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"With durian?
Isn't that more than 3,000 dollars?
You are not the kindergarten parents should bring, this is the supplier should bring. ”
The child twisted her head and said to her mother with the task list for entering the kindergarten.
Her mother looked helplessly at the task list, which read, "Prepare 28 durians".
Faced with this expensive request, she couldn't afford this huge amount of money, so she decisively decided to let her child take leave.
However, when she returned home, she found that the task list that the child brought back did not say that she wanted to bring durian, and she asked the child suspiciously: "The task list you brought back did not say that parents should bring durian?"
The child smiled slightly, and began to tell the embarrassing story of the money that a mother had to spend for the sake of her child's stall.
1. Bring expensive fruits.
Faced with this task list from the kindergarten, the child's mother sank.
Preparing 28 servings of durian is such an expensive fruit, she can barely support it with one or two thousand, but she has to buy so much at once, and the unit price is so high, she can't buy so much money if she wants to.
She seemed to be wronged and glared at the child angrily, but the child was so helpless.
The child said unhappily: "Mom, it's not my fault, it's that you didn't buy me enough durian, otherwise you would have taken enough durian for 28."
“...”
That night, the child's mother searched for the price of durian on the Internet while drinking to comfort herself that buying durian was not an activity to compare with her child.
However, it was useless to say more, she would not be able to save this huge amount of money even if she didn't eat or drink today, so she decided to let the child take a leave of absence the next day.
She was a little suspicious that the child had mentioned the activities of the kindergarten more than once, and that the activities clearly stated that parents should prepare these expensive fruits; She also talked to the kindergarten more than once about these activities, but the kindergarten always insisted that it was a document issued by her superiors.
So, she was a little puzzled, could it be that these activities were made up by the kindergarten?
However, just when she was confused, she listened to the parents of her relatives muttering: "Does your kindergarten activity task require parents to bring a lot of dried fruits and fruits?"
"Yes, this event requires 28 durians, and I have never seen anything more outrageous than this"
"More than 2,800 yuan, a durian is so expensive, are you buying fruit or a car?"
Hearing that relatives and parents mentioned raising 28 durians again, the child's mother finally couldn't resist her curiosity.
So, she asked her relatives, "What is your mission?"
The relative said: "We want to make a fruit platter, the task is to bring a dried fruit and a fruit, the child can make his own platter, and finally the child will introduce his own platter;
In the end, the kindergarten teacher scores, and the highest score can get a small gift, and parents who can't do it can help, but don't bring too much, give it to several classes at a time."
Hearing the relative's answer, the child's mother couldn't help but laugh and say nothing.
The parents who spoke to their relatives were also a little puzzled: "How is your task different from ours, you bring a dried fruit and a fruit, but we have to bring 28 durians"## Second, economic pressure and development pressure.
The conversation with relatives temporarily reassures the child's mother, however, she faces new troubles.
Even if the kindergarten does not give the child the task of bringing durian, she still has to face the problem of huge expenses, that is, the child's face.
She discussed it with her husband all night and finally decided to leave the child off.
However, it was already late at night, so the parents had to endure the loneliness at home again and again, and it was not until tomorrow morning that they could discuss the reason for the child's leave with the parents of relatives again.
However, as they expected, when she mentioned that she had asked her child to take leave, her relatives fell into a state of grief.
They said, "What's wrong with you, since you're just saving face for your children, shouldn't you be asking for leave for your children;
Since you know that it is only an activity ordered by your superiors, there is no need for you to wade into this troubled water for these activities;
If you don't bring durian, the child doesn't have the face to go to kindergarten;
Even if you don't bring so much, you have to bring one, otherwise the children will definitely not fit in. ”
Faced with various pressures, the child's mother had to compromise and began to borrow money for the child's durian mission.
And just when she started borrowing money, she found out that the activity of food platter was made up by the kindergarten.
Letting parents bring it is obviously made up, because the setting is too outrageous;
However, it is not to blame the kindergarten, but to let the parents actually experience the economic pressure of this activity.
She carefully calculated that in the face of these 28 durians, the unit price is thousands, and it will cost more than 2,800 yuan in total, not counting the cost of parents making their own platters;
And it may not be possible to get good grades, since it needs the help of parents, it means that children may not be able to make platters more.
From another point of view, saving more than 2,800 yuan may not be a small amount of money for parents, and the family income of 9.3 billion well-off families may be 5,000 or 2,000 or even less, so that it is.
As a result, the child's mother began to get angry, and she was very unhappy in the face of the blame of her relatives' parents.
Yes, so rich, can you spend less;
But at such an expensive price, can she not come up with more?
In fact, this activity is originally a public opinion project, which consumes parents' money in a targeted manner, and if the economic pressure of this activity is not well controlled, it will cause parents' development pressure.
However, no matter what activities parents encounter, they ask their children to participate, and even think that this is education, and not letting their children participate is a concealment from their children.
However, these parents know that this is hype, but they will take these hype for granted, and it is easy to go bankrupt without relying on hype.
3. Hype and messing around.
However, there is also a small group of parents who are very knowledgeable and can see that these activities are clearly hype, and they will refuse to participate, so that they can easily be isolated by their children.
However, more parents are desperate to get their children to do their best and participate in these hype events.
It seems that if children do not participate in these activities, they will not be smart at all, so parents participate in these activities despite their own financial pressure, and even go into debt for these activities.
In order to answer the above questions, I think the mentality is very important, parents should be honest with the source, see through the hype behind the activity, do not save money for these loans, and do not blindly compare.
However, this does not mean that you will not participate, these activities are to develop your child's abilities and show them to society.
However, parents should also see through the essence behind these things, do not forget the essence of education, and do not let it become a pressure for parents' development, or a tool for comparison.
These activities should focus on the essence of education, cultivating children's basic life skills, various technical skills, and qualities, rather than comparisons and pomp.
First of all, parents should not indulge in their children's face, blindly chasing famous brands and pomp, children's feelings are the most important, teach children to have the courage to say "no".
The child feels that the parents buy famous brands with them in order to save money and take out loans, but the children are different, the children will feel that they are not important, and feel that the parents deliberately pursue famous brands and pomp, so they open their mouths and say to their parents "buy a **".
This is not the child's intention, but the parent's intention, and the parent has not taught the child the courage to say "no".
Secondly, parents should also teach their children the right values, so that they understand what is rational consumption and what is irrational consumption.
At this time, parents should actively communicate with their children and teach them to understand what is good and what is not.
It is necessary for children to learn to consume rationally, however, parents should first look at these activities rationally, and do not blindly participate in and cater to them, so that it becomes the development pressure and economic pressure of the family.
Finally, kindergartens should also communicate more with parents, know what parents think, and at the same time tell parents the content of the activity in advance, so that parents are psychologically prepared, so that parents will not have financial pressure.
At the same time, the kindergarten should also communicate more with parents about some of the child's problems, after all, the child is growing, there will inevitably be some problems, and parents will know more about the child's situation than the kindergarten.
epilogue
Finally, parents and schools are all about educating their children better, so I believe that as long as we communicate more, we will be able to educate our children better.
In the face of some hype activities, parents should also bring a heart to see through the essence behind the activities, do not be in a hurry, and slowly cultivate their children's abilities.
With a peaceful heart, educate your children so that they can get more essential education in their education.