Poor children, rich adopted daughters are regarded by countless parents as the highest state of education.
In the educational concept of many parents, the birth of a son must be poor, otherwise the possibility of boys learning badly will be very large. The purpose is to guide children to understand things early.
If a daughter is born, the parents' education methods will change dramatically, and the children will be pampered by the group, and no matter what special requirements they have, they will be met.
Are gender and educational methods really inseparable?
Why don't boys have the right to better material treatment?
Many times, poor adopted sons are used as a rhetoric. Because of the son he gave birth to, his parents did not need to work hard, and their lives did not seek prosperity, as long as they were comfortable.
And, because of having a son, the mother can deprive the child of her rights as she pleases. You are a boy, you don't have to eat these delicious things, you can eat anything, these good things are eaten strangely wasteful.
In this way, there are many more boys than girls with inferiority complex. They don't know what it is to be poor, they don't know what their parents' intentions are, they just know that they are not being treated well.
When they are wronged outside, they are unwilling to tell their parents, and they should not dare to say it accurately, for fear that if they do not say it well, they will be scolded and beaten again.
Boys carry more responsibilities
The reason why so many parents hold the idea of preferring sons to daughters is because when boys grow up, they are the pillars of the family and can shoulder the hopes of the whole family. Passing on the generations is naturally one of the burdens that fall on them.
In this way, can we understand the concept of poor children as early as letting boys understand things? Because children who grow up in sweet talk never grow up.
Before encountering external dangers, parents help their children think of solutions in advance, and even sometimes they have helped them resist everything. What about frustration education?
The words of the 8-year-old boy stung the hearts of thousands of parents: the children who were poor were raised poor by their parents
In front of a fruit stall, a courier mother took her son to buy fruit, originally the mother thought that she had just received a salary, a good reward for her son, but did not expect her son's reaction to sting her heart.
When the son picked up the strawberries he wanted to eat for a long time, the boss said to his son, this 28 yuan a pound, a box of about 30 yuan, the son immediately muttered, this box of strawberries, the mother to send 5 couriers.
Then, immediately put the strawberries back in. Although the owner did not say anything, he also walked away silently. Leaving the mother and son standing where they were, the mother's mood was very complicated.
On the one hand, the mother felt that she owed too much to her son, and the strawberries that ordinary people did not think of were like treasures in the eyes of her son, and she was even frightened to hear the price.
On the other hand, the mother felt that her son's behavior made her embarrassed in front of the fruit stall owner, as if she was usually very bad to the child.
Consequences of poor son raising: Children become more and more inferior
In the street, there will be many different interpretations of poor adopting a son, but many parents will be paranoid that poor parenting only stays in the literal sense and does not provide him with any material preferential treatment.
Although there is nothing wrong with this, the parents are solely responsible for the parents' parenting style, but there is no benefit to the child's future development as long as it is harmful.
Just like this 8-year-old boy, he grew up hearing about his mother's hard work and the way he treated everything. If it wasn't for his mother's frequent calculations in front of him, how could he have been so clear as to hear the price as soon as he heard it?
An 8-year-old is under pressure that shouldn't belong to him
8-year-olds are just second-graders, and when they were supposed to enjoy a happy childhood, they can't even eat anything. Not to mention other pastime.
If parents can't immediately adjust their education methods, children will only become more inferior and cautious in the future, and they will creep into everything they do.
After he comes into contact with the world of flowers and flowers, the possibility of learning bad will be greater. After all, after suppressing yourself for so long, it is perfectly normal for emotions to erupt suddenly.
Today's Topic:
What do you think is wrong with this little boy's mother? Do you support the theory of poor sons? When you have a son, what kind of parenting will you choose? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!