For many babies, entering kindergarten is the first time they have left their home to be separated from their parents. Facing an unfamiliar environment independently will inevitably be helpless, and a sense of fear will arise spontaneously.
Even if some babies who have entered the kindergarten last year, after dozens of days of winter vacation, the problem of discomfort in entering the kindergarten will reappear, and even become more intense. Every day parents have to coax them to go to school, and the bridge section where the children at the kindergarten door cry and roll on the ground is staged again.
Although kindergarten teachers will tell parents that it is normal for children who have just started school to have these problems of maladaptation, let us not worry. However, seeing the child crying heart-rending, parents are angry and distressed, is there any way to help the child through this adaptation period?
Just after the start of school, what are the problems that the baby will not adapt to when entering/returning to the kindergarten
1, cry every day, do not want to go to kindergarten
Some children began to cry as soon as they heard that they were going to kindergarten, and they clamored that they could not go to kindergarten, which was a manifestation of children's lack of confidence and poor adaptability. For these children, it is difficult for them to stay in an unfamiliar environment for a long time, let alone live and study there. In addition, coupled with the separation anxiety that all children who enter kindergarten have, it is normal to have the idea of not wanting to go to school.
2. As soon as I went to school, my stomach hurt
In order not to go to kindergarten, some children will have headaches and stomachaches when they go to bed. Moms don't think that their children are lying to you, sometimes "uncomfortable" is really true.
Babies around the age of 3 are not yet complete with language development, and body language is still their main means of expressing emotions. The child has a headache and stomachache before going to school, and the subtext is "I am afraid" and "I am nervous", and the physiological reaction caused by negative emotions is not the child lying to you.
3, love to lose temper
There are teachers in the kindergarten who can't sleep if they want to sleep, can't play if they want to play, and children who are spoiled at home will naturally have all kinds of discomfort. In addition, some children have poor language ability and insufficient adaptability, because they cannot communicate with teachers and children normally, and can only blindly compromise and tolerate, so there are more negative emotions.
4. Cannot be integrated into the kindergarten
After many children enter the kindergarten, because they are not adapted to the schedule of the kindergarten, they do not eat when they should eat, and do not sleep when they should sleep, and often receive a "report" phone number from the kindergarten teacher.
What are the reasons why your baby can't adapt to kindergarten?
1. The child's ability to regulate emotions is poor
Generally speaking, it is time for children to adapt to kindergarten life in about 1 to 3 months of kindergarten. If it is more than three months, the child is still uncomfortable, it may be that the child has a problem with emotional processing. Such children tend to be emotionally agitated and difficult to calm down. If your baby is also of this type, try the following:
Ask your child to adjust his breathing
Mothers can tell their children that when they are scared and angry in kindergarten, they can think of themselves as balloons and take a few deep breaths so that they are not afraid and angry. If the child does not know what deep breathing is, the mother can demonstrate to the baby.
Learn to divert attention
When in kindergarten, a mother can put a toy she likes in her child's school bag. Then tell the child that he can take it out and play when he thinks of his mother or is afraid. Of course, the mother can also use other methods that are suitable for the child, as long as it can divert the child's attention.
Self-consolation
When the child is afraid, the mother can teach the child to put her hands on the chest and tell herself that I can, which is an effective way to comfort herself psychologically.
2. Do not understand the rules of collective life
If the child resists the kindergarten because he does not understand the rules of the collective life of the kindergarten, the mother can rehearse with the child in advance, such as sitting well during class, and not taking other people's things.
3. The learning speed is slow and cannot keep up with the rhythm
Some children are reluctant to go to kindergarten, which is caused by the child's lack of self-care ability. After going to kindergarten, children must learn to fold their own quilts, eat at the specified time, queue up for the toilet, etc. Some children have poor learning ability and cannot keep up with the rhythm of kindergarten life, and will begin to resist the kindergarten.
What parents can do to make their babies quickly adapt to kindergarten life
If the child does not want to go to the kindergarten because he is not suitable for the kindergarten, or even asks for a change of class and kindergarten, what the parents have to do is to let the child know that going to kindergarten is his responsibility and what he is going to do. Let the child understand that no matter which kindergarten or class they go to, they must be able to fold the quilt, eat and go to the toilet, so there are some things to learn to face on their own.
Moms can help their children through the discomfort period of kindergarten through the following methods
1. Drill
In order for their children to enter the kindergarten smoothly, parents can also start training a few weeks before the start of school, and they can ask their children according to the schedule and regulations of the kindergarten.
2. Goodbye mode
Many children do not adapt to kindergarten, mainly because of the fear of separation anxiety. Parents can agree on a "goodbye ceremony" with their children to help them feel safer. When the mother and baby are separated, first wave goodbye, then come with a big hug, and finally turn away at the same time, etc.
3. A photo
In addition to agreeing on a "goodbye ceremony" with the baby, putting a family photo in the baby's school bag can be taken out when you are nervous and scared, which will also help to enhance the baby's sense of security.
4. Prepare pacifying items
Finally, the mother can put the child's favorite comforting items in the child's school bag, such as liking toys and bears, which can let the child out of the negative emotions such as nervousness and fear.