary family of ordinary people, not a family of large sums of money, and besides, his parents have already owed debts for his marriage, how can he open his mouth to his parents again?
Chen Juan still insisted on adding 100,000 yuan of dowry money, and her boyfriend said to give Chen Juan an IOU and give Chen Juan after marriage. But Chen Juan disagreed, she said to give her money today, that is the money from the in-laws; if the husband gives her money after marriage, it is originally the joint property of the husband and wife, talk about what not to give!
Because of the need to add 100,000 pieces of dowry money, the two sides were deadlocked, and Chen Juan insisted on not getting on the float without getting the money. The man's family did not see the welcome team go back, so they called to inquire, and after learning that the bride temporarily wanted to add 100,000 yuan of dowry money, the mother-in-law was anxious to faint.
After the boyfriend heard his mother faint on the phone, he finally couldn't bear it. The boyfriend threw down the bouquet in his hand, waved to the kissing team, and then got on the float and told the driver to go home. The driver was stunned at first, and then he understood that he had driven, so the greeting team went back.
Chen Juan was still waiting in the room, she was very determined, thinking that the man's family would definitely agree to her conditions. When a relative ran in and told her that the groom had left with the welcoming party, she was stunned!
Later, at the insistence of her boyfriend, the wedding was canceled. Chen Juan cried and begged her boyfriend to forgive her, she wanted to live a good life with her boyfriend, but her boyfriend still insisted on quitting the marriage. Most of the things that the man's family gave to the woman before were returned under the witness of the matchmaker.
On the wedding day, the bride was withdrawn from marriage by the man because she wanted to temporarily add 100,000 yuan of dowry money, which became a big news, and everyone talked about it. Chen Juan and her parents were pushed to the cusp of public opinion, and everyone laughed at and despised them, so that no one was willing to introduce Chen Juan to her anymore.
Be trustworthy, and be sincere in marriage
Marriage does require material conditions, living at home, no one can do without money. But money can be earned in the end, as long as two people love each other and struggle together after marriage, life will always get better and better.
If you are lazy and lazy, and you don't want to work hard after marriage, you will have a million family properties and will sit and eat the mountains. When getting married, the woman desperately wants to get money from the man's family, which is problematic in itself, and the guiding ideology is incorrect.
Since two people are going to get married, they must be treated sincerely and abide by the agreed things. Like Chen Juan, who uses the wedding scene to force the man to take the money out, the man will take the money out, and his heart will not be happy, and he will not be good to his daughter-in-law after marriage.
Marriage should be based on love, two people are together because they are in love, and they cannot use marriage to accumulate wealth. Some people have a very grand wedding, but after marriage, they are not happy; while others, the wedding is very simple, not even a marriage room, but after marriage, they are very happy.
Therefore, whether the marriage is happy or not, whether the wedding is grand, whether the bride price is many, etc., is not necessarily related, only related to the character and love of the two people. Like Chen Juan, who goes her own way, and pays special attention to money, and does not consider the actual situation of the man at all, even if she is married, she will not be happy.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.