Introduction: In the case that the child can directly deal with the problem, parents try not to intervene, and some difficult things that may be beyond their ability to give the child some guidance in appropriate circumstances. It is a rare and valuable spirit, and children with this spirit will be more likely to succeed in many ways. As a parent who wants to cultivate this rare and valuable spirit of his child, he must let him cope with it on his own, but this spirit is generally not easy to obtain, and it requires the continuous guidance of parents, and often parents will play a key role in it. It is normal to encounter difficulties, whether adults or children, in the process of life activities will always encounter things that they think are difficult to solve, and why are some children afraid of difficulties?
The reason why the child retreats from difficulty
Many children are always scared when faced with difficulties. When difficulties arise, they either choose to flee or run away because they do not have the courage to face them. Why?
The first reason is that parents have the wrong way of education
Parents always want their children to do better. But many parents have a bad habit of criticizing their children when they make mistakes or fail to achieve their goals. Parents expect too much from their children and want them to be better than others in all areas. Kids are very different and no one is perfect. Even if the child tries, the result may not be what the parents think. Many parents criticize their children and use abusive language, which seriously hurts their children's self-esteem. When a certain level is reached, the child's soul will be hurt, and then encountering difficulties is a catastrophe for the child.
The second reason is a lack of self-confidence
When a person has self-confidence and courage, he will not give up easily, even in the face of the most difficult things. Children have relatively little life experience and expertise and lack a clear understanding of their abilities, which is why they often lack self-confidence. When difficulties arise, the child does not believe that he can overcome them, so he chooses to escape again and again.
The third reason is that the ability needs to be improved
Although we advocate that children should have the courage to overcome difficulties, not all children can do it, and some children have deficiencies in learning, cognitive and emotional skills, and it is difficult to have the courage to overcome difficulties. And some of the problems are far more difficult than the child can bear, so the child has to give up. This requires timely guidance from parents.
The reason is how parents should guide
As a parent, you must have a good understanding of your child's future psychology and know what good options are available for you to guide your child.
Ways to help your child overcome difficulties
Today's children live a pampered life at home and have no idea what suffering is. Everything is centered on themselves, and most parents will do their best to meet their children's wishes.
Children who cannot bear hardships in life do not have difficulty cultivating their enthusiasm for work from an early age, and when they encounter difficulties, they often choose to retreat, because the process of overcoming difficulties requires more time and energy, and children will choose to escape.
Parents can adapt their children to hardships in their daily lives, let them do things that require more mental or physical strength, whether it is chores in life or learning in school, during which parents should take the initiative to take the initiative to solve these things.
Method 1: Enhance self-confidence
Self-confidence is a source of strength and motivation to overcome difficulties. All children have their own strengths, but sometimes parents can find these strengths. As a parent, we should discover the strengths of our children and provide them with opportunities to build their self-confidence, allow them to develop and develop their own abilities, so as to fully enhance their confidence. When children have self-confidence, even if they encounter difficulties, they will not admit defeat, but accept challenges, take the initiative to overcome difficulties, and believe that they can solve the problems they face with their own abilities.
Method two, maintain a positive mindset
Optimistic mood helps to solve a variety of problems, as the age, children may encounter various difficulties in life and learning, so that children always maintain an optimistic mood, even if they encounter major difficulties, they will be treated with a positive attitude. What parents can do is to create a relatively harmonious and peaceful environment for their children and help them form a positive and optimistic attitude.
Method three, have enough patience
In addition to improving your ability to deal with difficulties, you also need to have enough patience to solve these problems. Many difficulties or problems cannot be solved in a short period of time, but require a lot of time to do. Parents should encourage their children to persevere. When encountering difficulties, avoiding the child panicking, confusing positions, helping him find the cause of the difficulty, and then trying to solve it on this basis, which is also the process of honing their patience. If children learn to wait, and have enough patience even in the face of complex and difficult problems, they will have the confidence to deal with them.
Conclusion: Difficulties are everywhere in life, and they will appear in various forms as children grow up. If the child is always passive and resistant in the face of difficulties, it will make his life stagnate, but if the child has the courage to face difficulties and overcome difficulties, his life will shine. A positive attitude towards difficulties is often the result of the joint efforts of children and parents, and parents should teach their children to endure hardships, be patient, confident, and have enough optimism. I believe that under the correct leadership of parents, children can cultivate a brave spirit that is not afraid of difficulties.