The good things said before, the child seems to have its own shielding function, and it can be forgotten in a flash. Most parents have become accustomed to the way they speak without belief, or even acquiescence. However, there are also a small number of parents who are unwilling to compromise and try to correct their children's words without believing.
Of course, don't rush to label your child as a "lying elf". Maybe their occasional words don't count, but it's not intentional lying, and parents have to learn to treat them differently. For children without self-control, they are easily disturbed by external factors, and not believing in words becomes insufficient execution.
When playing with the phone, the child will say, "Play for another twenty minutes and immediately put down the phone." But as a result, half an hour has passed, and they are still immersed in mobile games and cannot extricate themselves.
When lying in bed, the child will say, "Sleep for a few more minutes and get up right away." But as a result, I still got up on the spot, brushed my teeth in a hurry, and then rushed to school.
When writing homework, the children's reaction makes parents cry and laugh. Half an hour of homework, they may not be able to complete it in two or three hours, and the careful homework that is said to be done is completely left behind.
In life, these things abound, are they all because of lies?
The answer is naturally no, because most children, their minds are still in the development stage, coupled with curiosity is too heavy, even many of their own behavior is difficult to control. In the end, there is a situation of unbelief, but it is not the intention.
Parents learn these tricks, and children can transform into people who believe in words
1, respect, not too difficult for children
Although their words do not count, parents are particularly angry about their behavior, but they must also silently respect their children, at least not too difficult. Of course, all this is based on rules and regulations, following the concept of relaxed education.
You know, children's rebellious hearts are particularly strong, and it has nothing to do with age. The more tightly parents press, the more they want to resist, it is better to go with the flow first and reduce the resistance in the child's heart. Moreover, respect is mutual, and they feel the respect given by their parents and naturally respond to their parents.
2. Establish rules and regulations, and educate people with grace and power
One thing to admit is that most children who don't believe what they say, they don't know much about the rules in life. But to put it bluntly, it is still because the parents' education is not in place. If you make strict rules from an early age, I believe that even naughty children can also abide by and be honest.
Therefore, from now on, we will make rules and tailor the disgust that can be done according to the child's personality and their attitude. Clearly tell the child: even if you are no longer willing to do what you say, you must conscientiously perform it, which is the foundation of integrity. Of course, where children perform well, don't forget to encourage them.
3. Bear the corresponding consequences alone
Everyone has to pay for their mistakes, and even if he is a child, he deserves to bear the consequences. In the case of lai beds, children want to sleep for a few more minutes, ignore the alarm clock and parental urging, then let them continue to sleep. Parents can do other things and give time to their children with peace of mind.
Next, because there will certainly be many consequences of lying in bed, or being late, or being criticized by the teacher, or delaying important things, everything should be borne by them alone. The more times they are punished, the more the child will remember sex and know that there is a price to pay for not believing what he says.
4. Parents should learn to lead by example
Most children who are not born to speak and do not count are influenced by their parents, so adults should learn to review. How many parents have been able to believe what they say? Casually promised the child something, but never did it. All these have laid the groundwork for the child's words and untrustworthiness.
Family members will influence each other, so for the integrity of their children, parents should also set a good example. Even if it is only a small thing, since the child has been promised, we must try to implement it and influence them through words and deeds. If it is really shelved for other reasons, it should be carefully explained and asked for the child's forgiveness.
Warm advice:
Make rules for children, advise parents not to limit too much, and do not delusional to form. Whether it is a good habit or a bad habit, their formation has a process, and parents must have enough patience. Start with simple rules, give your child time to adapt, and it's easy to achieve, maximizing their interest.
Regarding rewards, it is really very important, and the slightest progress, parents have to look at it. Keeping promises is really encouraging, and it shows that children realize the importance of integrity. The encouragement given by parents once again strengthens the preciousness of integrity and affirms the progress of children.
By the way, please don't casually label your child, especially negative labels like "lying spirit". Many times, children lie unconsciously, and if parents insist on labeling, the consequences are very serious. Presumably, the word "label effect" has been heard by everyone, not only has it not played an educational purpose, but it will make children close like labels and really become such people.