Zhang Ailing once said: When she saw him, she became very low and very low, low to the dust, but her heart was joyful, and flowers blossomed from the dust.
Humble love, however, cannot actually blossom in the dust.
Many times, the more humble you are, the more you will be ignored. The more desperately you try to please the other person, the less attention you will receive.
Because, in love, the other party needs not only love, but also your understanding and understanding. He needs you to understand him, you understand his real needs.
In fact, in love, in addition to your love, men are more eager for you to bring him 3 feelings. These 3 feelings that you give are derived from love, but they are beyond love.
You know, the effective way to conquer a man is not to humbly please, but to give him these 3 feelings.
01. Security
In love, what men really need is the sense of security you give.
The so-called sense of security means that he does not have to worry about losing you all the time, does not have to worry about you leaving him all the time, and will not have the mentality of gaining and losing.
If you know how to keep a proper distance from the opposite sex, in the interaction with other members of the opposite sex, grasp the sense of proportion and boundary, men will naturally get a sense of security from you.
If you know how to properly care for your man, give him gentleness and thoughtfulness, and let him feel the wrapping of your love, he will naturally get a sense of security.
When you only have him in your heart, full of him, leave all your warmth and affection to him, pour out your tenderness to warm him, let him feel the sense of security you give, he will naturally be conquered by you, and treat you wholeheartedly.
Blindly pleasing does not necessarily get his heart. However, when you give him enough security, he will trust you more, rely on you, willingly pay for you, and treat you gently.
02. A sense of belonging
The narrow sense of belonging refers to the demarcation, identification and maintenance of a special group and its subordinate relationship by an individual, which is a psychological manifestation of the individual's identity with the group.
In feelings, the sense of belonging refers to a person who can bring you a feeling of being worth relying on, so that you have a heart to rely on and a heart to belong to.
Men also need a sense of belonging in their relationships. When you are truly worthy of his dependence, let him sincerely believe that you are the woman who can accompany him for a lifetime, he will naturally get a sense of belonging from you.
You are like his haven, a haven where he can dock with peace of mind after he is tired of wandering outside. For him, returning to you is like returning to his own home, giving him a warm and down-to-earth feeling.
In the relationship, if you want to conquer a man, you must first give him a sense of belonging, give him the warmth of the family, and let him truly live in your heart.
The sense of belonging, in essence, is a sense of security, a sense of solidity, a sense of peace of mind, and a kind of home-like warmth.
03.Confidence
In fact, in a relationship, the importance of self-confidence to men is also self-evident.
Men are born with a desire to conquer, and the more gentle and considerate a woman is, the more men love her.
When a man can satisfy his desire to conquer in you, the more he can gain a sense of confidence and achievement, the more he will be fascinated by you and obsessed with you.
Therefore, smart women know how to satisfy men's self-confidence, know how to worship their own men, gently care for men, take care of men thoughtfully, and take care of men's dignity everywhere.
In the long run, men can not only experience your deep affection for him, but also get the sense of confidence you give, so as to become more dependent on you and obsessed with you.
And only a stupid woman will blindly suppress men, look down on men, let men always be in a weak position, make men more tired of her, want to stay away from her, and eventually, let this feeling fall into crisis.
Instead of racking his brains to please men, it is better to learn to worship men from the heart, praise men appropriately, affirm men often, and bring him a sense of self-confidence.
Emotional Message:
Smart women know how to manage feelings correctly, how to love someone appropriately.
Smart women will know that the effective way to conquer a man is not to humbly please, but to give him 3 feelings.
That is to give him a sense of security, belonging and self-confidence.
A sense of security can make him feel solid and at ease in his feelings, and can make him wait safely by your side.
A sense of belonging can make him feel the warmth of home in his feelings and make him willing to return to your gentle embrace.
A sense of self-confidence can make him find a sense of confidence in his feelings, and can make him proudly live in your eyes.
When you learn to give him a sense of security, belonging and self-confidence, that is, you learn how to love him and warm him appropriately, and how to properly manage the feelings between you.
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