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We always have hopes and beautiful fantasies about love and marriage.
But the reality is always cruel, because the people encountered are so diverse and difficult to understand.
The heroine in the next case, just when she was about to get married, found that the love she dreamed of was actually worthless.
Miao Xiaoshu is the only daughter of a middle-class urban family, long and playful and cute, the only deficiency is that the education is not too high.
Her parents are middle-level leaders of the enterprise, and her relatives and friends are also Kochi elements.
Only when I arrived at Miao Xiaoshu, I couldn't read the book.
Looking at her name, parents have hoped that their daughters will be able to learn books and be self-explanatory from childhood.
However, she was not the material for reading, and finally she could only enter a junior college after the college entrance examination.
With the living expenses given by her parents, she spent three years on campus relaxed and happy.
Although I didn't learn much professional knowledge, I was skilled at dressing up and doing nail art.
After graduation, her parents gave her a job as a clerk in a technology company.
And the lazy Miao Xiaoshu thinks that going to work is not fun at all, getting up early every day and not saying it, and being managed by people.
Just as she was about to resign and go home, a person from the company came and suddenly made her change her mind.
It turned out that the company wanted to transfer an engineer from other places, named Xu Jiantong.
This is a really high-achieving student who just finished defending his doctoral dissertation not long ago.
Many of the girls in the company had inquired about the situation in advance and wanted to know if the phD engineer was married.
Originally, Miao Xiaoshu did not care about this matter, and planned where to travel after leaving his job.
Who knew that after the mysterious engineer appeared, Miao Xiaoshu decided not to leave for the time being.
Because this high-achieving student not only has a high education but also a high appearance.
A big man in a big eight, his clothes and hairstyle are also fresh and decent.
She had never been in love before, and she suddenly had the urge to fall in love.
So every day I started to get up half an hour early, used to freshen up and dress, thinking that I could leave a good impression on Xu Jiantong.
But once I arrived at the company, I found that the competition was fierce, and all unmarried female colleagues began to become beautiful.
Miao Xiaoshu, who is not too outstanding in appearance, decided to take another fierce step.
In the name of hospitality, she ordered afternoon tea for the whole company, and specially prepared expensive desserts for Xu Jiantong alone.
In this way, she created this opportunity to get Xu Jiantong's contact information.
Miao Xiaoshu was very active on the mobile phone, and when the conversation was almost over, she asked if she could have a meal together on the weekend, and the seats were fixed.
As a boy, Xu Jiantong was overwhelmed with affection, and went to the restaurant with Xiaoshu on the weekend.
As soon as he entered the restaurant, Xu Jiantong indicated that he was not alarmed, but he was still a little nervous in his heart.
Because in fact, his family is not well-off, even if he comes from a rural area, he still has a younger brother in his hometown.
But he had a high heart and a high IQ, and with his own efforts he had a decent job in the city.
Besides, he had been busy working and studying before, and this high-end restaurant was still the first time to come.
Dinner is still quite pleasant, after all, the environment is good and the dishes are also exquisite and delicious.
After this time, Miao Xiaoshu was bold, and after taking the initiative to pursue for two months, they formally interacted.
Most of the love period is also Miao Xiaoshu's initiative, and she left her job after confirming the relationship.
She went home and confessed her love situation to her parents, and the old couple could not suppress their excitement after hearing that their daughter's boyfriend had a doctorate.
I have repeatedly told my daughter to grasp it well, and it is difficult to find excellent boys in this year.
After they had been in love for more than a year, Miao Xiaoshu's family urged them to get married.
However, Xu Jiantong, as a man, currently has only one scooter, or he saved money to buy it.
He has no plans to buy this marriage house for the time being, and the family really can't help him.
But Miao Xiaoshu's parents did not pick on it, but instead understood the man, and were ready to take out a suite for them to make a wedding room.
I thought that Xu Jiantong would be grateful for the generosity and understanding of the woman's family, but as if he should, he did not say a word of thanks to the Xiaoshu family.
