On January 1, 2022, the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education was officially implemented. Most people know the "Family Education Promotion Law", should have seen the "Family Education Instructor" advertisement, right?
How can the implementation of a law only appear in advertisements? The parents of Xiao Wu, a 15-year-old teenager in Yangzhou, received a family education order issued by the court.
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Xiao Wu, a 15-year-old teenager, in order to seek excitement, drove a motorcycle in the urban area, and at a general speed, hit a tricycle parked on a zebra crossing, and the tricycle was knocked out 13 meters away, and the front of the car was seriously damaged.
Xiao Wu, and the tricycle driver, 64-year-old Chen, were sent to the hospital for treatment, Xiao Wu was not in danger of life, but Chen was not rescued.
Watching Xiao Wu's motorcycle in the video, it is really flying like a flash, when I intercepted this video, I repeated it several times before I intercepted this clip.
According to post-event estimates, Xiao Wu's speed can reach 81 to 88 kilometers per hour, which has exceeded 60%.
In the mainland, you can only apply for a motorcycle license after 18 years old, Xiao Wu obviously drives without a license, and the motorcycle he drives is also suspected of decking.
After the incident, Chen's family and Xiao Wu's family did not negotiate the amount of compensation, sued the court, and finally the court found that Xiao Wu bore all the responsibility, and the compensation was paid by the guardian.
During the trial, it was found that Xiao Wu had lived with her grandparents for a long time, her parents were busy with work and neglected discipline, and Xiao Wu often drove out to drag racing by herself and ran into trouble.
The reason why Xiao Wu is like this is very much related to the lack of parents' family education. Therefore, in addition to determining the liability for compensation, the court also issued a family education order, ordering Xiao Wu's parents to perform their guardianship responsibilities and fulfill their guardianship obligations in accordance with the law.
According to public information, the limitation period of the Family Education Order is 1 year, and after the expiration of the 1 year, the relevant departments will conduct an assessment, and the results are as follows:
First, if the obligor fully performs the relevant duties of the Family Education Order, the Family Education Order will become invalid;
Second, if the obligor does not meet the requirements of the Family Education Order, the period of the Family Education Order will be extended;
Third, if the obligor has not changed or even intensified, the obligor will apply to the court by the relevant unit in accordance with the Family Education Order to pursue the relevant legal responsibilities of the obligor.
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As soon as Xiao Wu's incident came out, it caused heated discussion among netizens. Some people lament the fragility of life, and some people call for Xiao Wu to be held responsible.
▼▼▼ The words of this netizen made me very emotional. He said that most of the families with such children are not rich, but they have raised their children to their ancestors.
It cannot be denied that there are many children similar to Xiao Wu now, they have lived with grandparents/grandparents since they were young, while their parents are working outside and meet with their children once or twice a year.
Especially for families with average or even difficult families, it is even more necessary to make a trade-off between accompanying children and making money to support their families, and they cannot hold their children if they move bricks, and they cannot move bricks and cannot afford to raise children.
Even in the cognition of many people, children do not need family education, just send them to school.
Educating children is a matter of school, aren't we like this when we are young, where do parents have time to manage, different when they grow up and do not take a crooked road?
Children live with grandparents, because grandparents are older, unable to discipline children, the methods used are simple and rude, rarely can respect the child's personality, children lack a healthy growth environment, the ability to distinguish between right and wrong is weak, it is easy to go astray.
I've seen a news story about a gang of minors stealing motorcycles, two kids under 13 and a kid under 14.
All 3 of them are students in school, but they don't go to school or go home for a long time, and their parents don't know what they are doing.
These 3 children are very "dashing" to live, eat and drink on the Internet when they have money, steal motorcycles and sell them when they have no money, and step by step embark on the road of crime.
The lack of family education is really a very real and very common problem.
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Former U.S. President Barack Obama, in a Father's Day speech that year, said the following set of research results:
Children who grow up without a father are 5 times more likely to fall into poverty or crime in the future than ordinary children, 9 times more likely to abandon school in the future, and 20 times more likely to enter prison in the future.
Such people may have many problems, and even run away from home, or even get pregnant before marriage.
Children who lack the company of their fathers can have so many problems, not to mention the lack of parents.
The matter of family education sounds very complicated, and it is no wonder that the Internet is flooded with advertisements for "family education instructors".
As a licensee to a family education instructor, I think that homeschooling is actually not so difficult.
You don't have to be an education expert, you have to know all kinds of child developmental psychology in order to teach your own children well (of course, it's better to understand).
Because many so-called professional knowledge and useful psychological methods are actually summarized on the basis of the laws of child development.
For example, children at different ages, there will be a sensitive period of development, a critical period, will enter a rebellious period, knowing these concepts, may allow you to better understand the child's behavior, you can have a better way to cope and guide.
However, even if you don't understand, as long as you can start from the perspective of respecting the child, you can bring a good child.
Why do children rebel? If he wants to be his own master, then give him some free space, as long as it is harmless, does not violate public order and good customs, and does not harm social morality, let the child make his own decisions!
The freedom to have principles and a bottom line, so that children have a sense of accomplishment of being their own masters, and clarify the bottom line and principles of doing things, where to use such a profound theory?
The "Family Education Promotion Law" also clarifies that family education should meet the requirements, and the first and second articles have two big words: respect.
Respect the laws of minors' physical and mental development and individual differences; respect the personal dignity of minors, protect minors' privacy rights and personal information, and safeguard minors' lawful rights and interests;
Finally, I would like to say that for responsible parents, they all hope to accompany their children to grow up and educate their children well.
However, if you are really forced to be helpless and cannot accompany your child at all times, it does not mean that you can miss the growth of your child.
Now the communication is very developed, often with the child video phone, chat with the child is not difficult to do.
Physical distance may be difficult to overcome, but psychological distance can be narrowed from time to time.