Text / Wake up
Editor / Little Love Letter
"I was hurt in my previous relationship, and it was she who taught me the true meaning of love."
This is what actor Liu Yijun and his wife Lu Ziyuan said the day after they were just licensed, who could have imagined that this seemingly beautiful marriage a few years later would eventually come to an end.
When Lu Ziyuan met Liu Yijun, Liu Yijun was still an ordinary actor with no name, but she just fell in love with him without reservation, grew up with him, and taught him what love is.
Just growing up with a boy is a very risky thing in itself, like embracing a cactus, giving him love and warmth, and taking away his full body of thorns.
"Love, mostly the predecessors planted trees, the posterity cool."
And Lü Ziyuan is probably also one of the "tree plantings".
01
Lu Ziyuan is a Xi'an girl, far from home to Beijing alone to drift and work, after several years of hard work, but also mixed with a senior white-collar worker in the financial industry.
The days are very plain, every day from nine to five, two o'clock and one line of days she feels very satisfied, but the parents in the hometown do not think so, watching their daughter's career success, but in the feelings but there is no movement.
Therefore, whenever Lu Ziyuan had time to call home, her father always asked Lu Ziyuan's mother on the other end of the phone:
"My daughter is calling, do you want to say a few words?"
Worried Mother Lu always responded without anger:
"She doesn't look for a boyfriend, she listens to any phone calls, she doesn't listen."
Lu Ziyuan was very embarrassed, so she had to hurriedly find a reason to hang up the phone.
She knew that her parents were also thinking about herself, in fact, at first she also had the idea of falling in love, and then getting married and having children.
Just living in a metropolis like Beijing, everyone is running for their own life prospects, there is no time for self-care work, and they rarely encounter a reliable object.
Over time, Lu Ziyuan also gradually stopped this idea.
I thought that instead of having this time to think about these loves and loves, it would be better to work hard to earn money and live my own life.
Just when she was no longer attached to her feelings, a marriage relationship quietly found the door.
A good relationship of the eldest sister called to say that she wanted to introduce her to a good man, the eldest sister said that the other party was called Liu Yijun, the other did not say much, let her have time to search the Internet, told Lu Ziyuan the time and place to meet, then hung up the phone.
When Lu Ziyuan first heard the name Liu Yijun, she felt somewhat familiar.
A search on the Internet to know that he was originally an actor, looking at the photos on the web page, it seems that he is not particularly handsome, so he did not pay too much attention to this meeting, thinking that it was better to complete the task.
Soon came the day of the meeting, which happened to be when Lu Ziyuan returned to Beijing from a business trip and returned home to plan to change her clothes and go to the appointment.
Thinking that Liu Yijun is an actor, he should see a lot of beautiful women in the entertainment industry, and no matter how he dresses up, he can't compare to female stars.
So I didn't bother about how to make a fuss, and I casually put on short-sleeved jeans and went to the appointment.
When I came to the restaurant, the eldest sister and Liu Yijun had already arrived, and Lu Ziyuan felt embarrassed, explained to them the reason for her late arrival, and sat down to chat with them for a while.
Although Lu Ziyuan did not have much expectation for this meeting, and was not cold to Liu Yijun, after all, the first meeting always felt very awkward, and it did not take long to chat with Lü Ziyuan to plan to take advantage of the reason.
Unexpectedly, the eldest sister has been asking Liu Yijun to send Lu Ziyuan home.
Liu Yijun saw that it was not easy to refuse, so he drove Lü Ziyuan home, on the way Lü Ziyuan casually looked at the scenery outside the window, Liu Yijun may be to alleviate the embarrassment, casually asked:
"You're going on a business trip for a while, aren't you?"
Lu Ziyuan said yes, and Liu Yijun responded when he saw the situation:
"Then I'll invite you to dinner before you go on a business trip, and I'll do it for you."
Lü Ziyuan agreed, and then the two gradually had some contacts, after eating a meal, Liu Yijun once again proposed to send herself when she was on a business trip, And Lu Ziyuan thought it was good, and she agreed again.
As they went, the two became as familiar as friends, not as reserved as at first, although the initial embarrassment was eliminated.
But the two have really always respected each other, and the real development of the relationship between the two is due to an outing.
02
Lu Ziyuan is also a person who enjoys life very much, because of her busy work, so that she is very concerned about the relaxation of weekends and holidays.
As her relationship with Liu Yijun grew, Lu Ziyuan asked Liu Yijun if she wanted to go on an outing in Huairou together to relax her mood.
Liu Yijun as an actor, working hours are more irregular, to Huairou is only work, has not really played, heard Lu Ziyuan's proposal, without more thinking and readily agreed.
Lu Ziyuan was a person with a plan, so before leaving, he asked Liu Yijun to do a strategy together, and carefully wrote down the plan and route for going out on the paper.
When she was seriously writing the strategy, Liu Yijun, who was on the side, looked at the serious, beautiful girl in front of her, and a good feeling rose in her heart.
