When chatting with parents and friends in adolescence, parents can always hear parents say that their children's academic performance is getting worse and worse, and they are gradually no longer interested in learning, and even some children have developed boredom.
Indeed, children at the age of adolescence, because of their temporary immaturity of mind, are easily seduced by the outside world of flowers and flowers, and they always have naïve ideas that their hearts are higher than the sky, and they even want to go out to fight in the world before they finish school.
This naïve and naïve idea is usually like a wild horse that has lost its reins, it is difficult for parents to discipline, children are bored with school, parents must not beat and scold at every turn, and the right medicine can be more effective!
First, correctly understand the reasons behind children's boredom with school
Children's boredom with school is actually just a manifestation, and the reasons behind their behavior are worth everyone's deep thinking. Therefore, when parents hear that their children are bored with school, the most important thing for parents is to maintain emotional stability. Think calmly about what makes your child tired of school: are they tired of learning or not adapting to the campus environment?
If the child is tired of learning, then parents should communicate the child's learning methods in time and often communicate with the school teachers, both of which are pronged. Try to solve the problem of your child's learning methods or guide your child to improve your interest in learning.
And if the child is bored with school, just because there is a problem with the communication circle with the classmates, then the parents should actively communicate with the child and ask about the cause of the matter, the process and the result, if it is indeed the child's own problem, then the parents should also actively communicate, and take the child to apologize to other students.
Second, learn to communicate
When parents hear that their children do not want to go to school, their first reaction is to hit their children with anger, or even force them to return to school to study.
Generally speaking, this kind of parents who have to lose their temper first, no matter how the child is, they will always give their children too many expectations, hoping that the children can fight for themselves and let the children gradually become an educational machine. Their concern has always been on how many points the child has scored, whether it has improved or regressed. Therefore, under this biased education, children will easily have an aversion to learning.
Therefore, parents should try not to give their children too many expectations and requirements, and reduce their expectations in a timely manner. Children are in the stage of adolescent rebellion, if parents just blindly force children to change, then children can easily go to the evil road in this critical period of mental immaturity and biased thinking.
Third, make more changes
Children's learning has produced changes in thinking, and everyone must remember not to blindly talk and talk about education. Parents teach according to different reasons, and the usual education methods are mainly encouraged and affirmed, and the scolding of children should be reduced.
At this time, parents can accompany the child and give him enough confidence and information. Tell that no matter what decision the child makes, parents will first learn to understand and think from a standpoint. We respect their advice, but at the same time parents want their children to listen to their parents' opinions.
If parents have not participated in the child's education process or have not noticed the child's changes, this is an opportunity for parents to understand their children. Parents should be honest with their children, truly enter the depths of their children's hearts, treat each other sincerely as friends, and talk to each other, which is the best way to solve.
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