【Parent-child relationship】The appearance of each child is the upbringing of the original family

The child's behavior is a mirror of the family, what kind of causes are planted, what kind of fruit will be produced, and the child hides the truest character of the parents.

When many people are eager to show off their wealth through famous bags, watches, and sports cars, they do not know that teaching a cultured child is the highest level of ostentation.

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To see if a child is educated, the details of his usual work will be clear at a glance.

Some time ago, when I went to a family gathering of a friend, I met a strange child. Friends have been busy for this party, when it is time to eat, everyone sits at the table, friends bring dishes to the plate, 2 people go to set up handles, and others are waiting for them while chatting.

During this period, there was a child who had been tapping on the dishes with chopsticks, constantly complaining to his mother that he was hungry, that it was not fun here, and that the clanging sound really affected everyone.

At this time, my friend brought a plate of roast chicken legs, and he shouted: Mommy, I want to eat chicken thighs!!!

His mother, despite the fact that everyone else was still waiting for the master to take a seat, stood up and helped the child clip a chicken leg, while explaining: Children are like this, you see the smile!

When the friend heard it, he hit the round field and said, "It's okay, the child is growing up, eat more." ”

The child said to his mother that he wanted to watch TV while eating, and his mother clipped a bowl of dishes for him to watch TV, and the child did not make any noise, and the mother was at ease to eat and chat with everyone.

After eating, everyone went to the living room to find that her child had made a mess of the coffee table and was covered with vegetable soup, and the child's mother smiled and took a rag to wipe the table, while saying: The child is still young, I don't understand things, I just wipe it.

After the whole process, the child's mother kept wiping the child's ass and playing round, and she did not feel that it was inappropriate, and always felt that the child was still young.

However, no matter how young the child is, he will always grow up.

At that meal, the friend's relative was still very happy, and he was unaware of the strange eyes of others.

No one will tell you that your child is rude.

But everyone will hate your children.

The child's behavior is a mirror of the family, what kind of causes are planted, what kind of fruit will be produced, and the child hides the truest character of the parents. When many people are eager to show off their wealth through famous bags, watches, and sports cars, they do not know that a cultured child has become the highest level of ostentation.

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Some time ago, I had dinner at a restaurant with friends.

At the next table, there were several adults leading three children, and it seemed that three families were having dinner.

One of the middle-aged women with heavy makeup put the bag with a huge LOGO in the most conspicuous position on the table, while stuffing rice, while speaking excitedly, the voice was strangely loud, and several nearby tables had to be forced to listen to her various things to buy and buy, and the words were full of superiority.

Beside her, a little boy of about eight years old, constantly climbing up and down, playing with the turntable on the table as a toy, seeing that no one stopped it, turning more and more hi, the turntable spun faster and faster, and the teapot on the turntable slipped out, scalding a lady who was eating together next to her.

The crowd was in a commotion, everyone was anxious to call 120, and the mother who was dancing with flying eyebrows finally stopped and said quietly: "Turning on the kettle is sliding out by itself, this is not our business at all." ”

People suddenly think of a sentence, children are good children, but what kind of mother teaches what kind of children.

Your upbringing is hidden in your most real life, and the child is the highest embodiment of your own upbringing.

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Seeing such a story on the Internet is very infuriating.

A woman with a child got on the bus, and the migrant worker sitting on the seat saw the situation and quickly got up to give way.

It was a good thing, but I didn't expect this middle-aged woman to pull the child over and yelled: "It's not rare for you to give up your seat, full of bacteria." ”

At that time, the atmosphere was very awkward, and the migrant workers silently got off the bus at the next station.

Seeing this scene, in addition to the special group of migrant workers who are full of heartache, I am even more distressed by the children around the mother.

The cultivation of parents is the upbringing of children, as a mother of a child, their words and deeds make the migrant workers embarrassed and chilled.

Not only did she despise the migrant workers in her own harsh language, but she also instilled this consciousness into her children.

Let this child know from an early age that migrant workers are inferior, dirty, and will get sick if they are close.