Originally, Miao Xiaoshu was a little humble in this relationship, and even her parents were humbled with her.
Although she didn't say anything about it, she didn't feel very bad in her heart.
But at this time, she and Xu Jiantong had already talked about marriage, and she was not willing to fall out at this time.
So she wanted to keep herself busy to forget her boyfriend's indifference and arrogance.
She was busy with the decoration of the wedding room all day, and she was very happy to run up and down.
After more than half a year, my hard work has finally paid off.
Looking at the beautiful decoration of the wedding room, Miao Xiaoshu did not mention how satisfied he was.
It was just the next thing that ruined her hopes.
After the wedding room was installed, she successively added things to it, and often took Xu Jiantong to visit.
But one time after she opened the door as usual, the home was in a mess, and there were many strange luggage.
She immediately called the police in anger, and she didn't figure out the situation until the police came.
It turned out that her boyfriend Xu Jiantong gave the house to his brother in his hometown, not only gave the key to his brother privately, but also moved in without consulting with Xiaoshu.
Seeing that Xiaoshu was about to get angry, Xu Jiantong coaxed her to say, "You see he is my brother, that is, your little uncle." Let's give him a place to live before we get married and move in. ”
Miao Xiaoshu suffered a lot of blows because of this incident, and worked hard to pay everything, but he was so messed up by outsiders.
She said coldly, "Hasn't your brother ever lived in a house, does this make my home like home?"
After saying that, she went to the intermediary that afternoon.
In less than a month, Miao Xiaoshu quickly sold the house, and even Xu Jiantong's contact information was blocked and deleted.
She decided that in the future love, she would never have a low posture again, let alone accept upside down.
Miao Xiaoshu in the case was also good to stop the loss in time and stay away from the arrogant phoenix man.
This tells us that marriage is not a child's play, and we must understand the following two principles before marriage.
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One: Goodwill should be given to the right person, otherwise it will only be exchanged for more demands.
There are always some simple people who are becoming more and more passive in complex interpersonal relationships.
Sometimes it's not that you feel good about the feelings, the other person is worth everything you give.
Because society is both realistic and complex, it's hard to know if a relationship is really pure and worthwhile.
And human nature is also full of changes and injustices.
As if the better you treat others, the more your goodwill will be trampled on.
So we must learn to protect ourselves, but also to be responsible for ourselves.
After determining whether the other person is worth it, decide whether to give your sincerity and kindness.
Otherwise, all that will be exchanged is more demands, and a situation that is more difficult to end.
Don't be like the girl in the case, who has paid her heart and family property, and in the end it should be in the eyes of others.
No matter what kind of social relationship the other party has with you, you must follow the principle of your coming and going.
Otherwise, their own efforts are just a bamboo basket to hit the water empty.
It is even more important to cherish your own sincerity and goodwill, and do not let these beautiful qualities become wishful thinking in the eyes of others.
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Two: Smart men and women will use a magnifying glass to look at each other before marriage, and after marriage, they will use a small mirror.
From love to marriage, time is limited and relatively short.
After all, as the saying goes: it takes a long time to see people's hearts.
So just a few years may not be enough to fully understand who you're married to.
But you have to know that everyone will magnify their strengths before marriage, and then try to hide their shortcomings.
Maybe a little problem before marriage will develop into a big problem that is difficult to solve after marriage.
Therefore, it is prudent and wise to learn to observe and be picky before marriage.
After men and women are officially married, they must learn to look at each other with a small mirror.
After all, two people live together, too much calculation, it is easy to spread the day.
Therefore, the standards and practices before and after marriage are completely different
Know that human nature and marriage are always influencing each other and checking each other.
All we can do is use real-world experience to give the future less risk.
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The human heart is the most difficult thing to see through.
When two people meet together, they still fantasize about entering marriage together.
Shouldn't each other be more sincere.
After all, we go around and around, and we are no better than two souls clinging to each other.
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