With the opening of the second child, many families have also begun to plan the idea of having a second child, especially those whose first child is a girl, and they have the idea of having a son.
However, many parents ignore the impact of having a second child on the boss, and only hope to fulfill the wish of their children and daughters, but invisibly bring a lot of pressure to the boss.
After the death of both parents, the sister Li Lahei 18-year-old brother, netizens clapped their hands and applauded: well done!
My friend Xiaohong was born in such a more son-preference family, before due to the restrictions of the two-child policy, Xiaohong's parents did not consider having another one, but with the opening of the country's second child, Xiaohong's parents ignored the fact that Xiaohong was already in her teens and she was more than fifty years old, and began to excitedly plan to have a second child.
Even going around asking for medicine is to have a son. Xiaohong has clearly communicated with her parents, hoping that parents will give up the idea of having children, after all, parents are already old, if the child is born, the future parenting pressure also mainly falls on Xiaohong's shoulders.
So Xiaohong hopes that her parents will think about it again, but her parents are still bent on going their own way. Eventually she gave birth to a child.
After giving birth to the child, Xiaohong's mother became increasingly ill, and when the child was less than ten years old, her mother left due to illness.
Although his father is in good health, he can't do heavy work, so Xiaohong took on the responsibility of the whole family in her twenties. He even had to help his brother finish his studies.
I thought that my brother could understand his own pain and help himself to share a little more, but Xiaohong did not expect that his brother would take his own good for granted, and even the lion opened his mouth, the more the living expenses were, and he did not respect and understand her at all.
In the end, one of the triggers that overwhelmed Xiaohong was that Xiaohong's brother did not even come to his father's funeral, and Xiaohong was discouraged, directly blacked out his adult brother, and said that you would be self-reliant in the future.
As I listened to Xiaohong's red eyes tell this story, I could feel her grievances and helplessness in the patriarchal family, and finally the heartache of blackening her brother.
But I also believe that with Xiaohong's efforts, she will definitely have a better life.
I understand that most families want to have both children, but that shouldn't be a reason to ignore their daughters.
So what is the impact of parental eccentricity on children?
1. It leads to introversion of children and is prone to self-abandonment in personality
The child who is not noticed by his parents will often wonder whether he is not good enough to get the attention of his parents. The feeling of being ignored by those closest to you can lead to a child's distrust of the world.
Insecure, self-doubting, believing that you don't get the support and approval of your parents no matter what.
In the long run, children will form introverts, shy, unwilling to speak, and even give up on themselves during the rebellious period.
2. Affect the relationship between children
Originally, the reason why most families wanted to raise two children was that they felt that children could help each other.
But if the parents are partial to one side, it will lead to a bad relationship between the two children.
For the child who is ignored by the parents.
It is the other child who steals his attention and care, so he will have hatred and jealousy towards the child who is favored by his parents.
When you grow up, this emotion will only become more and more obvious, which is not conducive to the two children getting along.
3, favored children are easy to spoil and proud
Parents' bias towards their children will make children feel that they are doing everything right, cannot listen to the persuasion and guidance of others, and think that they are naturally the one who is favored, and it is easy to develop a pampered personality.
4, is a shadow that can not go out in a lifetime
If many children suffer from the influence of the family, then they may need to soothe their hearts for a lifetime, and those who are not favored are easy to close themselves and are very painful inside.
Those who are favored tend to develop a pampered personality, which also has a negative impact on the future.
Therefore, as a parent, you should treat your children equally and be even in a bowl of water, rather than favoring one person but ignoring other children.
summary:
For most parents, it is a very happy thing to have children around their knees in old age, which also leads to many parents having an obsession with having a second child, which is natural, but there are also some parents who have a second child, just to realize the idea of having a son here.
In such a family, patriarchy occurs from time to time. Children born in such a family are prone to introversion, insecurity, and cannot walk out of the shadows, hoping that all parents should understand that boys and girls are the same, and it is necessary to achieve a bowl of water flat, rather than a son preference.
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