"You are the best toy for children" reading sharing 06 - emotional guidance in infancy

In the previous part, we shared the methods and steps of "emotional guidance" education, and we also need to pay attention to a problem, that is, the stage of children's development.

The author divides the growth process of young children into three stages: infancy, 2-3 years old, and 4-7 years old, and introduces how to implement emotionally guided education at different ages

Emotional guidance in infancy

Infancy refers to the period between the birth of a child and the pre-two years of age, which is a period of preparation for emotional guidance

If the child lives in an environment that lacks interaction, it may affect their social skills later on; if the child is fully cared for and cared for, it is more conducive to the formation of a friendly personality and the ability to maintain long-term and healthy emotional relationships.

How to give your child enough emotional care?

Newborns are not spoiled

Babies under 6 months of age, due to limitations in the level of brain development, are unable to control their own behavior, and their ability to comfort themselves is extremely limited, almost entirely dependent on the person who cares for him.

Parents should not be afraid to spoil their babies, but need to devote themselves to taking care of their babies, paying attention to their every reaction at any time, carefully observing their body language, including smiling, frowning, tearing, crying, rubbing their eyes, and so on.

Parents are almost symbiotic with their children and become an expert in interpreting their children so that they can figure out when their children need to be alone and when they need to be quiet for a while.

Your intuition will tell you when to shake and hug, and your baby will tell you when to let your child rest and enjoy the peace.

Give the child comfort in time, do not let the child cry all the time

There is a view that newborns should be allowed to develop the habit of drinking milk and sleeping regularly, parents do not have to pay too much attention to their children's crying, and the so-called cry immunity method.

The authors argue that children under 6 months of age still need parents to help them fall asleep peacefully and peacefully in a way that coaxes and comforts them.

Babies need the company of their parents

Professional institutions have done in-depth research on children's living environments, and they have found that children who grow up in a warm and rich social environment are more satisfied and more balanced.

That is to say, what children need is not a variety of toys, but your own interaction and emotional communication with him.

Parents can make eye contact by talking to the baby, imitating the baby's voice, tactile games (such as touching, doing exercises), eye contact, etc. Promotes positive communication and deepens emotions.

Comfort blankets, plush toys and pacifiers

Many parents worry that items like comfort blankets, plush toys, and pacifiers can cause their children to grow emotionally.

In fact, a beloved soothing object can help a child of all ages to develop his ability to comfort himself.

Because young children are not good at regulating their emotions, they need a transitional object to help comfort them, which can provide them with a more peaceful state.

Parents worry that their children will continue this habit forever.

In fact, when the child reaches a certain age, the pressure from the same age will slowly give up the pacifier and the toy.

If the child is holding a comfort toy all the time, or is already older and still holding a comfort toy, then parents need to be vigilant whether the child is experiencing any pressure or problem. It's not the fault of the soothing toy, the soothing toy just acts as a reminder.

How to deal with your child's separation anxiety

Babies show symptoms of separation anxiety as early as 6 months old.

Separation anxiety can take many forms, and a child may cry when you leave the room and may follow you throughout the day.

Crying at night can also be a manifestation of separation anxiety, and sleeping separately with mom and dad is a terrible thing for children. Crying at night can also be a manifestation of separation anxiety, and sleeping separately with mom and dad is a terrible thing for children.

Separation anxiety is brewing before you even leave. And anxiety is contagious, the more you are not at ease to leave, the more your baby is not at ease to hand it over to others to take care of, and your baby will be more and more worried.

Parents can use ordinary short absences to gradually adapt their children. You can practice a brief separation with your baby by going to your neighbor's house for a while, or going downstairs to get a courier.

Children can be provided with a dependent item, such as comfort blankets, plush toys.

Don't sneak away, this will make your child have stronger separation anxiety, and he will be more worried about your disappearing at any time.

Parents don't have to feel guilty about their children's separation anxieties. Parents may feel content with their child's dependence and sometimes get bored, which is a normal emotion. Parents need to find ways to cultivate their children's independence and also need to respect their children's need for security. , which requires finding a balance point.

The importance of a regular evening schedule

Children do not sleep at night, all kinds of noise, for parents, is the most tossing thing.

At night, I have to coax the baby, during the day I have to work and do housework, and I don't have to rest at all.

A regular bedtime routine is essential for your child to have good sleep habits. It can relax the child, soothe the child's emotions, make them feel safe and stable, and fall asleep more easily.

For example, play with your child for a while at night to consume your child's excess physical strength.

Then play some soothing games with your child to reduce your child's excitement.

Give your child a set time to wash, change diapers, and change into pajamas.

Tell your child a bedtime story every day, or a fixed bedtime farewell.

Soothing music can be played or white noise can be used to help you sleep.

Understanding the emotional communication of infant children, the next article, we share, as children grow, what parents tend to ignore.