Fang Fang, 5 years old, told his mother several times before the kindergarten started that he did not want to go to kindergarten.
The mother did not pay attention to it, thinking that her daughter was just playing hi during the holidays, and she thought that it would be better to help her daughter collect her heart. Who knew that a day or two before the start of school, Fang Fang said several times that he wanted to go to kindergarten.
Mom remembered that when she first had a holiday, Fang Fang excitedly told her: "Great, no need to go to kindergarten, it's really happy." ”
Mom teased her, "Didn't you say that kindergarten is fun and you like to go, why don't you want to go?" ”
Fang Fang didn't say anything and ran away to play with the toy, and her mother didn't think anything was wrong at that time.
Now that the school is about to start, Fang Fang once again proposed not to go to the kindergarten, the mother only brought up the attention, why does the daughter not want to go to the kindergarten? She wanted to talk to her daughter.
Fang Fang said: "I don't like Teacher Hu, she is always cold to me, never smiles, but smiles at other students." She also said that I was messy in class and that my writing was not good. She didn't like me, and I didn't like her, so I didn't want to go to kindergarten. ”
I see.
The mother told Fang Fang a lot of reasoning, and Fang Fang also promised to go to the kindergarten when the time came, not to play bad.
However, on the day of the official opening of the school, Fang Fang said that he was uncomfortable and his stomach hurt.
Mom took her to a community clinic, where the doctor checked it out and said it wasn't a big problem. But Fang Fang still felt a stomachache.
Mom said that she would take her to the big hospital for examination, but Fang Fang said: "No need to go to the hospital, just rest at home." ”
The mother reacted to this, the daughter is thinking carefully, do not want to go to kindergarten.
It is not uncommon in life for a child not to like a teacher, not want to attend her class, or even go to school.
In this case, not only the child is distressed, but also the rhythm of the parents is disrupted, which makes the parents annoyed.
In fact, as long as you find out the reason why the child does not like the teacher, and then prescribe the right medicine, you can narrow the distance between the child and the teacher, let the child trust the teacher, be willing to listen to the teacher's lessons, and eliminate the emotional gap between the teacher and the child.
In fact, children do not like teachers, the main reason is nothing more than two aspects, one is because the teacher is improperly educated, and the other is because the child's cognitive ability is limited.
From the teacher's point of view, the teacher has criticized the child because the child has not done a good job in discipline, or the homework is wrong, which will make the child feel frustrated, unable to maintain a pleasant mood in front of the teacher, and the child will think that the teacher does not like himself before criticizing him.
In addition, there are more children in the kindergarten, the teacher can not see for a while, may have wronged a child, after the incident the teacher can not find the child to appease, which leads to the child to complain about the teacher, and estranged from the teacher.
From the child's point of view, due to the child's young age and limited cognitive ability, some things make them look unfair and cause a gap for the teacher.
For example, teachers often praise children with excellent grades and good discipline, which is actually the common sentiment of people, but in the eyes of children, teachers are "eccentric", which triggers their dissatisfaction with the teacher.
In addition, some children think that they are not valued by the teacher, for example, the teacher has appointed several classmates as class leaders, and for some children who want to be cadres but have not been appointed, they will feel that the teacher does not value themselves, so they hate the teacher. There are also some children who rarely raise their hands to speak during class, and teachers rarely ask such students to answer questions, and they will also feel that the teacher is unfair and thus dislike the teacher.
Children do not like teachers and do not want to go to school, which is not only bad for children, but also makes parents worry. In order for children to like teachers again, parents should find ways to guide their children, find the cause and take countermeasures to let children trust the teacher again and eliminate the gap between teachers and students.
1. Let children experience it by playing games
Children like to play playing games, parents may wish to play with their children, let the children play the teacher, parents play the children.
Fang Fang's mother plays Fang Fang, when the teacher is in class, the mother deliberately talks to the same table, or suddenly stands up, or whispers herself, interrupting the order of the class several times. This made Fang Fang, who played the teacher, very angry, and she had to criticize her mother and ask her to concentrate on the class.
Through this playing game, Fang Fang was embarrassed, she knew that she was usually mischievous, which made the teacher have a headache, and she also experienced the teacher's mood when she got along with herself, and she began to understand the teacher.
2. Parents and teachers take the initiative to communicate
Children do not like the teacher, parents do not preconceived, and the teacher has hostile emotions, it is best to take the initiative to communicate with the teacher, listen to the teacher's evaluation of their own children, and then analyze the child's situation with the teacher, and discuss the way to implement.
Parents can also euphemistically request the teacher to give the child some attention appropriately, such as asking the child during class, and praising the child's good performance, which can enhance the emotions between teachers and students, so that the child can change the inherent impression of the teacher.
The teacher is the leader on the road to children's growth, whether the relationship between the child and the teacher is harmonious, whether the child likes the teacher, not only related to the child's academic performance, but also affects the child's mental health, so parents should pay attention to it.
When the child says that he does not like the teacher, parents should think calmly, find the reason, and communicate with the teacher in time to help the child eliminate the emotional gap with the teacher, close the distance with the teacher, so as to like the teacher again and like school.