This mother not only allowed herself to be despised, but also measured the kindness and love of others with her own twisted heart.

It also instills false consciousness into the child, sowing the seeds of nobility and inferiority in the child's young mind.

Parents are like molds, children are like mud, what parents are, and the children who are shaped are often what they are.

CCTV once made a documentary "Mirror", which has a child's confession that is difficult to forget:

I am a mirror, my face, that can reflect how faithful I am to my parents, both outwardly and internally, and how similar they are to them.

The cultivation of parents indicates the future upbringing of children.

The appearance of each child is the upbringing of the original family.

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Remembering a small story, the mother crab said to the little crab: "Child, why do you always climb horizontally, why don't you go straight?" The little crab replied grievously, "Mother, I am walking like you." ”

Yes, child, the one who walks on our footprints.

The little boy's impolite behavior had something to do with the habits of his friends and relatives.

After eating with her, I found that as long as it was her favorite dish, she usually sandwiched a lot, although the mouth kept praising her for learning to be skilled, but it could not hide her possessive posture.

The whole table, only her desk was a mess, soup bone tissue.

This is really the same as the little boy's work in the living room.

The so-called family education, parenting also raises oneself.

A child is born like a blank piece of paper, and all the works drawn on this paper come from your hand. If you write carefully and draw carefully, then the child presents a beautiful picture; and if you smear it at will and scribble it, then the child presents a dirty piece of waste paper.

The evaluation of the quality of a work does not lie in the inferior quality of the paper, but in the skill of the person who painted it.

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It has been said that in the garden of the human mind, the most simple, the most beautiful and the most ordinary flowers are human upbringing. People's upbringing is often reflected in the details, every word and deed, every move, bit by bit of daily behavior, can reflect the character cultivation.

Good upbringing, getting along with people will make people feel comfortable.

At the same dinner, I was impressed by the children of my girlfriend's family.

At the dinner party, several friends brought their children to participate, and the meeting place was in a specialty restaurant.

The staircase of the restaurant is a very narrow wooden staircase, which can only accommodate one person to go up and down, and everyone here is consciously lined up.

I saw my girlfriend's 7-year-old son standing still at the foot of the stairs, and asked him why he didn't go up, and he smiled shallowly, "I want ladies to give priority."

It was the first time I've enjoyed being given priority by kids and it feels great.

At the table, I can observe this child, who does not go over the dish in front of him to pick up the dish, but waits for the dish to turn in front of him, and waits quietly without his turn.

At that time, Swallow was chatting with us, at this time he was also full, may want to go out for a walk, see us chatting vigorously, and do not want to interrupt us, so he made a gesture to tell my mother: I am full, I go downstairs to walk.

In this child, I see gentlemanliness, courtesy and courtesy.

I think the so-called upbringing is to make people very comfortable to get along with.

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Parenting, deciding how far a person flies.

There was a little boy in the child's class, who was physically disabled and not very sensitive, so his grades were not good.

However, he was the most popular person in the class.

When he goes out on an outing, his classmates will take turns to help him push the wheelchair, take care of him, and receive gifts from his classmates on his birthday.

Why?

Because, he is sincere and polite to others, and he never covets the love of others.

Although he has a disability, he has never felt that he is different from others, and he does not need others to treat him specially and give him more help.

When participating in group activities, he often chased after him with a limp, and told the other students while saying, It's okay, you go first, I can do it myself.

As long as there is good food, he will often share it with everyone.

Because of his upbringing, the students never looked down on him as a flawed person, but everyone liked to talk and laugh with him.

Once I met him at school and chatted with the teacher, and later, I heard the teacher say: Such a literate child, there is no need to worry about livelihood, everywhere he goes, there are people willing to help him.

He may not have the best defined in the secular population, nor may he be able to become a professional elite. But he is educated, and his future relationships will not be bad.

A person's interpersonal relationship determines whether a person flies high or not, and a person's upbringing determines how far a person flies. The highest realm of showing off wealth is not more prominent than the family and the prestigious school, but although you have gold mountains and silver mountains, you will never be richer than me. Because, I have a well-educated child.

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