Text | Rice grain mom
At the end of each year and the beginning of the year, I was busy "hitting the back of my head with my feet".
A bunch of trivial things to deal with at work; plus the end of the rice period + winter vacation, the study of things can not not be stared at; this is almost the New Year, but also to the family, to the rice granny grandmother, the rice grain grandmother's family are ready for the New Year goods; recently the stomach is not very comfortable, but also want to take advantage of the Spring Festival to go to the hospital to do a gastroscope ...
It's not enough time to break into eight petals
Rice daddy every day to let me hurry to go to the gastroscope, I am procrastinating, because I know myself, this stomach disease is not a day or two things, the probability is not a big problem, it should still be gastritis.
Now because of the epidemic, there are several more steps than the previous gastroscopy, run the hospital twice, it is already busy, even if there is this kung fu!
A while ago, because of the final review, I got angry with the rice grain, and in the evening, the rice grain father forwarded this to me
I couldn't stop crying and laughing.
I know what Rice Daddy wants to say.
Raising a baby, we must walk the heart, but also can not be too careful.
But what to do? Turning off the lights and lying on the bed, I thought about it and touched my rice grain dad with my elbow: Or the rice grain will review at the end of the term, you come.
After waiting for half a minute, My Rice Daddy responded to me with a high and low, uneven breathing sound
Seriously, there is Puwa at home, don't wait for him to take the initiative to make two sets of papers, correct the wrong question, or write an essay.
The family has Puwa, don't expect extravagantly, you say, he can do it, he does it, he can do it well.
The experience of raising a baby for so many years has taught me: baby, when you are young, you have to coax, and when you grow up, you have to coax. Don't coax, what is appropriate is to embarrass yourself and can't live with yourself.
For example, if the grain of rice is made at home to make an exercise book, it can be done in half an hour, and he has to cut the eraser, play with the pen, and be in a daze...
remind? The reminder is only 30 seconds, and after 30 seconds, it is in a state of emptiness.
Of course, yelling is useless, and if yelling kids work, wouldn't everyone be able to 985
At this time, I can only "coax" with my conscience, and all kinds of rainbow farts have made me believe.
Fortunately, the rice grains ate this set, as long as he coaxed it into place, he honestly made the rolls.
Learning tasks, I dare not arrange too full, there is no time reserved to play, people are going to "uprising", when the time comes to bargain with me, and then move out of the rice grain grandpa, then I really can't eat and go.
The last time she complained to her girlfriend, her girlfriend nodded desperately, indicating that her home was the same.
My girlfriend's family is a 5-year-old boy who has to make some moths 5 minutes before each foreign teacher class.
The girlfriend summed it up, but whenever her tone was a little stiff, the baby began to cry, looking at the moment when the child's brow frowned, the girlfriend knew that 100% of the money for this lesson was floating.
Several times the child cried and sat down in front of the iPad, and the girlfriend said: The expression from the foreign teacher, if I just abused the child, I believe it myself.
Thanks to the fact that it is not abroad, otherwise the foreign teacher may have to call the police
The girlfriend wants to return the remaining class time countless times, although the probability can only be returned to a fraction, but really do not want to add to their own blockage. However, when I thought that if I withdrew, I would never be able to repay it again, and I still didn't want to.
Therefore, before each foreign teacher class, the girlfriend must prepare and lay the groundwork in advance, take a deep breath, carefully adjust her emotions, and at the same time, never let the child indulge in something, such as watching cartoons, playing Lego, playing Ultraman, playing with all the fun toys...
Because once he plays, it means that he will not want to go to class, which means that before class is another hard battle.
The girlfriend said that it was really too difficult, every time the scolding words mentioned the throat eyes, hard to swallow back, accompanied by a smiley face, said good words, coaxed the baby shun shun smoothly to take the class.
Usually, coaxing the small is not enough, and we middle-aged people have to go between coaxing the old and coaxing the small every day.
The girlfriend said that as long as her baby cried, her grandmother also cried, and then her grandfather was uncomfortable, and a series of chain reactions were like the butterfly effect.
When the child was eating, he ran off the table six or seven times in the middle of a meal, and the girlfriend severely approved the baby, the baby cried, and the grandmother also cried, and the grandfather slapped the table and shouted: I have to train the child when eating, a good meal, make the chicken fly and the dog jump, the whole family will eat badly together, I will have a heart attack.
Can you be tough at this time? Don't dare to provoke heart disease patients.
Girlfriends and husbands can only look at each other, one coaxing the old, one coaxing the small.
When I was in elementary school, my grandparents came to my house every day to help pick me up, buy vegetables, and cook, so my parents and my grandparents ate together every day.
