Many children go to kindergarten for the first time separated from their parents, and it is inevitable that they will be afraid in the face of unfamiliar environments. Chen Yizhen, a clinical psychologist in the parent-child counseling room of the Children's Hospital of China Medical University, said that preschool children usually have the following four maladaptive manifestations when they first start school.
Every day I cry and argue and don't want to go to school
For children with insufficient self-confidence and poor adaptability, it is very difficult for him to stay in an unfamiliar environment for a long time, not to mention to live and study in this space, and children often choose to escape when they encounter this situation. In addition, children with separation anxiety can also avoid school because they don't want to leave their caregivers.
Every school day, I have headaches and stomachaches
Young children use body language to reflect emotions before developing mature expression skills. The subtext of headache and stomach ache is "I'm nervous" and "I'm scared." Nervous and anxious emotions can also trigger real physiological reactions such as stomach pain and diarrhea.
Emotional, tantrums at every turn
Only children and xiaobawang usually spend several times more effort to learn to cooperate with the group after going to school; children with poor expression skills can often only compromise or tolerate interaction with teachers and classmates, these two types of children are easy to accumulate negative emotions in school, once they encounter stressful situations, such as still want to sleep but have to get up, want to play toys are taken away, will be the dissatisfaction in their hearts a brain vented.
No meals, no lunch breaks, and no integration into group life
It is difficult for a child who stays at home and is accustomed to family life to adapt to the school schedule immediately, and it often takes a while for him to eat and sleep according to the school schedule.
The child's delay in adapting to school life may be...unable to control themselves and regulate their emotions. Generally speaking, children can adapt to school life about 1 to 3 months after entering kindergarten. After more than 3 months, you still can't adapt, and you may not be able to properly regulate your emotions.
Experts say that children of this type tend to have stronger emotional reactions and are less likely to leave their emotions. When encountering this situation, you can teach your child 3 ways to deal with emotions:
Improvement method 1: Adjust breathing to relax the body
"When you are afraid to cry, imagine yourself as a balloon, first take a deep breath to make your stomach swell, then slowly exhale to make your stomach smaller, repeat deep breathing, exhaling, deep breathing, exhaling. Let the body relax and the mood will calm down."
If your child is not yet able to breathe deeply, prepare a balloon or a windmill and teach him to blow air against the balloon or windmill.
Method 2: Do something else to distract your attention
"Mom put a few toys you like in her bag, so you can take them out and play when you think of your parents and when you're nervous and scared."
Method 3: Self-soothing
"Pat your chest with both hands and tell yourself it's all right."
4 ways to help children get through the kindergarten adaptation period
1. Use role play to teach children the "eyebrow corner" of group life
To integrate children into group life, training begins before school. Role-play can be used to teach children the correct way to "say hello", "play with toys" and "ask questions" in class, and take him to practice a few more times.
2. Set up a fixed "goodbye ceremony"
Some parents are reluctant to let their children cry, and every time they send their children to school, they have to stage the drama of eighteen send-offs. Chen Yizhen said that this will only make the child stick more tightly with the parents. Send your children to school and leave when it's time to leave.
How? Chen Yizhen said that a set of "goodbye rituals" can be established to help children feel safe; first wave to the child to say bye bye, then a big hug, then kiss the child's left and right cheeks, and finally kiss his hand and turn away. Tell the child when you are hands-on, "Daddy puts the power on your hand, and when you are uncomfortable, you can get the strength by just "chirping" with your opponent."
Tips.Be sure to leave immediately after the goodbye ceremony, and don't hide around to peek or drag mud and water and cuddle your child.
3. Prepare family photos for your child to carry
In addition to the goodbye ceremony, having a child carry a picture of his parents with him can also help him build a sense of security. Prepare a few photos to put in your child's pocket and tell him to take them out and look at them at any time.
4. Prepare to soothe the small object to help the child divert his attention
Calming small things can effectively divert attention and stabilize emotions. You can choose to combine toys and comforting features, such as beanie comforters and bubble paper, so that your child can be brought to school.