In Shaoxing, Zhejiang, after Sister Zhou divorced her ex-husband five years ago, she came to Shaoxing with her two daughters and rented a house in Uncle Tian. It wasn't long before the two, twenty years apart, fell in love and got married. Now that four years have passed, the two have a generation gap because of the age gap and often quarrel.
It turned out that five years ago, Sister Zhou, who had just come to Shaoxing, was alone, and considering the problem of her daughter's study, she especially wanted to settle down in the local area, so she chose to marry Tian Dabo, who was twenty years older.
After marriage, the small friction between the two has been continuous, and this period of time has risen to the point of divorce.
For Sister Zhou, Uncle Tian mainly had two knots in his heart that could not be solved.
First, Sister Zhou often talks and laughs with other men, or calls at night. But Sister Zhou said that Tian Dabo and her have a generation gap, she and others are just colleagues, everyone talks and laughs are normal, which makes Tian Dabo feel very uncomfortable.
The second is that the two have been married for more than four years, but they rarely sleep in the same bed. At first, Sister Zhou proposed to sleep in two quilts, and the angry Tian Dabo directly ran downstairs to live alone, in his opinion, husband and wife should have the appearance of husband and wife, how can they sleep separately.
Despite some dissatisfaction with his wife, Tian Dabo hoped that her wife could still stay.
However, Sister Zhou said that she had suffered a lot of grievances over the years. She said she worked more than a dozen hours a day and was tired when she came home at night, so she didn't want to be disturbed. In addition, she felt that Uncle Tian had not taken into account her feelings.
First of all, in the attitude of Tian Dabo, he has worked hard for this family in recent years, but Tian Dabo did not have a warm word, but often condescended, commanding her to go and directing, making her very aggrieved.
In addition, he was not accepted by Tian Dabo's family. Sister Zhou said that sometimes When Uncle Tian's son and ex-wife came to the house, they hung her alone in the living room, and the family of three managed to cook their own food, and did not call her to eat together.
Because of these grievances, Sister Zhou proposed a divorce to Uncle Tian and asked Uncle Tian to settle the renovation costs of the previous house to her. The angry Uncle Tian was not willing to show weakness, and immediately calculated the rent money for the past few years with Sister Zhou. The relationship between the two has become more and more stalemate.
After mediation, Tian Dabo promised to change his condescending attitude and change his tone of voice in the future. However, he also proposed that if the ex-wife and son come back to the house, as the hostess, she should take the initiative and be in place, so as to appear generous.
At the same time, he also made a request to Sister Zhou, hoping that he would not have too much contact with other members of the opposite sex and grasp the scale.
Seeing Uncle Tian's promise, Sister Zhou thought about it for a while and agreed to spend a few more months with Uncle Tian.
I have to say that there is indeed some generation gap between Tian Dabo and Sister Zhou, but the problem between the two is still caused by Sister Zhou's subjective thoughts.
At the beginning, they hurriedly married for the sake of their daughter's hukou, and the emotional foundation of the two was still very weak. After marriage, Sister Zhou did not think about running this marriage well, but spent most of her time on work, which led to the contradiction between her and Uncle Tian becoming more and more prominent.
Therefore, a good marriage depends on continuous communication and continuous coordination between the two parties.
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