Part.01
"The World of Man" The three sons and daughters of the Zhou family,
Who is truly filial piety?
In "The World of Man", the Zhou family has three children, and the personalities and life trajectories of these three children are very different.
The eldest Zhou Bingyi and the second oldest Zhou Rong have achieved excellent results since childhood, and when they grow up, both of them have made impressive achievements in their respective fields.
The old three Zhou Bingkun, from childhood, did not have good grades, grew up and worked in general, and also married a "woman with children". In the eyes of outsiders, he is a child who has not yet emerged.
During the New Year, Zhou Father took the children to visit the door to show off the eldest and second eldest who brought their own light to the neighbors, but Bingkun's care for the family did not mention a word, and the neighbors kept praising the eldest and the second, and everyone ignored Bingkun, an ordinary child.
However, it is this "stupid" and "unproductive" child, but his father and brothers and sisters are far away, and his mother is paralyzed in bed, not seeking help from his family, not disturbing their work, and trying to take care of everything by himself.
However, Bingkun's efforts were not seen, and only his brothers and sisters were highly praised by everyone. In this contrast, Bingkun felt humiliated.
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Even my father said something like this to his face:
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In fact, these are not the father's true words, but when the quarrel is angry, instinctively expressed from the level that is most conducive to fighting back. But these words also deeply hurt Bingkun's self-esteem, resulting in the father and son not speaking for many years afterwards...
Later, the father and son finally reconciled. Bingkun said words that had been in his heart for many years, and these words also hurt the hearts of many viewers.
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The father also spoke to Bingkun, who was actually the most satisfied of the three children.
In fact, Father Zhou had always known About Bingkun's efforts, but his father's majesty made him reluctant to express it.
In reality, how many parents are as wise as Father Zhou?
The children of the "mouth and body" often give the most, but their efforts are considered to be deserved. On the contrary, they are the children of the "mind", even if they do nothing, they stand there from a distance, they become the glory of the family, and they are greatly praised by their parents.
So, how should ordinary people balance between "nourishing the mouth and body" and "nourishing the mind"?
Part.02
Difficult balance between personal development and caring for parents,
But can pursue...
For ordinary people, the contradiction between "raising the mouth" and "nourishing the mind" is more reflected in their career development and the care of their parents.
For parents, when people go to old age, they are compared with relatives and friends, and the most than that is still children, the glory of children, the faces of parents have light, and the waist rod is straight.
However, children also need a lot of effort to get economic and status glory, and they are often uprooted from home and far away, and their work is busy and busy. When I think of my parents, I can only make a phone call.
And those children are just the parents of ordinary people, but they can get more companionship and love from their children. During the New Year's Festival, the family reunion shares the heavens, and when they are sick, they also have children in front of the bed to take care of them.
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Rational parents should not judge their children only by their achievements in society, because his attributes in the family are only his own children. If only the child pursues fame and fortune, it is not conducive to the child's growth.
For children, in fact, regardless of economic and social status, as long as there is a pursuit to let parents nourish both mouth and mind, no matter what degree it is, it is enough to comfort parents.
In China, there are not a few lonely elderly people. Relevant data show that by 2050, more than 54% of the elderly living alone and empty nesters will be accounted for. These 54% empty nesters could be you or me.
How did our children treat us then? In fact, from the current education of children, it can be predicted...
Part.03
"Nourish the mouth and body" and "nourish the mind",
It also inspires children's education...
"Raising the mouth" and "raising the mind" refer to the treatment of children to their parents, but when you think about it, it actually includes what kind of causes and effects parents treat their children.
Some parents like to ask, "I'm old, can you raise me?" "In fact, at this time, it is meaningless to ask the child to make a commitment, the most important thing is to establish a good parent-child relationship and give the child a quality education."
For example, take half an hour out of your day to spend with your child wholeheartedly, listen to his voice, or play his favorite games together;
Know how to respect the child, do not consider the child's ideas because he is small;
Build a sense of family responsibility in your child, involve your child in housework activities or family decisions, and so on.
If parents are too doting on their children, or only let their children learn, and the affairs of the family are completely irrelevant, then it is possible that the children will develop a selfish character; if they fail to cultivate the child's gratitude, it is difficult to say whether the child will be filial piety in the future.
In addition, the education of children must be persistent, so that children can become more and more powerful.
Being lazy in the child today will become regret in the future; if you work the child today, you will become happy in the future. If you want your child to really "nourish your mouth" and "nourish your mind", in fact, it depends on what you have paid for your child.
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