My dad and my grandma often had conflicts, and each time it ended with my grandma getting angry and "having a heart attack," covering her chest and leaning over the couch.
Oh no, it ends with the whole family coaxing Grandma. Now that I think about it, it seems that each generation of middle-aged people has their own pain
Another friend of mine also said that educating children would never dare to educate in front of the elderly.
Friends and couples go to work far, go out early every day, in the morning are grandma to send children to school, children do not get up, grandma is reluctant to call, so that every day to get up very late, grandma is afraid of children late, so every day to the child to dress and wear pants, wipe face and hands.
Later friends know, educated the children a meal, to the effect that they are 7 years old, and not a baby, how to let adults wear clothes, you are not going to wear, kindergarten are dressed well, after Grandma came, how can the ability deteriorate?
As a result, grandma heard this, and directly packed her bags to go back to her hometown: what was good before, now it has degenerated, blame me?! I can't take the child well, I go! Whoever brings it well, who do you let bring it!
The friend was directly stupid, and did not expect that the words of educating the child hit the glass heart of the mother.
Saying that it was late and fast, the friend immediately bowed and confessed his mistake, said all the good words, and cried bitterly and wept for self-reflection, which stabilized his mother.
Friends said that after this, anyone who wants to make a little request to Grandma must do two hours of preparation, list all the advantages and good places of Grandma, exaggerate the flowers, praise the height, and finally inadvertently mention the little bit of what needs to be improved.
Then, while Grandma was still immersed in the joy of being recognized and "touted" for the previous two hours, the friend quickly fled the scene.
In such a comparison, I am still in the blessing, after all, I do not live under the eyes of the elderly
But occasionally, it is still necessary to resist interference in the process of tutoring children's learning.
In our family, the biggest disturbance is not from the outside, but from the core member of the internal party, Grandpa Rice.
Before giving rice grains to report for classes, rice grain grandpa knocked me all day, saying that the child is too tired, only primary school, there is no need to spend this money, rice grains at this age is the time to play hard, high school children themselves know that hard work, when the time comes to study hard, it is too late.
Then think back to that year, his high school teacher has not yet read high school, learning is not all on their own, and then use a thick Hubei accent to say: the boat to the bridge is naturally straight (zí)!
The blessing of Grandpa Tomi, the various classes of rice grains, now I don't want to go up. I had a hunch that if I dared to save a class for the grain of rice in private, my father would be able to report me without anyone else reporting it
Last weekend, my grandmother and grandfather came to eat at home, and I arranged for rice grains to make a set of rolls, and as a result, I was "grabbed" by my grandfather on the spot.
Grandpa Rice finally gave me a killer skill: he could no longer arrange so many learning tasks for Rice during the winter vacation, otherwise, he would not help pick up and drop off rice in football training.
Witty I did not think of how to respond, the rice grain grandmother preemptively spoke:
On such a cold day, what kind of ball is played, it is all outdoors, how cold, and then the child is frozen, the big New Year's Day.
Then, there is no then. My head was buzzing and I was about to get unconscious.
The two old people have a clear division of labor, one grasps learning, the other grasps life.
The rice grain grandfather stared at the study of the rice grain, lest the rice grain learn too much and the childhood was unhappy; the rice grain master grasped the life of the rice grain, afraid that the rice grain was sick, hungry, and tired.
In the past, I had privately broken up with my grandmother and grandfather.
Regarding learning, the rice grain is really a Puwa, I do not have unrealistic fantasies and requirements for him, but we always have to work hard, do not pursue advanced, super-program, super difficult, we are learning in school, you also have to practice to consolidate the knowledge points, test the science has not learned it?!
Rice grain even watched a "Dog Man", laughing forward and backward, rice grain grandfather felt that he was learning.
Playing football is the favorite of the rice grains, but the rice grains are afraid of the rice grains freezing, tired, and falling.
Later, I found that these things could never be clear with the old man.
Just like when I went abroad, My Rice Grandma washed her face with tears all day, often drove to the door of her house, did not come home, sat in the car and cried, making her girlfriend think that Grandpa Rice had done something sorry for the family
Every day, I called my grandmother to lay out the facts and reason with her, and I felt that I had made it clear and that she wanted to understand. The next day, thinking about it and crying. (This experience, I also wrote before," In my first year of college, I saved my family $500,000!") 》）
Head-to-head with the old man, you will lose!
We are still, thirty-six plans, "coaxing" as the best policy.
Recently, I was chatting with a friend whose child is already in high school, and she left me a heartfelt sentence: When your child is in high school, all you can do is cook more and talk less.
Me: Just don't be coaxed.
Friend: People don't give you the opportunity to coax ah, what you have to do is "don't mess with people"
Well, on the confession, middle-aged people are the "roll king"!
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