In family education, many people believe that how to cultivate an excellent child is a compulsory course for parents.
But many people don't know that this is an elective.
How to be a good parent is a compulsory course for every parent.
Parents are the lifelong teachers of their children, and their words and deeds are subtly influencing their children.
Good parents must do the following 3 things.
First thing:
Establish a harmonious parent-child relationship
Now many parents have such doubts in education:
Why is parent-child relationship better than all education?
Some parents even feel that the parent-child relationship is not important, as long as the child has good grades, can be admitted to a good university, find a good job, and have a good future.
But in fact, in the process of a person's education, the biggest impact on children is the parents, not the school.
Schools teach children knowledge, skills, etc., while families teach children emotions, self-esteem, self-confidence...
Therefore, the importance of establishing a harmonious parent-child relationship for the growth of children is self-evident.
Give your child high-quality companionship
Children need to be accompanied, if parents are always busy with work and ignore the child, then in the child's growth process, personality will be affected to a certain extent.
Therefore, parents must pay attention to the companionship of their children, achieve high-quality accompaniment of their children, give the lead to their children, listen to their children more, play with their children more, and respond to their children more.
Be more respectful and encourage your child
Children from babbling to growing up, need more respect and encouragement from parents.
Parents should understand that "love and acceptance" is a necessary nutrient in the process of children's growth, so they should pay attention to their children's problems and listen to their children's inner voices.
If you love your child, respect him, accept him, and encourage him.
Parents should set an example for their children
Parents' words and deeds have a profound impact on the cultivation of children's personality and the formation of values.
Because children prefer to imitate, and the most favorite imitation is the parents.
Parents want their children to become what kind of person, they must strive to become that kind of person, which is also conducive to promoting parent-child relationship.
Please remember that a good parent-child relationship is more important than any education.
Second thing:
Pay attention to the cultivation of children's good habits
Napoleon Hill said:
"Sow an action and you will reap a habit; sow a habit and you will reap a character; sow a character, and you will reap a destiny."
The power of habit is enormous, and once a habit is formed, one will unconsciously run on this track.
Good habits are used for a lifetime; on the contrary, bad habits are harmful to a lifetime.
Childhood is the initial stage of a person's life, and it is also a critical period for the formation of various habits.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to the cultivation and edification of children's good habits, including learning habits, living habits, and treatment habits.
Develop study habits
Cultivating good learning habits from an early age is very important for children's learning.
Parents should cultivate these learning habits as soon as possible:
The habit of self-study and pre-study, the habit of concentrating on class, the habit of active thinking, the habit of daring to question, the habit of sorting out notes, the habit of reviewing after class, the habit of completing homework independently, the habit of insisting on reading and practicing words...
Cultivate lifestyle habits
A good lifestyle habit can accompany a child throughout his life.
Good living habits include hygiene habits, eating habits, labor habits, and so on.
These habits need to be cultivated bit by bit in their children's daily lives, so that children can learn to do their own things and learn to do housework.
Develop the habit of treating others
Treat people habits is also interpersonal communication habits, adhering to good communication habits, in order to be able to navigate the interpersonal process.
Cultivating children's habits of treating others requires parents to pay attention to them, and parents should cultivate them as soon as possible.
5 good habits of interpersonal communication, remember: sincerity, trust, restraint, confidence, enthusiasm.
The formation of habits is not achieved overnight, but a superposition of micro-habits, which requires the patient guidance of parents.
Third thing:
Appropriately "force" the child
We all know that this era is an era of academic certification.
As Zhang Xuefeng, a famous teacher at the Graduate School, said in "The Speaker": "The world's top 500 companies say that academic qualifications are not important, but if you are not a famous university graduate, they don't want you!" ”
Therefore, parents and teachers have warned their children as people who have come over, you must study well and study seriously, so that you will have more choices in the future.
However, children feel that learning is difficult, every day they get up early to go to school, teachers of various subjects take turns, and the homework assigned has to be completed one by one... Therefore, there is no willingness to learn.
At this time, we must let children understand that learning is a responsibility, and the way of studying hard is the most beautiful gesture of youth.
However, due to the child's lack of self-awareness, parents should appropriately "force" the child.
Set rules early and strictly enforce them
There are no children who are born to love to learn, only parents who know how to guide.
At this time, parents need to set rules for their children first, and implement this rule without moving.
It is best to be precise in the rules, such as when to complete homework and when to watch TV.
Appropriate provisions for rewards and punishments can stimulate children's interest in learning.
Let the child feel the achievement of learning
Sometimes the child loses interest in learning because learning brings him only frustration.
Therefore, parents should appropriately let their children feel the achievements brought by learning and experience the joy of learning.
When the child is learning, you can start with the simple, when the child is finished, parents should know how to affirm and praise in time.
Parents should learn with their children
The child's ability to imitate is very strong.
At school, they often follow the example of their teachers; at home, they follow the example of their parents.
If parents want their children to fall in love with learning, they must pay attention to their words and deeds.
A parent who likes to read must have a child who loves to learn. Therefore, parents should lead by example and be a person who loves learning.
Please remember: parents with vision are a little desperate.
You force your child now, and he will be grateful to you for the rest of your life.
Behind every outstanding child, there stands a pair of powerful parents.
Educating children is the most important cause of parents, and parents must know how to correctly educate their children, so that children will become more and more outstanding.
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