As a parent, do you often hear the phrase "This child is confused, why don't you know what to do?" And have you said that yourself?
Since becoming a class teacher, whenever I communicate with the parents of students about my children's problems, I can always hear this sentence: "Teacher, he does not listen to me, he will listen to your words." A teacher says a hundred words more than we say a hundred! "Whenever I hear such a thing, I cry and laugh! Dear parents, have you ever thought that you raised your child from a young age, your child's every move, a smile and a smile have touched your heart, and you know what your child thinks with a look and an expression. So when did your child stop listening to you?
A parent communicated with me about being late, and she was very distressed: "Teacher Wang, I get up at six o'clock every day, and when I make a meal, I start calling her, but she has been lying in bed!" Tell her over and over again to be late, to be late! People are not in a hurry! Getting up from kindergarten is difficult! "Dear parents, do you have such troubles, why are your children not in a hurry?
First of all, we must rule out the problem of children's work and rest time, if the child sleeps late at night, it must be difficult to get up the next morning. But the problem is that most children obviously do not sleep late, and the next morning they are still lying in bed, rubbing, which is the key reason for the headache of parents.
Many educational videos are circulating such a method, saying that parents should let go, do not urge the child, as long as the child is late once, the child will be in the heart later, it will become every day he shouts you to get up, urges you to hurry. At first glance, it seems reasonable, but what parent has really done this and the result is really as happy as the video says, and the results are immediate?
Because this method does not cure the symptoms and does not cure the root cause, the root cause of the bed is not known at all. Most children lie in bed because of their lack of responsibility! The sense of responsibility has not been cultivated, and even if he is late and criticized, he does not think so. Think about us adults ourselves, why we can get up at six o'clock to cook for our children, because as parents, we know that if we don't get up, our children will have to go hungry. As a teacher, I knew that being late would waste the time of dozens of children. And if a student does not know that he should have the responsibility of not being late or leaving early, he is bound to ignore discipline!
From small to large, if the child does not cultivate a sense of responsibility, then he must be lazy in life and learning, and everything needs to be required and urged by others, and even if he does it, it is also grinding and rubbing, coping with things.
How to cultivate the child's sense of responsibility, in fact, there is no immediate trick, parents need to start cultivating when the child is young, in the child's life to little by little instilling, teaching, when the child's own toys to clean up, lost the bad parents are not responsible for not just losing today, tomorrow to make up. When you are too old, you ask yourself to do things and never do it on your behalf.
My daughter is six years old, and since I was four, I've been yelling at her to get up, then I wash, she dresses herself, I put on makeup, she washes, and finally we go out together. Last Saturday afternoon, the first elocution class started at four o'clock. Since my alarm clock suddenly broke, we overslept, and we were supposed to get up at 3:15, but we slept until 3:38. I patted my girlfriend and said, "Quick, it's late!" The girl jerked up, moving much faster than before. From getting up to going out, it only took us five minutes. Finally caught up with the elocution class and was not late. See, this is the habit, the sense of responsibility has been formed, and there is no need for parents to bother to make efforts to please. Afterwards, the child told me: "Mom, buy another alarm clock!"
Parents may wish to start now, grasp every little thing, lead by example, set an example, and cultivate their children's sense of responsibility!