I believe that most children have the experience of being "taught" by their parents, and after some children make mistakes, parents will use corporal punishment to let their children "long memory".
And each child reacts differently when punished.
Some children will do whatever he wants and will behave very obediently, while some children will "slip away".
In fact, when mistakes are punished, the difference between children who run and those who don't run is very big when they grow up:
Children who are beaten and cannot move
Most parents think that children who obediently accept punishment in the same place are very obedient, but in fact, they are often introverted and inferior, which also makes them dare not resist.
Rather than saying that they are obedient, it is better to say that they are more conservative in personality, it is difficult to accept new things, they do not know how to be flexible when encountering things, and they are more inclined to be conservative when choosing.
Such a child is easy to suffer losses when he grows up, and if there is still a shadow of childhood, his personality will be more inferior.
After entering the society, it is difficult for them to make great achievements, because they are introverted and cowardly, and they are easily bullied by others, and even depressed. Therefore, it is the child who is more well-behaved than the parents should protect.
Children who run when they are beaten
Some children are more naughty, and when they are beaten, they will immediately run away or turn behind their parents.
Most of these children's personalities are innate, and even if parents deliberately cultivate them, they may not be able to form this brave nature.
Children who are beaten and run often have a more cheerful personality, because they have the courage to fight, but also know how to be flexible, this kind of personality is also very popular after growing up and entering society.
What parents should do
1. Listen to your child's ideas
Parents should be good at observing their children's thoughts, regardless of whether the child will communicate with you or not.
If the child wants to express something, parents must first listen to the child's ideas, and then give certain advice.
As a parent, don't always think that your child is still young and doesn't understand anything. In fact, children will also have their own ideas and opinions. Don't think that children are very naïve, they are also very much in need of parental support and understanding.
2. Parents should not throw tantrums casually
If the child's personality is more introverted and not good at communication, parents must control their temper and try to maintain peace of mind when educating their children.
After the child has made a mistake, just let him admit it, so that they will not become more cowardly and inferior.
3. Parents should lead by example
Parents' usual communication often affects children's cognition, children can take the initiative to admit mistakes and correct them after seeing their parents make mistakes, and children will become such people.
Parents are the biggest role models for children, and the personality of parents also determines what children do in the future.
4. Don't scold your child
Scolding children has a far more serious impact on children than we think.
Of course, it is not that you can't hit at all, but to maintain a certain amount of strength, it is absolutely undesirable to slap the child's ass and beat the child with a fierce hand.
Scolding children is also undesirable, verbal abuse, more likely to hurt children's self-esteem.