Because among the girls he knew, there were very few who could write such a good word.
Here Liu Yijun's mind about Lü Ziyuan changed, but On the other side, Lu Ziyuan, who was bent on making a strategy, did not find it at all, and was still thinking about how to spend an outing with Liu Yijun this time.
Soon it was time for the outing, And Lu Ziyuan and Liu Yijun played for a day according to the route planned on the strategy, and both of them were very happy.
Soon after a day's outing, Liu Yijun drove Lu Ziyuan home.
After arriving at the door, Lu Ziyuan and Liu Yijun said goodbye and prepared to enter the door.
At this moment, Liu Yijun suddenly stopped her, talking about the ease and comfort she felt in today's travel, and she cried inexplicably, which stunned Lu Ziyuan.
Later, Lu Ziyuan thought that Liu Yijun was an actor, born sensitive, plus he was usually very busy and did not have time to go out to play, which may be a momentary emotion so he cried.
Liu Yijun's behavior actually made Lü Ziyuan feel that this person was very real, and his good feeling value for him also increased a lot.
On the other side, Liu Yijun had different thoughts about Lu Ziyuan as early as when he was doing the strategy, and naturally the two began to become lovers and talked about sweet love.
03
Lu Ziyuan may not know much about love, but most of the girls in the north dare to love and hate, and if they know love, they must say it out loud, and if they miss it, they will go to him.
Therefore, when Liu Yijun was filming in Xi'an, Lu Ziyuan went to several times, just to meet her sweetheart, and once went to give Liu Yijun a big surprise.
That time, Lu Ziyuan was also improvised, that is, she suddenly wanted to see Liu Yijun. I learned Liu Yijun's address by phone before.
Therefore, in the early morning, I bought a ticket to Liu Yijun's downstairs, in order to give him a surprise, Lu Ziyuan also went directly up and called Liu Yijun first:
"I came to Xi'an to play, you come downstairs to pick me up, I am downstairs Yonghe soybean milk for breakfast."
Here Liu Yijun woke up and thought he was dreaming.
Although he knew that the downstairs was indeed Yonghe soy milk, he still did not believe that Lu Ziyuan had come to him, and must be looking for himself to be happy, so he did not pay too much attention to it, and hung up the phone after saying a few words.
Lü Ziyuan saw that Liu Yijun did not believe it, so she made another phone call and said:
"If you don't pick me up, I'll go to the art center opposite."
At this time, Liu Yijun completely woke up, Lu Ziyuan really came downstairs, the phone was too late to hang up, and she quickly changed clothes and went downstairs to pick up her girlfriend.
Later, Liu Yijun also used his human way to treat his body, and when Lü Ziyuan was working, he secretly flew from Xi'an to Beijing to plan to "raid" Lü Ziyuan.
However, when he just got off the plane, Liu Yijun suddenly thought of lu Ziyuan's neck discomfort before, so he first went to buy a comfortable pillow, planning to give it to Lu Ziyuan as a gift later.
Immediately after that, he went downstairs to Lu Ziyuan's "waiting for the rabbit".
Here Lu Ziyuan did not know that there would be a big surprise in the future.
She just opened the door with a key card after work, and a man followed close behind, holding a pillow to cover her face, following herself into the elevator and not pressing the floor, Lu Ziyuan thought that she would not meet any bad people.
Lu Ziyuan, who was suspicious in her heart, did not make a sound and kept staring at this strange man.
Until he slowly lowered the pillow to reveal his eyes, she found that it was her boyfriend Liu Yijun, who she missed day and night, and hugged together ecstatically for a while, happy.
At this moment, Lu Ziyuan let Liu Yijun understand that love is originally a romantic thing, and she is willing to miss and pursue for the sake of the other party.
The love affair between the two proceeded sweetly like this, and Lu Ziyuan thought that God had given her such a good boyfriend was lucky enough.
Who knew that God had given her another big gift, that is, she was pregnant.
When Liu Yijun learned of this news, he was very happy in his heart, and he was also a very responsible man, and immediately expressed that he wanted to marry Lu Ziyuan.
Looking at the man who had sworn in front of her, Lu Ziyuan felt that she had found the right person in her life, and it didn't take long for her to take Liu Yijun home to meet her parents.
Liu Yijun used only one promise to obtain the consent of his father-in-law and mother-in-law:
"I will be good to Lu Ziyuan for the rest of my life and let her be happy and happy for a lifetime."
After getting the consent of Lü Ziyuan's parents, in 1997, Lü Ziyuan and Liu Yijun completed the major event of marriage and children in this year.
When the two got married, they invited all their relatives and friends to witness their happiness, and at this moment Lu Ziyuan taught Liu Yijun love, responsibility and loyalty.
It's just that the promise of too beautiful is too young, when after marriage, after time precipitation, after life polishing, gradually love and passion are diluted by daily trivialities.
