Early in the morning, I opened the circle of friends, and a "Return to My Mother's House" by Weiyou Wen Yueyue aroused my interest, saying that the second day of the New Year in their family was the day when the little daughter-in-law returned to her mother's house.
The article is not long, the nostalgia is quite strong, you see:
"The women woke up early, carefully packed themselves up, urged their husbands and children to get up, and the mood of going home became more and more intense, and they were eager to fly back with wings." How image this picture should be, our little daughters-in-law and children around us once back to the mother's house is not this form, like the song sings: "a chicken in the left hand, a duck in the right hand, and a fat doll on the back" is really rare.
"When I was a child, every year at the beginning of the first month of the second month, the family went to my grandmother's house deep in the mountains, more than a dozen miles, over the mountains, there was no transportation, I could only walk, and the enthusiasm for wanting to go has been unabated." Isn't this also the state when we go back to our grandmother's house with our mother when we were young?
Teacher Wen Yueliang, a native of Liulin, Shanxi, now settled in Taiyuan, is a good friend I met from Jianshu. His writings have always been very warm, and it is warm to read, such as these sentences: "Women are very hard, and the heavy responsibility of having children is destined to make them all great people." They are not easy, they will have troubles, when the heavy burden falls on their shoulders, when there is some bitterness to tell, they will think of their mother's home, this is always the safest, the most trustworthy, this is their eternal home. ”
Teacher Wen and I are separated by more than a thousand kilometers, and the customs of the two places should be very different, but the custom of returning to her mother's house on the second day of the New Year is somewhat similar to that of our southwest township of Tongcheng.
Mr. Wu Chao, a good friend, wrote in his article "New Year Customs":
"The second day of the first year: the day of the New Year's Greeting, is also the day when the married daughter takes her husband and children back to her mother's house to pay respects to the New Year, especially after marriage, the new son-in-law's first visit is generally on the second day of the first month of the first month, called 'new guest to the door', the mother's family should be solemnly entertained. This also reflects the importance that traditional Chinese society attaches to in-law relations. Another activity of the second year of the first year is to worship the god of wealth, and in the middle of the night of this day, people will all go out to the temple of wealth to ask for 'yuan treasure' in order to develop the fortunes of the new year.
The second day of the first year of tongcheng beixiang is the day of worshiping the new spirit (the family of the family who died in the first year), so it is not possible to run around at will, and some people think that the second day of the first year is not a good day, but in fact, this is a misunderstanding. The second day of the first lunar month is the first double day of the new year, and it is the embodiment of a beautiful rural style to comfort the families of those who have lost their relatives in the first year. ”
Mr. Wu Chao is a rural folklore expert, and he has a lot of written records of the agricultural customs of agricultural tools that are being lost, which is endlessly evocative and highly readable. His home is located on the dividing line between the north and south of Tongcheng, so he understands the two meanings of the second day of the Tongcheng New Year very thoroughly.
I belong to the Tongcheng Xixiang people, and the custom of the second day of the New Year is to worship the new spirit. Last year, a cousin in the village died at the age of 80, considering the importance of epidemic prevention, the children of the cousin greeted and said that the new spirit worship activity on the second day of the New Year was canceled, and they received the wishes of the neighbors.
In the millennium, my mother and grandmother died in the same year, my mother was in March, my grandmother was in November, and on the second day of the new year of the second year, our family would receive worship from the villagers. The cousin prepared wine and food to entertain the villagers who came to worship grandma, and we entertained the villagers who came to worship their mother.
The sudden death of the mother is confusing, in previous years, the big things and small things in the family were all mother Zhang Luo, we don't have to worry, now that the mother is gone, we must pick up this burden.
Fortunately, our second son is cooking, she is smart and capable, she bought the ingredients she needed one by one years ago, and began to divide the work at breakfast on the first day of the new year. Her father has a thick personality, calm action and pounding pot holes, younger brother is better responsible for cutting vegetables, the second son is omnipotent, cooking and frying, and the heat and color of dishes are under her control.
My task is the lightest, responsible for taking care of the children, one and a half years old girls have no one to take care of them, take them by the way, hand them firewood, add stoves or something, everything is carried out in an orderly manner. The sun was tilted to the west, and the whole preparation work was over, only for the second day of the first year to come.
Worship the new spirit, the People of Xixiang should do it early, and there will be relatives and friends coming at five o'clock. The sun of the first month likes to sleep lazily, and the fish belly is white at six o'clock in the east. Relatives and friends who arrived early carried gifts into the door, greeted the New Year, the family took it, served tea and handed cigarettes to please sit, pulled the family home, and waited for the guests to come to the table to open the meal. There are also a few relatives and friends who want to run more than one, and they will say goodbye after a cup of tea.
When I was young, I went to the elders' house with adults to worship the new spirits, and I was most afraid of kowtowing to the statue, in fact, there was nothing, but the atmosphere was special. When my mother was alive, she rarely took pictures, and after she left, she could not find a good photo, so she had to give up and avoid the link of prostrating, which is a pity to think about now.
Relatives and friends ate and drank table by table, and after drinking and eating, they bid farewell one by one. Those who usually do not meet each other often take this opportunity to sit together, chatting with great pleasure, talking about their past and future, interspersed with nostalgia for the deceased.
In the afternoon, the relatives and friends who came to visit xinling all left, unless the relatives who came again rarely on a long way would stay overnight and then leave.
In the afternoon, dishes were washed and shabu-shabu, tables and stools were sorted out, garbage was cleaned up, and the activities on the second day of the New Year ended.
On the second day of the Chinese New Year, whether it is Teacher Wen's return to his mother's home or Mr. Wu Chao's writing of worshiping the new spirit, it is an integral part of the Spring Festival New Year, reflecting people's respect and gratitude for nostalgia and affection. #Brother Painter # #过年了 Chinese New Year's Eve Year of the Tiger # #年初二 Reminisce about the past #
