Today I took my sister-in-law to do her hair, and when I came back, I saw that my brother's car trunk was open, stuffed with wax fish, sausages, eggs, sweet potatoes, peanuts, corn, fish noodles, beans and other foods, while my mother was still there

Today I took my sister-in-law to do hair, and when I came back, I saw that my brother's car trunk was open, stuffed with wax fish, sausages, eggs, sweet potatoes, peanuts, corn, fish noodles, beans and other foods, while my mother was still carrying out large bags and small bags, ready to stuff into my brother's car.

My sister-in-law politely said to my mother in standard Mandarin: "We can buy these things in the city, so you can keep them for yourself!" My mother looked at her sister-in-law with a smile in her dialect and said, "These are all rural specialties, there are no in the city, take them back to taste them!" ”

My brother translated my mother's words to my sister-in-law, who was unmoved, bent down and put down the trunk full of items and took them out one by one. My mother's face seemed to be about to cry, and my mother begged my brother to bring a little, and my sister-in-law would not eat it, and my brother could eat it.

This is the first time that my brother and sister-in-law have returned to their hometown for the New Year after marriage, before they were all brothers who came back alone, and therefore, this New Year my mother is busier, in addition to cooking and cooking, my mother is the busiest when eating.

When eating, my mother almost did not move the chopsticks, she has been staring at the action of the sister-in-law, which dish sister-in-law ate a few more chopsticks, the next meal my mother will continue to do that dish, and will do a lot, which dish sister-in-law only ate one or two bites and did not move, the next meal my mother will put that dish in front of me, the sister-in-law's favorite dishes all in front of the sister-in-law.

When washing the dishes, I sarcastically teased my mother for currying favor with my daughter-in-law, and my mother dismissively replied to me: "You know what! "I really don't understand, because my mother is willing to do this, and she is willing to do anything for her son."

Brother out for more than ten years, parents with a lifetime of savings of more than 700,000 to buy a house for my brother, brother business debt of 200,000 is also parents to pay, when the nephew was just born, my mother let me give my brother 1,000 yuan a month, to buy diapers for my nephew, I played for more than 2 years, until the nephew quit diapers.

After my nephew went to kindergarten, the old people who had a good time with my mother went to the big city where my son was to enjoy the blessings, and I deliberately told my mother that you should also go to your son to enjoy the blessings. If my mother did not go, it proved that she had no place in my brother's heart, and if my mother went, my sister-in-law was not necessarily happy, and at my instigation, my brother took my mother to the city.

A week later, the mother went back to her hometown, the mother could not hang on her face, did not want to say a word, relatives and friends came to see the mother, the mother forced a smile, said that the son there is a lot of good.

I know that my mother deceived herself, because the real situation is that my sister-in-law and my mother did not speak, my mother slept on the couch for a week at my brother's place, my mother did not go anywhere, did nothing, just sat alone in the living room every day in a daze. My sister-in-law hid in her room after work, my mother had to go into the kitchen (cooking), she had to go to the bathroom (to take a bath), and my sister-in-law stopped my mother.

My mother wouldn't tell me about this, she would only talk to her own sister, and my aunt was a person who couldn't hide her words, and later my relatives all knew about my mother's experience in the city.

This time, my mother worked hard to fill my brother's car with food, and did not leave a portion for me, and my sister-in-law did not want it. Finally, my brother took a little rice dumplings, and my sister-in-law said angrily: "I don't like to eat, I can't get it, you make it yourself!" ”

After that, my mother stared at a pile of agricultural products and said to me disappointedly, your brother doesn't want it, you take it and eat it...

@ Solo Journey: The mother's love for her brother is the embodiment of the love of mothers in some small places (relative to large cities) for their sons who have settled in other provinces, especially when they return from the New Year, the more their sons' trunks are stuffed, indicating that the more the mother loves her son, the more reluctant she is to separate.

It's just that the mother loves her son and always ignores herself, and even hurts her relatives.

First, parents give everything they can to help their sons start a family.

Your parents took out a lifetime of savings to buy a house for your brother to buy a car, and then paid 200,000 yuan to help your brother pay off his debts. They do not consider themselves, only consider their sons, the money they earn has the right to decide, but such a single-minded parent often ignores a realistic problem, that is, does the son assume the responsibility of his own small family?

In the future, if the brother is also like his parents, emptying his life savings for the son, then the brother will also live like this, only the children in his eyes, without himself; if the brother knows how to think for himself, but does not dedicate himself, will the brother's son complain about his father, get so much from his grandparents, why give himself so little?

It is not advisable for parents to give everything they can or even pull their daughters together for their sons, and they can easily put themselves in a lonely and passive situation in their later years.

The correct way is to help your son start a family within your own ability, you can help pay the down payment, but the mortgage and the support of the family is the son's daughter-in-law's own business, you can buy some milk powder and diapers, but you should not call the daughter, and the debt owed by the son, but also the son's own business.

Parents pay too much, people can not be moved, only feel a little sad, such parents have lived a lifetime, did not live for themselves once, and even did not get the respect that their sons and daughters-in-law deserve.

Second, the parents love Wu and Wu and live trembling.

Under normal circumstances, the hen lays one egg a day, generally there are only a few laying hens in the family, it takes several months to save hundreds of eggs for the son and daughter-in-law, and the family has not eaten eggs.

The example of eggs is to illustrate that parents prepare so many things for their sons and daughters-in-law all year round, all of which are the hearts and care of parents, but when they encounter a daughter-in-law who does not understand, she will refuse her in-laws to fill the trunk of her car with agricultural products.

From your mother's experience of going to your brother's house, it can be seen that there is a sense of distance between your sister-in-law and your mother, and the sense of distance between your daughter-in-law and your mother-in-law is either not familiar enough or not respectful enough.

Your mother wants to go into the kitchen to cook, the sister-in-law is blocked, it can be understood that the mother is not familiar with the kitchen appliances, the sister-in-law is worried that the mother will not use, but the mother wants to go into the bathroom to take a bath, why also block? Instead of assisting?

The daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law are not familiar with each other, and they can get closer by getting along more, and if the parents never consider themselves and always please their sons and daughters-in-law with a flattering attitude, then the parents themselves will live insecurity, worried that the sons and daughters-in-law do not like their growing older self.

There is nothing wrong with parents loving their children, but they must also be willing to love themselves.