The sweetness of the past is ultimately not enough to withstand the consumption of chai rice oil and salt.
04
After marriage, Liu Yijun and Lü Ziyuan had to face a problem, when family life asked one of them to give up his job, who would that person be, both of them loved their work, and the person who finally made concessions was Lu Ziyuan.
In Lu Ziyuan's heart, Liu Yijun is a very powerful and acting actor, and he is willing to shelve or give up his career for Liu Yijun, handle family chores for him, and become the woman behind him.
So After marriage, Lu Ziyuan has actually been trying to adjust her work and make her work more regular and relaxed, so that she has time to take care of her family and let Liu Yijun concentrate on her work.
After getting the support of his wife, Liu Yijun was more motivated to rush his career, spending most of the year in the crew, and was bound to make some achievements and never live up to Lu Ziyuan's sacrifice.
Therefore, after the marriage, Lü Ziyuan and Liu Yijun gathered less and more, the feelings gradually faded, the former intimacy disappeared, and the only thing left was to take care of each other without words.
Coupled with the fact that Liu Yijun's career did not improve in those years, this invisibly deepened the contradiction between husband and wife.
In fact, there will be problems in the marriage of the two. It should have been expected that the two were married at that time, and did not carefully consider whether the two were suitable for marriage and whether they would live together for a lifetime.
The gap between Lu Ziyuan and Liu Yijun is too big, first of all, the industry in which the two work is unrelated, there are few common topics, and it is impossible to share and understand the problems encountered in each other's work.
Marriages that are difficult to communicate and share are difficult to maintain for a long time, and separation is sooner or later.
Coupled with the reasons for Liu Yijun's work, a film is a few months, which in itself is a great challenge for marriage.
Lu Ziyuan's long-term non-meeting during the love period can be regarded as "xiao bei sheng new marriage", but every time he is needed after marriage, he is not there, and over time, the estrangement between husband and wife is deepened.
In the end, Lü Ziyuan and Liu Yijun still divorced, and several years of marriage came to an end, as to whether the real reason for their divorce was to gather less and leave more, or whether It was Lü Ziyuan who looked at Liu Yijun's unproductive career and was discouraged.
The parties have never explained, and we have no way of knowing that since there are two differences, the best thing is to have fun with each other.
And Liu Yijun may have considered that it would be more difficult for a woman to juggle children and work after Lü Ziyuan when she divorced.
Moreover, Lü Ziyuan was still young, and it was not easy to remarry with a child, so she took the initiative to raise the child herself, which was also the last time to consider Lu Ziyuan.
05
After Lü Ziyuan and Liu Yijun divorced, they returned to their own lives, perhaps still alone in Beijing to work hard, perhaps they have found a good person again, and have a new family, we have no way of knowing.
After Liu Yijun divorced, he entrusted his son to the care of his parents, and only married again when his son was 12 years old, and soon had a lovely daughter.
The current wife is dedicated to her son, and when she is in the middle school entrance examination and other life nodes, she also accompanies him to review until twelve o'clock in the middle of the night and gets along very well.
The son has now graduated from the Beijing Film Academy, and his appearance has inherited from his parents, he is very handsome, and he has also inherited his father's business and become an actor.
It is worth mentioning that when Lu Ziyuan wholeheartedly supported Liu Yijun's career, Liu Yijun's career did not improve.
It turns out that Liu Yijun's ability is not good, but because Liu Yijun is a late bloomer, and his acting skills that have been tempered and polished by time have now become a powerful actor in the audience's heart.
However, even if Liu Yijun develops well, it has nothing to do with Lu Ziyuan, but I don't know if she will miss the time when she desperately went to see Liu Yijun, and whether she will remember the sweetheart who promised to make her happy and happy for a lifetime in front of her parents.
Perhaps she was also regretting that if she had insisted on it again, would it be that the woman standing next to Liu Yijun now was her.
But to miss is to miss, no matter how much they loved at the beginning, now the two have been overwhelmed by water.
Liu Yijun also found her own happiness again, as for Lu Ziyuan, we know very little, and we hope that she can let go of the past and find someone who is good to her.
Therefore, in love, the order of appearance is indeed important, but it is not as long as it is early enough, but also the right time, and it is necessary to meet the right person at the right time to achieve a good story.
Perhaps for Liu Yijun and Lu Ziyuan, they once fell in love with each other, but it seems that the timing of the encounter is not mature enough, unable to continue to love each other, and each other has become a passer-by in each other's lives.
Although Lu Ziyuan taught Liu Yijun what love is and what responsibility is, and also accompanied him to grow from a big boy to a responsible man, she missed it in the end.
The love story of Lu Ziyuan and Liu Yijun is divided into three stages, namely "beautiful love", "serious love" and "responsible love"
So, in love, the depth of love is not important, what is important is the time of love.
Beauty lies in the first acquaintance with love, love lies in respect and seriousness, seriousness lies in two responsibilities, responsibility lies in staying together for a lifetime...