You're as old as your first child. When you understand your baby's likes and dislikes, you evolve into a parent. When did she get hungry? Or what makes her feel comfortable before going to bed at night? And then as she grows, you keep learning – is she the kind of shy type that always finds it convenient to sit on your lap? Or is it naughty to go out and explore on your own? So, what is your role here? What is the role of a parent?
Understand the responsibilities of parents
"The responsibility of parenthood is even greater than that of the Prime Minister. As a parent, if you do something wrong, you can hurt your own children. ”
"The children we have, we cannot exempt from responsibility to them. They should be endowed with good values. ”
"As a parent, your duty should be to raise your child well and guide him on the right path. If he speaks disrespectfully to you and you do the same to him, he will become rebellious. Instead, you should sit down and explain things to him in a gentle and loving way. This is the primary role of parents in their children's lives. There should be a spiritual understanding behind all your actions. ”
"Once you've fulfilled your duty to educate them and give them good upbringing, you don't need to give them financial support when they're growing well."
Here are some practical ways to fulfill our duties as parents:
1. Clean all corners of life
Parents should know how to live. Don't just run after making money. Continue to take care of your health. Pay attention to your health, wealth, and your child's moral upbringing. All corners of life must be cleaned up.
You should sit down with your child every night, explain things to them, talk to them. All the kids need is a little hint. They already have cultural value, but they need to be prompted.
2. Parental sharing of responsibilities
Ideally, the child's responsibilities are discussed and shared among parents, and until the age of fourteen, the child needs more of the mother's love and attention. Let her take care of and decide about daily life. Fathers often need to be involved in life-impacting decisions, such as which school to get your child into, what profession to pursue, etc. After the age of fifteen, let the father play a leading role in the development of the child. This is the key role of fathers in child development.
A holistic approach to parenting: the combined role of responsible parenting
No excessive attention
This is the key role of parents in child development. Give your kids some chores or ask them to help you with business from a very young age so they value what they have and have a sense of ownership. Some parent types are too authoritative, always giving instructions and rules to their children, or overprotective always trying to please their children. Excessive attention can suffocate growing children. Let them fail; waste things and develop with their experiences.
Teach children to face life bravely
Butterflies that break out of their cocoons, strong in the face of the world; otherwise they will be paralyzed. Remember that even taking too much care of a child can cripple him. A little resistance and struggle turned out to be a blessing for the development of children's talents. Only in the face of adversity can children pave new paths to the peak of success. Teach children to face life and failure bravely. Always motivate your child before facing any challenge and never criticize any failure. Instead, ask them what lesson they've learned or how they'll do it next time.
One eye loves, the other eye is harsh
Sometimes, children go astray because of their parents' provocations. So, make everything work fine. One eye remains loving, the other eye remains strict. Strictness doesn't hurt others too much; anger can do a lot of harm. Harshness does not mean anger, but rather "blowing off the heat". You have to say everything, but dramatically. What is considered drama? That means pulling on the chains of calm and then showing anger.
When to encourage and when not to encourage
This parental role can be a tricky one. One father was pleased when his son pulled on his moustache. "Look at him, he's pulling my beard!" He said. If you let him do whatever he wants and you don't say anything to the child, he will never know that it is wrong. Children look for knowledge by observing the reactions of each event. If nothing else is being done, then just give it a gentle squeeze and let the child realize that he has done something wrong. He will gain knowledge that "this kind of behavior I am doing is wrong." No one should be hit; just a handful is enough.
So he should know that whenever he pulls up the moustache, he gets a pinch. If you encourage him to say "fine, I have a wonderful son", then he will be encouraged and then he will pull more next time! Every time he did something wrong, explain it to him that it was wrong. He should be aware of this. Otherwise, he will believe that what he is doing is right. That's why he ended up on the wrong path. Therefore, you should tell the child.
If you do a good deed, you have to praise him. Where should he be photographed? In the back you will pat someone else on the back! Then his ego is encouraged. Therefore, he will do a good job again. The toddler's ego is in a latent state. The self exists, but it is still compressed. As the child grows older, it sprouts. As long as you don't feed his ego unnecessarily, a child will only be a good person. If his ego doesn't get food from you, then the child will be indoctrinated with excellent values