Regarding how to implement family education, the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education lists 9 methods, the ninth of which is a bottom-up clause, so in fact, there are 8 methods. This was written into law after soliciting the opinions of the most authoritative family education experts in the country, and strictly follows the basic laws of family education.
Don't be intimidated by this long 8 methods, in fact, we can divide into three parts to interpret and learn.
The first part is based on the current widespread problems, that is, the first two articles; the second part is based on the laws and characteristics of family education itself, that is, the third article to the sixth article; the third part is based on respecting and protecting the rights of children, that is, the seventh and eighth articles.
Proposed methods for the widespread problems of the present
1. Personally raise and strengthen parent-child companionship
This provision addresses the problem of insufficient time for parent-child companionship, especially the low quality of companionship.
Some parents are busy with work and career, directly handing over their children to grandparents or grandparents, unable to raise them themselves, and spending particularly little time with their children. Some parents spend a lot of time with their children, but the quality of companionship is not high, and even mistakenly equate accompaniment with accompaniment. Although they sit next to their children, they are busy with their own work, the children read picture books and play games by themselves, and the parents either play mobile phones or busy with work.
Either way, it is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. Family education is based on the educational relationship of intimacy, and a very important principle is that parents should be with their children. The length of time spent is a factor, but more important is the quality of companionship, which every parent can learn and do.
Correct the concept, accompany the process must have a companion, to actively interact with the child. For example, you can play games with your children, you enter and I retreat, you throw me to pick up; read picture books together, you read me and listen, I play you guess; watch movies together, talk while watching, and then talk after watching.
Respond effectively to your child's emotional needs and ask as many questions as possible, rather than having your child sing a monologue. For example, when a child encounters setbacks when fighting Lego, parents should encourage and assist in solving problems; when children read picture books, they ask many questions, and parents should answer them in time, and they should answer in a way that children can understand.
Put down electronics, put down work, and be fully with your kids. For example, set a fixed parent-child companionship time, do not make other arrangements, and specially accompany the child; do not play mobile phones for 24 hours, do handicrafts with the child, and play football on the grass together.
Learn effective companionship methods and find the most suitable companionship method for your child. Taking parent-child reading as an example, many parents know that this is a good way to accompany, but there is also a lot of exquisiteness in wanting to do a good job.
For example, the choice of reading materials is in accordance with the child's development law, 3 to 4 years old need to draw a little more, 4 to 6 years old to listen to a more plot; for example, the way of parent-child reading should also be designed according to the characteristics of the child, parents read to the child, the child read to the parents, parents and children together to role play, and so on.
2. Participate together and give play to the role of both parents
The direction of this article is also very clear, aiming at the current widespread widowhood of parenting, especially the lack of fathers. So, here's how fathers can better participate in homeschooling.
There are many reasons for the absence of fathers, such as the traditional concept of male and female protagonists, the social expectation that men must have a successful career, and the speed and speed of men and women entering the role of parents due to different experiences, and so on. To do this, we need the right medicine.
The most basic point is "existence". First of all, we must change our concepts, do not feel that having and raising children is a matter for mothers, and has nothing to do with themselves, which is the common responsibility of both husband and wife, and they are indispensable. Then increase your sense of existence through practical actions.
Actively participate in the wife's pregnancy from the beginning of pregnancy, accompany the wife to the obstetric examination, talk to the fetus, prepare the necessary needs for the upcoming child, and learn the necessary knowledge and skills for new fathers. After the birth of the child, it is easier to cultivate deep parent-child feelings by changing the child's diaper with his wife, accompanying the child to get up at night, etc., to participate in the important growth process of the child, especially in some difficult moments.
The most important point is the "difference". Give full play to the strengths of men in child-rearing, such as establishing rules and establishing order, so that children feel the majesty of their fathers, and cooperate with the mother's love to achieve balanced education. For example, take children to do some exploratory games, such as lifting high, competitive football, etc., to cultivate children's exploration ability and adventurous spirit, so that children can communicate with the outside world with a more open mind.
In addition to the father's active efforts, the mother must also actively cooperate. The mother who is pregnant in October is more likely to adapt to the new identity than the father who is watching the whole time, and the attention to the child is also higher, and she wants to do everything herself, afraid that the father will not be good, and push the father to the door of family education through rejection, denial and other means.
Therefore, if you want your father to be more involved, your mother must learn to let go. Give fathers the opportunity to participate and trial and error, help them better adapt to the role of fathers, encourage them when they make achievements, support them when they encounter difficulties, and constantly enhance their sense of responsibility and honor as fathers.
In this way, they will be more willing to pay and have more confidence to participate, and finally realize that parents can participate in family education together and help their children grow up healthily.
The proposed method is based on the laws and characteristics of family education itself
Family education is a kind of non-institutionalized education, a kind of life education, and an education that can be carried out anytime and anywhere. The methodological guidance from Articles 3 to 6 is based on this characteristic of family education. Today we will focus on article VI.
Respect differences and provide scientific guidance according to age and personality characteristics
This is the fundamental law that parents should adhere to in implementing family education, and it is also an important law for eradicating the problem of improper teaching in family education. In fact, this is the same as what we often say about teaching according to one's ability.
On the one hand, the growth of children has its own scientific laws, parents must understand the different characteristics and needs of children at different stages, know when to learn what, when not to learn.
Neither can it be promoted by pulling up seedlings, such as excessive early education, causing children to lose interest in learning, laying the foundation for future boredom; nor can it be too lagging behind, such as only focusing on grades when cultivating learning habits, and missing the best period for cultivating good habits.
On the other hand, each child is a unique individual, with its own characteristics and needs. Parents can not compare other people's children to demand their own children, nor can they take the so-called inspirational stories as a template for their own children's growth, but they must really see their children, see what he is good at, explore his strengths and strengths; see what he needs, meet his needs, and solve his confusion.
Approach proposed based on respect for and protection of children's rights
Good family education must be based on a good parent-child relationship, and a good parent-child relationship is based on equal communication and mutual learning between parents and children.
1. Communicate on an equal footing, with respect, understanding and encouragement
At the heart of equal communication is that parents treat their children as an individual, not as an appendage or possession of their parents.
Parents must allow their children to speak and express their opinions; to participate in family activities, to lead or assist. Show respect for your child's ideas, understand their behavior, and encourage them to propose in a timely manner.
When educating children, don't say things like, "I'm your dad, you just listen to me." "You're still young, what do you know about adults?" "You can't do it or you can't do it, I'll just make up my mind for you, you don't have to care."
2. Promote each other, parents and children grow together
This is the requirement of parents in the new era, and it is also an important method that parents must master in the new era.
In the information age, the knowledge mastered by children is not less than that of parents, the learning ability is not worse than that of parents, some new things, children know earlier than their parents, the latest mobile phones, preschool children are learning faster than their parents. Obviously, we have reached a post-metaphorical era when parents want to learn from their children.
Therefore, parents can no longer be complacent, nor can they educate their children with the idea of "I have eaten more salt than you have traveled", but need to learn from children with a more open attitude, and constantly improve their scientific literacy, knowledge reserves and parenting ability in mutual promotion, so that they can cope with more and more confusion and problems of children, especially children's problems in modern society, such as more and more serious children's psychological problems, and eventually grow into qualified parents in the new era.
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