Since January this year, the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education has been officially implemented, and family education has been upgraded from "family affairs" to "state affairs".
Family style is a family atmosphere that is continuously formed by the family, and good family education is a good family atmosphere for children to grow up. On the afternoon of March 8, the Fujian Family Planning Association launched a live broadcast of the theme of "Building a Happy Family with Heavy Family Style Tutoring" to guide parents to understand good family style, attach importance to family education, and promote family harmony and happiness.
expert:
Zheng Jie, President of Fujian Family Education Research Association
National second-level psychological counselor Ke Yuanyuan
According to statistics, as of now
The number of people who watched and reviewed this live broadcast online
It has exceeded 280,000 people
Let's take a look at the experts
Share the dry goods
What is Good Home Style?
At the beginning of the live broadcast, Zheng Jie guided everyone to think about how to establish a good family style through the stories of The Fujian literary artist Bing Xin and his daughter Wu Qing, who are very familiar to everyone.
In 1995, the Complete Works of Bingxin was published, and Bingxin unreservedly donated 90,000 yuan to the "Rural Hundred Things Magazine", thus establishing the Rural Women's Education and Development Fund to help women in poor rural areas.
Daughter Wu Qing is unforgettable after witnessing it with her own eyes, she inherited the will of Bingxin and devoted herself to public welfare. Later, he won the "Asian Nobel Prize" - "Philippine Magsaysay Public Service Award". This is the role of good family style in family education and children's growth.
"Make rules" for your child
The first step in building a good home style
Ke Yuanyuan pointed out: to make rules for children, first of all, the family (parents) should establish consistent values, if the family is compared to a car, the values are GPS (navigation system). Secondly, explain to the child what the rules of the family are, such as not lying, reading picture books, telling stories and other scenes every day, and guide the child to identify what is lying. The third is to formulate an execution plan, and if you lie, how you will be punished.
Kindness and kindness
Grasp the degree of "making rules"
The Law on the Promotion of Family Education mentions that family education should be kind and strict. Ke Yuanyuan said that kindness is not the same as laissez-faire freedom, each child has its own characteristics, and parents should be "strict" on the basis of full tolerance.
Strict rule is divided into two parts: one is trustworthiness, the values in the hearts of parents, to be consistent with the behavior, can not tell the child that the family style is not to say dirty words, but they often blurt out their daily life. The second is to keep promises and punishments for children, and punish them if they break through. You can't be untrustworthy because your child is small or if you are in a bad mood for a while, which will damage your child's mind.
Ordinary people can also be
Role model for children
Some people feel that they are just an ordinary person, can this give their children a good family style education? Ke Yuanyuan believes that as a parent, you must be good at discovering your own value. Such as full-time mothers, good at cooking is also an important value, can make a good table of meals, either is talented, or good at learning, or is organized and coordinated, parents should be good at seeing their own value from ordinary small things, the same is true for children.
For example, Zheng Jie said that in the playground, children are often seen playing and parents looking down at their mobile phones. In fact, parents can pay more attention to their children, see if the children are playing right, good or not, which games can be played better, on the one hand, to improve the quality of accompanying children, on the other hand, from the action to children not addicted to mobile phones and other electronic products demonstration.
Something more important than academic performance
- Leave a blank space for life
Nowadays, the "chicken baby" is flourishing, and in this regard, Zheng Jie uses the family style story of Fujian mathematician Chen Jingrun and his son to tell the importance of leaving blank space for life.
Chen Jingrun only sleeps an average of four hours a day, but he squeezes out time to play with his son. What is even more precious is that he follows the nature of the child. When he was a child, Chen Jingrun's son went to a math class, the child was very smart, he could solve additional problems, the only problem was the lack of interest, and later Chen Jingrun let the child learn the trumpet of interest. Chen Jingrun's son grew up and said he would always remember his father's influence on him.
This brings us to a topic:
Don't project your ideals onto your children
Smart parents
Skillfully coordinate the relationship between play and learning
At present, the "double reduction" of school education, in Zheng Jie's view, is to leave a blank for life. The reduced extracurricular time allows children to improve themselves in the process of playing.
How children learn and harvest in the process of playing needs to be guided by parents. Parents can learn from Chen Jingrun, observe their children's interests, and carry out targeted training.
Also, tap into the shining points in your child's career ideals and guide them. Ke Yuanyuan said for example, for example, the child said "I want to be a takeaway brother", do not rush to deny, do not blindly praise "awesome", but guide the child to think: If you are a takeaway brother, in a short period of time to take 3 orders, how to quickly coordinate the route?
The best education is by example
The third story Zheng Jie told comes from the Fujian literary scholar Lin Yutang. After Lin Yutang was admitted to a well-known university, Father Lin had no money to pay tuition, and when he raised money everywhere, someone sent tuition, which turned out to be a poor friend that Father Lin helped many years ago, and now he gives back to him. One day, after successfully completing his studies, Lin Yutang took his daughter for a walk in the garden, saw the spider and said: "We can't look down on any small life, every life has value."
Ke Yuanyuan believes that this is not only Lin Yutang's feelings about watching over each other, but also expressing his reverence for nature. In parenting, nature is very important. Man is easily healed from nature, and if children do not have the opportunity to read everything, there is no soil for innovation.
Teach you a few praise kids skills
How is a child's self-confidence built? It is a concern for many parents.
Ke Yuanyuan said that to praise the child, we must first recognize what characteristics the child has, but do not label the characteristics. If a child participates in an activity and has a nervous heartbeat before going on stage, is it timid? No, parents can guide their children, and this rapid heartbeat as a drum of war has a different impact on the child's state. In the long run, the child's self-confidence is built.
To praise children, the second is to praise the idea.
Zheng Jie for example: The child comes back from school and says, "I feel that I have achieved nothing", and the parents can say "you have made a lot of efforts, you are very demanding of yourself", rather than generally boasting.
The growth of children is related to the future of a family, and even more related to the future of the motherland, and there is no era that parents need to learn like today. This is also one of the original intentions of the Fujian Family Planning Association to hold a series of expert interview programs.
Next, in order to further do a good job in the popularization of health knowledge and effectively improve the health literacy of the broad masses of the people, we will continue to put the lectures of the above experts on the Fujian Health News and the WeChat public account of Bamin Fertility Care for everyone to review.
Organization of events
Guiding unit: Fujian Family Planning Association
Organizer: Fujian Health News
Fujian Health Daily all-media reporter: Lin Xiaodan
Live broadcast team: Zhou Qianyi, Chen Changye, Su Weide, Zhang Liqiang, Chen Xiang
Source: Fujian Health News