Friends have given birth to a second child in recent years, when we went to help my family as a guest, we often found that the little baby boy was wearing the women's children's clothes left by Dabao's sister before, and we advised my friends to try not to wear women's clothes for the male babies, otherwise it would affect their personality and cognition.
But the friend said, "Oh, boys, it doesn't matter, boys should be like us to raise a little more casually, otherwise they will exercise later, otherwise they will become unmasculine when they are too refined." ”
Many parents have heard such a saying of educating their children, that is, poor sons and rich daughters, so these parents will strictly discipline boys and spoil girls according to this principle they have heard. But in fact, this concept is very one-sided and narrow, and the education method handed down by the older generation is not so superficial.
First, poor children are not materially poor.
The so-called poor boys, in fact, is not in the material life to make the shortage of boys, the meaning of poverty here is to temper and sharpen, so that children in the tempering of the mind to achieve the role of enhancing the mind, will not feel discouraged and lost because of other people's words, will not become frustrated and depressed because of a momentary unhappiness.
For example, parents can let their children experience life or participate in some more honing activities, let children experience frustration, so as to sharpen the child's heart, let the child become more brave and fearless, in later life, will not be knocked down because of a little difficulty, so as to grow into a real man.
Therefore, the real meaning of poor children is actually mainly to temper children's willpower, kick children out of the comfort zone of life, and achieve spiritual and willful poor support. Children who are trained through this indomitable tempering usually have a braver and stronger personality, and their life plans are clearer and clearer.
Second, rich adopted daughters do not give children too many good lives
The upbringing of daughters is also not just a simple material condition, giving children a rich and prosperous life, but by enriching the connotation and knowledge of children, broadening their horizons, so that they can see a wider range of things, so that in later life, well-informed girls will not be induced because of a little temptation outside.
In general, people who pursue material life themselves are usually short-sighted, and they only consider the immediate gains and losses, and do not pay attention to the future results. And some girls don't care about the current situation, they pay more attention to spiritual satisfaction and inner fullness.
And the daughter raised with a full spiritual life. Not only do they have an independent consciousness, but they are also able to know exactly what they are after. On the contrary, if it is just a family that blindly gives too much satisfaction to the child materially, the child who is raised has only a bad habit of pampering.
Third, what is the way of parenting
Educating children, parents must not follow how to educate because they hear what others say, the most important thing is to have a full understanding of their children and teach according to their aptitudes, and the way of education is not simply material and financial resources, can give children the most adequate spiritual education, is the best growth spur for children.
Not blind, not follow, parents' greatest concern for their children is not how much parenting experience and truth they have heard, but to really understand them with their hearts.
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