Last Friday's article, family education, lack of planning, will go farther and farther on the wrong road mentioned that family education should be well planned, otherwise, it will either blindly breed or chaotic, and go farther and farther on the wrong road.
Since we want to do planning, we must involve the problem of where to start and how to do planning.
There are two protagonists of homeschooling, children and parents.
Children are the main body of family education, and parents are the operators of family education.
The latter is responsible for planning, and applies this plan to the foreman.
Then in order to ensure that this plan is reasonable and correct, to ensure the correct results of family education, and to ensure whether the children can grow up healthily, high requirements are put forward for planners.
There are two main aspects of such requirements, and the planning of family education can start from these two aspects.
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Get to know your child holistically
First, parents, as planners, should have a comprehensive understanding of their own planning subjects, children.
Understand his personality characteristics, internal characteristics, growth characteristics of each stage of growth, growth tasks, the environment and conditions he needs to grow.
To put it simply, it is to continuously broaden your knowledge of knowing children and improve your cognition.
The premise of education is to have a lot of information, and with the help of this information, make the right educational methods.
The process of obtaining information is the process of understanding children.
Lack of understanding of children, their own information density is not enough, may make the wrong way of education.
For example, a child of about 1 year old, whose parents take him to play outdoors, sees a beautiful leaf on the ground, picks it up, and then puts it in his mouth.
If, if parents do not understand, at this stage of the child's exploration of the outside world, through the "mouth" to complete, will mistakenly think that the child does not pay attention to hygiene, put everything into the mouth, and then take some negative measures to interrupt and stop the child's exploration;
When the child reaches the age of 2, he accidentally hits a key on the ground, and the key makes a noise, and he will keep throwing it to the ground.
You pick it up, he throws it down, and the cycle goes on and on.
If parents do not understand the characteristics of the child's growth at this stage, they think that he deliberately throws things, they may blame him and scold him.
For another example, the child has just entered the first grade, usually read the text, must be loud, and suddenly one day, he began to make no sound.
It turned out that he had discovered the secret of silent reading, which allowed him to save trouble, be lazy, skip words he did not know, and avoid reading, because adults could not find out.
If parents do not understand and recognize this little secret of their children in time, "little smart", they will neglect to educate and guide in this regard.
You see, these subtle growth processes and growth characteristics of children are all a kind of information that determines the method of education.
And the acquisition of this information can only be observed and understood by those who are with him every day.
Others, even experts, psychologists, educators, teachers, can't do it.
Not to mention, those different children from the same family, although their family environment is almost the same, their personality, temperament, inner, and preferences are completely different.
These are something that only parents can understand.
This is similar to family health care, the best health caregivers, the best doctors, must be ourselves.
Because no one knows more about our bodies, routines, diets, and other factors that determine health than we do.
In the same way, in family education, the best teacher of a child must be the parent.
Because whose children, who knows best what it's like.
No one, can do it, know their children better than parents, be more familiar with their children's preferences and behaviors, know their children's growth environment, and grasp more information about their children.
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Know yourself and adjust yourself
The second is to start from the parents themselves, to understand themselves, adjust themselves, and let themselves reach the level that planners and implementers need to have.
Because parents are the direct implementers of family education, their mood is good or bad, their own words, an action will affect the child's way of doing things, psychological changes, inner thoughts.
"Whoever a child follows, he will learn." This sentence perfectly explains how much childhood upbringing affects a person.
The original family is the background of the child's growth, and it affects the trajectory of the child's destiny.
Whether the child's growth background is gloomy and gray, or sunny, only promises, or self-confidence and generosity, to a large extent, is determined by the parents as the implementer.
Since ancient times, China has said, "If you don't teach, your father is at fault."
In modern times, the person responsible for uneducated parenting has changed to parent.
Therefore, if you want to do a good job in family education and become a parent, you must also constantly improve your own energy, set a good example for your children, cultivate yourself, and make yourself reach a qualified level.
After all, the parents' energy is sufficient, the energy is high, the energy is positive, and the child's energy is also sufficient, high, and positive;
vice versa.
Final words
Family education, lack of planning, either blind breeding, or chaotic education, on the wrong road to go farther and farther.
How do I plan and where to start?
First, parents start with their children and fully understand their children;
Second, parents start from themselves, understand themselves, and adjust themselves.
As a parent, it is a great thing to be able to develop a unique parenting method for the child according to his characteristics, and to teach according to his aptitude, and everyone cheers together.