Narrator: Zhao Xiaoxue
Last Sunday, my cousin came again, and this is the second time I have come. I also took two bags of fruit, a bag of apples and a bag of mandarins. This cousin-in-law is the daughter-in-law of her husband's second uncle. To be honest, I haven't been in touch for 11 years.
It is said that "poor do not go to relatives"! At first I didn't understand. But when I married my husband, I saw it completely.
My husband and I were introduced to one of my classmates, and we were both 30 years old when we met. My husband is highly educated and handsome, if it weren't for my father-in-law who is bedridden all the year round, I believe my husband would have another life.
As the eldest in the family, I wanted to take care of my parents more, so I chose to come back to my hometown.
When I first met my husband, I didn't think much about family conditions, and I only went for my husband's goodness. He is handsome, kind, highly educated, diligent, and reliable. But only the poor are poor, not only poor but also foreign debts. That's why he's 31 years old.
We have been dating for more than a year, and because we are older, it is natural for us to talk about marriage. At that time, the parents understood that it was not easy for their husbands to support the family, and they did not ask for the bride price, house, or three golds. My husband bought me a ring. My parents married me three golds and gave me 100,000 yuan as a dowry.
The wedding banquet was held at the husband's house. Didn't go to the hotel. There were a total of 13 tables of running water seats, thinking that I could save money by doing it at home, but the moment I saw the gift money, I was really shocked. 12 years ago, at that time, my husband's uncle, aunt, and aunt had 200 gifts, and there were still 100. Peers and neighbors are both 100, and there are 50.
Don't talk about the neighbors, people are here to cheer, and the amount of gift money is normal. But the elders' gift money is only 200 or 100, and I can't understand it.
Later, I slowly understood! I listened to my husband talk a lot about the past. In the past, the guild carpenter would also be an electrician. In fact, there was a craft that was quite popular at that time. At that time, the family could also be rich. Father-in-law and mother-in-law are kind and open-minded. In the early years, the houses of relatives were built with the help of parents-in-law.
Including my husband's two aunts' family, three uncles' families, one aunt's family, and my uncle's family. Either the in-laws contribute money and efforts. Either out of something, including the reinforced concrete ones. Most of them didn't spend any money, and even if they did, they spent a very small part of it.
My husband said that in those years, relatives often gathered at his house, and he didn't go empty-handed, and bought large bags and small bags.
But then my father-in-law had an accident and was too seriously injured. At that time, my mother-in-law asked them to borrow money, and they felt that it was difficult for their husband's family to turn over, so most of them did not borrow.
Only my husband's second uncle took 1,100 yuan. My husband's aunt took 1000. My uncle didn't borrow it. Fortunately, in the early years, my father-in-law lent a friend 20,000, and people knew that my father-in-law had an accident and so on, so they hurriedly sent it together.
After that, the relatives hid far away, for fear of borrowing money from them again. In the first year after marriage, it is customary to go to the elders' homes to pay New Year's greetings.
Although I was poor at that time, I didn't want my relatives to find fault with anything, so the gifts I prepared were all very good.
My husband and I walked around for a while, and only two parents were waiting for us to pay New Year's greetings at home. It's the second uncle's house and aunt's house. They gave me 100 yuan each. The rest were hidden, and they were all children at home. We put down our things and went back. To put it bluntly, I'm afraid that the 100 yuan will be given out in vain.
At that time, my husband and I were holding back our energy, and we must live a good life! Don't steam steamed buns to fight for breath. Isn't it just for people to fight for this breath! At least you can't make people look down, you have to be able to raise your head and be a man!
There were sick people at home, and they couldn't get out, so they began to study small trades. Later, life gradually got better. At that time, my husband was very diligent. Because the school I studied in college was good. Some people I know are also looking for my husband to make up for classes. Make-up high school courses. 150-200 blocks an hour. I go to give classes to other people's homes at night.
Later, once my husband and I went out to pick up the goods, the cargo station was a bit far away, and the tricycle we borrowed was the kind that could be ridden. But halfway through, it started to rain heavily, and the summer rain really came as soon as it was said. Scoop the same. I was 8 months pregnant with my daughter at the time.
My husband was afraid that I would get wet, so I thought I would find a place to hide. Not far away is the store room of my husband's cousin's house. This cousin-in-law is the daughter-in-law of her husband's second uncle. My cousin runs a barber shop.
I don't know this cousin well, but my husband often goes to fix a computer or something.
My husband took me to my cousin's shop. When we opened the door, my cousin thought it was cutting her hair. But when he saw us clearly, he said to his husband: You can hide under the eaves. The floor in the house is dirty and difficult to clean up.
At that time, my husband and I were very embarrassed, especially me, with a big belly, my clothes were soaked, and the water was running down my hair and body.
My husband wanted my cousin-in-law to find me a towel to wipe my hair. But after they finished speaking, they turned around and went upstairs. I dragged my husband out. I didn't hide under the eaves, and I went home in the heavy rain.
Along the way, I felt aggrieved and ashamed. I couldn't tell the difference between the rain and the tears on my face. Since then, she hasn't been to her house for anything.
However, every year during the Chinese New Year, my husband would bring gifts to his second uncle to pay New Year's greetings, remembering that he had helped his father-in-law through the difficulties. He hadn't been to his cousin's house for anything. It's just a courtesy. Her eldest daughter's college banquet is also a gift.
Over the years, through the efforts of my husband and I, our life has improved and we have bought a house. It's all there. In the past two years, my husband's relatives have also begun to come.
This cousin has been here twice recently. She wanted her husband to make up lessons for her youngest son, who was in high school. It is said that it is expensive to make up classes outside, and it is not good to preach.
I told my husband that her family's affairs would not be involved. I admit that I hold a grudge. Actually, I'm even more afraid that if my husband makes up the lessons, if her son doesn't do well in the exam, she will beat her again! I wonder if I'm thinking too much?
In fact, when it's okay, relatives can't see anything, and they all get by. Once you encounter something, whether it is a relative or a friend, it will always automatically filter out the one that is good for you!
However, the words left by the ancestors: "Poor don't leave relatives!" No problem!