Pulling black to delete the contact information is only the appearance, and the psychological motivation behind it is the real reason. The deletion of contact information is the most common and common problem in breakups, and many people are panicked and overwhelmed when they are blocked and deleted when they encounter emotional breakups. Today I will talk to you about the 4 most typical ways to deal with being blocked and deleted.
4 different psychological motivations that were blocked and removed at the time of breakup:
1. Use blocking to delete to achieve a certain psychological appeal.
This is one of the means and methods that many girls are accustomed to in their relationships, and the purpose is to make their boyfriends or husbands compromise with themselves in order to achieve their own goals or satisfy some desires in their hearts. This kind of behavior is usually what we call girls "to die"!
Of course, some boys will also use this method of blocking and deleting contact information to achieve their own adjustment of a certain position or posture in the relationship. Generally scumbags use more, if a boy hooks up with multiple girls at the same time, sometimes in order to coordinate the time allocation between different girls, the usual method will find an opportunity to catch the girl's problem and then delete the blocking contact information for temporary isolation.
How do we deal with a partner who uses blocking to remove to achieve psychological appeals? Two directions, one is that if the other party's purpose desire psychological appeal, we can give in to compromise and agree, then go to him in time, and agree to his request to restore the relationship. If the other party's psychological appeal, we can not back down to compromise and agree, then temporarily break the connection, time at least a week or more, first put him aside, after a period of time to go to him for consultation, and then move to use the way of affection to save it.
Another direction to deal with is if you find that the other party is just using blocking and deleting to coordinate the time allocation of multiple relationships. For this kind of emotional scumbag scumbag behavior, it is recommended that you be cruel to yourself, and take this opportunity to permanently block and delete it! Never give the other person a chance to hurt themselves again.
2, fixed personality characteristics habitually.
Some people grew up in a child's environment and were shaped into the behavioral characteristics of habitually blocking and deleting the contact information of their loved ones, especially some people with compulsive personality traits. Some people with obsessive-compulsive disorder in daily life, if your behavior or speech point stimulates the other party, the other party will use constantly force themselves to delete various contact information related to you and so on. Of course, obsessive-compulsive disorder is only the case of a very small number of people.
More people are influenced by a relative around them in the process of growing up and develop the habit of blocking and deleting, and more appear in single-parent families. Especially the type of single mother who grew up with a daughter, the daughter under the influence of the mother's social habits, it is easy to derive the habit of removing the blackmail partner in the emotional relationship.
If you find that your partner also often has this habitual personality trait of blocking and deleting your contact information, there is only one way to cope: that is, just put him quietly aside, don't bother him, and don't try to correct his behavior in your own way. When his habit has passed, he will naturally take the initiative to add that you will take the initiative to find you. Remember not to disturb him, and keeping him quiet is key, especially for compulsive people.
3. Being entangled and harassed to produce disgust and irritability, caused by emotional outbursts.
Emotional blackout and deletion of broken links are probably the most common cases of emotional breakups. Many girls who have been broken up should have encountered this situation! The boyfriend breaks up with you, even if it is a sentence, it ignites the girl's emotions, and then you keep sending him messages and phone calls, stalking and playing tricks. In the end, the boyfriend can't stand your continuous harassment and entanglement, and he will delete you and block you.
Maybe in the boyfriend's heart, he is not so determined to break up with you completely; maybe he is still hesitating in his heart, and he just wants to see your reaction when he mentions breaking up with you; maybe he just wants to let himself have a quiet time and adjust his position in the relationship. But it was bombarded by your information voice phone, and my heart was completely cold.
At this moment, he is afraid that only his dislike for you is irritable, and he may even have emotions of resentment toward you. When his whole being is disgusted with your irritability, he has to use the method of blacking out and deleting to win himself a little quiet and free time! "I can't afford to hide" is the real thought in their hearts.
This emotional blackmail removes the psychological motivation of both men and women. If a boy treats his girlfriend in a stalking, entanglement, and trickery way, it will also lead to the same result, and the consequences may be more serious! After all, in the mate selection period, girls may never give each other the opportunity to pursue themselves again for such a stalking boy.
The best way to deal with emotionalization leading to blocking and deletion is to immediately stop all acts of harassing the other party, including sending messages and phone calls, even appearing in front of the other party's eyes, and even temporarily not entering the other party's eyes. All these behaviors should be stopped immediately, and then immediately open the disconnection mode, the time is at least two weeks or more, depending on the severity of the matter to increase the length of the disconnection, the shortest two weeks, the longest up to three months or even half a year.
After the disconnection step, create the right time to enter each other's life in a warm and comfortable way to start the re-contact mode. The operation of this step of the reunion is very critical, the timing of the reunion is not right, then the disconnection is equivalent to wasted effort, so the reunion must be opened in a way that the other party feels comfortable and suitable.
4, the inner decision to completely cut off the link point of the emotional relationship.
This is called "complete blackout removal", the other party made the final psychological decision in the heart, that is, you must give up the person, at this time he will use this complete blocking and deletion method to delete all the contact information related to you, in addition, will also throw everything related to you to the garbage station, including the gifts you send, you and your photos, your daily necessities and everything else as long as it can remind him of your things, he will block and delete.
The response to this blackout situation is the most painful and sad, and it is also the most cruel and torturous. No way, you go to him to pester him is useless, in the end, except for forcing the other party to call the police to arrest you, I guess there will be no other consequences. So if the other party is completely determined to cut off the emotional link with you, then it is recommended that you must turn away with a dashing, strong and confident posture, and must not lower your posture to beg him. Because the tall back image you turned away will also leave an indelible impression on his mind. And this impression may become the source of your future restart. After all, the heart that has not really been obtained can make people fall in love with it for a lifetime, which will also make him troubled for a lifetime.
In the case of complete blackout and deletion, you must completely disconnect the connection, and the disconnection without time limits, until you complete the transformation and become a new you, you can end the disconnection and appear in front of him with a new high posture, so that his heart has never received you. Attraction is the driving force between the sexes.