We have said many times about child rebellion, especially around adolescence, and there is no rebellious period at all. The only reason why the child will rebel is that his mental strength is congenitally weak. So you will find grumpy, adolescent rebellious... Not all children will appear, only those who are not born with strong mental strength will appear!
Why do we say that? The reason is simple, the heart, as the only engine of the human body, determines the function of all physiological organs of the human body. It can be said that from human physiology to human essence, qi, and spirit, almost all of them are controlled by mental power. Once the heart power declines, your brain's learning ability, the body's anti-allergic ability, anti-viral ability, and qi and blood circulation ability will all decline. As a result, all kinds of psychophysical problems will be displayed, such as fear of heights, headache, dizziness, cold fear, fear of wind, chest tightness, panic, palpitations, ghost press, Ge You's paralysis, memory loss, short temper...
The so-called adolescent rebellion period is also this truth, there is no adolescent rebellion period, the children who are manifested as the adolescent rebellion period are actually born with weak mental development, and it is estimated that the congenital is 60-70 points. Then, with the increase of age, due to the increase in family environment and learning pressure, constantly exhausting its mental strength, in short, even the poor 60 points can not be saved, the mental strength continues to slide, and finally the child can not hold on, there will be grumpiness and the so-called adolescent rebellious period.
In short, the child will have adolescent rebellion, in fact, his mental strength has been overdrawn, declining, and finally erupting out of the results. Some parents love their children, they like to count down their children all day long, and then report various study classes and interest classes, but they do not know that the more parents care about their children, the more they love their children, the more their hearts are hurt, and the result is that this child is either rebellious or completely depressed.
In fact, no child is willing to have poor grades, willing to be scolded by teachers, willing to be scolded by parents, but his innate mental strength and mental development are weak, resulting in the difficulty of learning the day after tomorrow, and finally can only give up completely. Children with congenital brain nerve cell learning function with high development are very easy to learn, and even often ask questions that make teachers feel difficult, which is the legendary school bully. On the contrary, those who are born with weak brain nerve cell function, the more hard they study the brain nerve, the more unlucky they are, and eventually become neurosis or neurasthenia.
A child with ordinary congenital mental and mental development will go to school, the more difficult he will be, and the more bored he is. In the end, going to school became sad, brain-hurting, and scum;
A child with strong innate mental and mental development will go to school, the more progressive he is, and the more he likes it. In the end, going to school became a strong heart, a strong brain, and a bully.
Of course, this innate gap in brain neurodevelopmental function may not be too obvious in the primary and junior high school stages, and after high school, the gap will widen significantly and rapidly. Although the child is studying hard every day, he just can't remember it, because his brain nerve learning ability is generally developed.
Moreover, children with congenital mental and mental development, the higher the usual test scores, the more sequelae will be displayed. For example, people with neurasthenia, this is the congenital heart and brain power of the child, desperately study hard, the later serious damage to the heart and brain performance. Even if this kind of child is admitted to Tsinghua and Peking University, it is useless, because he will completely lose his ability to innovate after entering the workplace, and he basically has no value to the enterprise.
Many parents like to send their children to elite schools, thinking that their children's grades depend on elite schools. In fact, children's grades mainly rely on mental and mental strength, and there is no necessary relationship with school. To know that a teacher has to take 30 to 60 students, to change so many homework every day, how much do you think a teacher can play a role in children's academic performance? If you do not accept these words and continue to force the child to read to the death and read hard, this will have a strong pressure on the child's heart and brain power, and quickly damage the child's heart and brain power. Once the heart and brain power are damaged, it in turn leads to a decline in the child's academic performance, and eventually falls into a dead cycle.
A child with a congenital mental and mental strength of 90 points only needs 10 seconds to do a math problem; a child with a congenital mental and mental strength of 70 points takes 10 minutes to do a math problem. The same classroom, the same textbook, the same teacher class, why do some children go to Tsinghua and Peking University? Why don't some children even have three books? The real reason is clear at a glance.
So, are you still reporting to your child for this cram class, that cram class, this early education class, that early education class, hoping not to let your child lose at the starting line? You can report, but not more than two, to the child to enroll more than two classes, you will only get two results: the first is to spend money in vain, the second is to greatly damage the child's mental strength. Then, the child will have all kinds of problems: fear of heights, social syndrome, dense phobia, grumpiness, irritability, loud voice, suspiciousness, cowardice, timidity, cleanliness, perfectionism, obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression (developed from anxiety disorders)... Of course, if you're sure your kids are geniuses, that's a different story!
So, the child's congenital mental strength and mental development are insufficient, what should be done? Children are born with poor development, do not worry, nutritionists recommend that you do the following three aspects:
1. Usually pay attention to giving the child more nutrition to strengthen the heart and supplement the brain, so that his heart and brain energy has been improved. In the past, I only emphasized nutrition and strengthening the heart, but later found that it is also necessary to nourish the brain, because insufficient brain power will be more exhausting.
2. Scientifically look at children's academic performance. Children with congenital mental and mental development deficiencies, in the period from primary school to the second year of high school, it is best not to exceed 80 points in the usual test score. In this way, keep enough mental and mental strength to explode in the third year of high school.
3, the correct treatment of children's learning ability, the so-called "natural I will be useful" - many children in the field of learning is not good, does not mean that other fields can not be. This requires parents to pay more attention to their children and teach according to their aptitudes.