After her husband retired, he did not quit 7 times in 4 years, and once even walked for 137 days, Ms. Tu was angry, looking for him everywhere, and even wanted to divorce. What I didn't expect was that my husband said what to do with me, I was forced by you.
Ms. Tu has been married to her husband Lao Wu for 35 years and has a very good son. She looked forward to it, and finally looked forward to the age of retirement, Lao Wu retired from the unit, she hoped that Lao Wu could accompany her like other people's elderly couples, travel twice a year, go to the university for the elderly, learn calligraphy, go out to the park together, go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, and be able to accompany her well.
But the retired old Wu did not want to live such a life, thinking that after a lifetime of being an engineer, he could still exert his residual heat, and some friends' construction sites also needed themselves. Ms. Tu does not agree that he is still working outside, there is no shortage of money at home, and her son has achievements and enjoys life well.
Lao Wu said that I don't like fishing and don't like to play cards, I don't like to do it every day, I like to work, work can make me feel a sense of accomplishment, and I often communicate with many young people and feel physically and mentally happy.
Ms. Tu took a step back and said she could work one or two days a week, up to six days a month. But after Old Wu got busy, he felt that it was not enough, and he wanted to work more working hours. But Both Ms. Tu and her son objected, and he could only leave a note and sneak away.
He had a cerebral infarction before, the doctor said that there is a risk of becoming a vegetative person, and his body is not very sharp, but after working at the construction site, although the living and working environment is not good, there are many mosquitoes, but he feels that his body is much better, and even his legs and feet are also sharp, which makes him firmer in the idea of going out to work.
But Ms. Tu at home was not happy, looking for people everywhere to inquire where he had gone, asking his former unit leader colleagues, and asking his son to contact him to come back, making Lao Wu want to hide more and more and work. Later, there was even a time when I went out for more than 100 days.
After Lao Wu came back once, Ms. Tu directly took a bowl of water and splashed it on Lao Wu's face, and once Lao Wu called a colleague he knew together to mediate, and when he didn't agree, Ms. Tu rushed up and tore his 3,000 yuan cashmere coat, which made him angry. He felt that at home, he still had to endure Ms. Tu's bad temper every day, which was far less comfortable than working outside.
And Ms. Tu feels that they are retired, they should have the appearance of retirement, the wife and wife are old to accompany each other, where there are men like Lao Wu, who say that they do not accompany me and want him to use, moved the idea of divorce, and Lao Wu does not understand, just want to work when exercising, when the value of life is hot or good, how is it so difficult, but also let the marriage for more than 30 years be in jeopardy.
@ Muye Xiaoxiao The leisurely retirement life that Ms. Tu longs for is not what Lao Wu wants, he pays attention to inner experience, can find self-worth in work, and can get respect and appreciation and pleasure in work, which is far happier than what Ms. Tu hopes he will do. Just like some people like to read books and watch movies, some people like to go shopping, the most important thing is to like.
Ms. Tu can not base all the happiness on Lao Wu's body, you can accompany friends to achieve a leisurely and happy life, wait for Lao Wu to work, communicate well and express well, give in to each other, let each other have their own happy space, so that everyone is natural and happy, for this divorce is really not worth it, to learn to enjoy themselves. And the old Wu salary card has always been handed in, in addition to not greasy tongue, love work and love family, but also a rare good man, give him a free space and why bother.
The woman who has love in her heart is actually very good at coaxing, Lao Wu wants to go out to work, the attitude is softer, and coaxing two wives may have unexpected results. #Emotion# #婚姻 #
