Many parents have been constantly arguing whether it is good to raise children richly or poorly, but in fact, we have ignored the most important point, the best way to educate children should be love. A harmonious and loving family environment is the best education for parents to give their children, domestic violence will cause very serious harm to children, and will bring children the "pain" of not knowing where the problem is.
Recently, a video of the abusive wife of an executive of a company in Shaanxi province circulated on the Internet, which instantly aroused the attention and hot discussion of many netizens and was on the hot search.
In the video, a woman sits in the living room with a child, and then her husband suddenly rushes over and beats the woman in front of the child, and the child is frightened and cries. In the face of her husband's violent behavior, the woman has no power to fight back, and can only keep hiding.
One end of the woman's couch was beaten and fled to the other corner of the couch, but the man showed no sign of stopping and kept beating the woman. Young children crying next to their mothers tear their hearts and lungs, the woman has nowhere to hide but to bear silently, while also protecting the children next to her, comforting the children "Baby don't be afraid."
Soon after, an old man came out and took the child, while the man continued to beat his wife, a process that lasted for several minutes.
As soon as the video was sent out on the Internet, it attracted the attention and heated discussion of many netizens, who condemned the man's violent behavior. It is reported that the local police station received a call from the woman in the video on January 19, saying that she had a verbal altercation with her husband at home on the 18th because of trivial matters, and then suffered domestic violence.
Subsequently, a person familiar with the matter broke the news like a reporter: "The man who committed domestic violence in the video usually only promised, and did not expect that there was such a slag in the back of the ground", and the man's colleague also said that the man usually had no problem in the unit, and did not expect to do such a thing. The man's company also issued a timely statement: it has been suspended and handed over to the Group Discipline Inspection Commission for further investigation and handling.
According to statistics from the All-China Women's Federation, 30% of married women on the mainland have experienced domestic violence, which means that 30 women in every 100 families have experienced or are experiencing domestic violence, which is a shocking number.
Domestic violence is only zero and countless times, compromise and tolerance can often only be exchanged for more terrible violence, we should all say no to domestic violence, zero tolerance for domestic violence.
Many people may say that the first reaction to domestic violence is women and wives, but they ignore the children in domestic violence, just like the young and weak child in the video, facing their mothers being abused by the family, crying and tearing their lungs but not knowing what is wrong.
Zhang Chun, an expert in psychological crisis intervention, once said: "In terms of psychological impact, the children who are most deeply injured by domestic violence are children." These children who grow up in an atmosphere of domestic violence do not know what happiness is, and they live every day in fear, and even some children grow up to become a copy of their parents.
How much does domestic violence affect children?
1, inferiority and insecurity
Children who have lived in a domestic violence environment for a long time lack of security from an early age, are afraid and uneasy, and when they grow up, they can easily develop an inferior personality, get along with others very passively, become a flattering personality, and even begin to give up on themselves.
2. Cowardly personality
Children are treated violently by their parents from an early age, or watch the violence between their parents for a long time, but the young self is powerless, and does not even know what is wrong, and his heart is full of fear and fear. In the long run, the child will only become a promise, dare not talk to the parents, for fear that where they have made a mistake and anger the parents and cause quarrels, the child's personality will only become more and more cowardly and timid in such an environment.
3. Domestic violence will be inherited
There is a phenomenon in psychology called learned sex, in simple terms, the child is like a mirror of the parents, the child has lived in the environment of domestic violence for a long time, witnessing the parents use violence to solve the problem, the child will also feel that this is the way to feel the problem. Growing up, in the process of getting along with others, or in their own marital relationships, they also used violence to deal with problems like their parents.
For children, home should be a safe harbor, parents are the day to protect their children, is the child's dearest person, if the sky falls, who can the child seek help? As parents, we should all say no to domestic violence and give our children a healthy and happy environment for growing up.
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