There are many views on the Internet about "ten kneeling parents' grace", "parents' grace is greater than heaven", and there are pictures of "lamb kneeling milk" and "crow feeding back".
But what if it's a parent who was born without adoption?
Xiao Chunyang Qi Chunlan of Hubei Province adopted a baby girl picked up on the side of the road and took good care of her as her own child. After the death of his wife Qi Chunlan, Xiao Chunyang relied on carrying a gas canister and saved a little money for his daughter to study for a doctorate.
At this time, the biological parents suddenly came to recognize their relatives with 500,000, and at this time, Xiao Jingjing, who has achieved academic success, should make what choice? Do you recognize your biological parents and thank them for their fertility, or do you want to stay with your adoptive father?
1. Abandoned babies were picked up on the side of the road
In the 1970s and 1980s, in many remote areas, there were still the phenomenon of discarding babies because of son preference or poor families.
So at that time, there were many abandoned newborn children in welfare homes or on the side of the road every year, and the vast majority of them were baby girls. Local villagers have become often aware of this kind of thing, and almost every elderly person can say something related to abandoned babies.
Xiao Chunyang and Qi Chunlan, who live in Xiaogan, Hubei Province, were originally just an ordinary couple. Her husband, Xiao Chunyang, is a veteran, and after retiring from the army, he did not find a suitable job, so he did some miscellaneous work in the canteen of the cotton spinning factory in Xiaonan District.
His wife, Qi Chunlan, suffered from a congenital disability and lost her ability to work. He could only recuperate at home, because his wife was not in good health, so he had been married for many years, and neither of them had children.
Although the days are poor, the feelings are harmonious, the husband takes care of the family, the wife is considerate, and this small family is also warm.
The winter of 1987 was exceptionally cold, with a bitter wind as soon as I went out, heavy snow pressing the eaves, and people walking on the road, exhaling smoke.
That day, Qi Chunlan got up and couldn't get up straight, Xiao Chongyang called the factory to ask for leave, and took his wife to the hospital to see a doctor. After the doctor prescribed the medicine, he helped his wife to prepare to go home.
Walking to the path not far from home, I faintly heard the cries of babies. The two looked around, where there were half-figures, except for a worn-out trash can, which was a deserted field.
The two carefully approached the trash can to see that there was a baby in a bamboo frame crying. The little face had been frozen purple. There was only a small torn blanket wrapped around him, and he was born a few days ago.
The couple's hearts suddenly tugged, "This winter is so cold, who is so cruel?" Xiao Chunyang hurriedly took off the cotton clothes on his body and wrapped the baby in his arms, he looked for the baby and did not leave any relics, it should be iron heart to discard and decide not to find it again.
The two briefly discussed two sentences and decided to take the child home first. Otherwise, in the cold winter, it should not last a night, and it will be frozen alive. Moreover, in this desolate wilderness, if you encounter a wild dog, the consequences are unimaginable.
In the first few days, Qi Chunlan asked her husband to inquire nearby whether any baby girls were lost, but a week passed without any news.
Qi Chunlan tentatively asked her husband Xiao Chunyang, "Or shall we adopt this child?" Xiao Chongyang grinned at the corners of his mouth, smiled and replied, "I also have this intention!" ”
Then they went through the adoption procedures for the baby and named it Xiao Jingjing.
2. Treat the baby girl you pick up as yourself
The family of two became a family of three because of Xiao Jingjing's arrival, and the family added a lot of joy. Such a big thing naturally could not be hidden from relatives and friends, and within a few days, they all went to the house to see the baby picked up in the garbage can.
Everyone rushed to hug this cute little guy, big eyes fluttering, eyelashes long, just so curious to stare at you, teasing her will also creak and smile at you, everyone praises the couple is blessed.
Xiao Chunyang and his wife begged everyone to keep this secret and not to tell their children about their lives. They don't want the child to grow up in inferiority complex, which is also a way to protect her.
Although the arrival of the daughter has made the family that was not richer become more difficult, they have never been stingy as long as it is what the daughter wants to eat. Love your daughter as if she were her own child, and treat her as if she were her own.
Every time I buy milk powder for my daughter, I buy the expensive one. Some neighbors saw it and suggested, "Drink milk powder every day, it's expensive." When the child is older, eat it alternately with rice paste. Xiao Chunyang smiled and said, don't get in the way.
A sentence that often hangs on the lips is "Other children have it, and our family must also have it." ”
Under the care and care of her adoptive parents, Xiao Jingjing grew up healthy day by day.
You can often see a family shopping in the town, and little Xiao Jingjing walks in the middle of her parents, with her little hand on her left holding her father and her mother's hand on her right.
Sometimes he was also naughty, deliberately curling his legs to let his parents pull themselves up, swinging twice like a swing before putting down their feet, and the family laughed and walked in the direction of home.
In 1990, Xiao Chongyang's cotton spinning mill was restructured, and many people were laid off, and he was also laid off. Xiao Chunyang, who had lost his financial resources, looked for work everywhere, had no education or other skills, and the only thing he could do was his strength.
After the introduction of acquaintances, he found a job of pulling a scooter to deliver to others, and the wages were given according to the number of times, and the more goods he pulled, the more he earned.
Xiao Chunyang worked very hard, and others pulled a dozen trips a day to finish the work. He didn't, he pulled dozens of times a day and ran to the boss to ask if there was any goods to be pulled.
After four or five years of hard work, Jingjing also went to elementary school. Xiao Chongyang was thinking about saving money to go to school for his daughter Jingjing, and now he was assigned less and less work to pull goods, and the money he earned every month could only barely reach the family's expenses.
In order to make more money, in 1995, Xiao Chongyang found a job to deliver gas cans for people. For this kind of hard work, Xiao Chongyang needed to get up early, stare at a dilapidated tricycle, carry dozens of pounds of gas canisters up and down the stairs, and send it to each household layer by layer.
In order to supplement the family, Qi Chunlan also did needlework at home to help people mend clothes.
It is said that the children of the poor have long been in charge, and after school, the sensible Jingjing will also help her parents to do some work within their ability. I have never slackened in my studies, and after each final exam, I jumped home with a few bright and dangling awards, and at this time I could see the happy and proud expression on my parents' faces, which was the meaning of Jingjing's efforts.
By the time I graduated from elementary school, the wall sticker in my home was almost out of place.
3. The mother died of illness and told the truth to her daughter before dying
In the winter of 2001, Qi Chunlan, who had been weak, became ill and became ill. Lying in a sick bed all day with a weak cough, coughing up blood as soon as you cough. Sent to the hospital, the doctor said that time is running out, let the family take her home and finally accompany her.
Qi Chunlan was most relieved about Jingjing. She called her daughter to the bedside, took her daughter's hand and rubbed it lovingly on her face, and after much hesitation, she decided to tell her daughter the truth.
"There are some things that I would never have told you for the rest of my life, but now it is necessary to let you know. When your dad and I picked you up next to the trash can, we took you home..."
Knowing that she was not born to her parents, Xiao Jingjing was stunned and did not return to God for half a day. Thinking of the cruel birth parents to leave themselves behind, the adoptive parents have always regarded themselves as their own for 14 years, and have never been half abandoned. Bowing his head and sobbing quietly, "I will never go to my biological parents for the rest of my life, in my heart, I am your daughter."
Qi Chunlan still could not survive that winter and died in an evening sleep. Before dying, he instructed his husband to cultivate his daughter into a talent.
After the death of his mother, the father and daughter were left to live with each other.
Xiao Jingjing, who has suffered the pain of losing her mother, is more energetic in her studies, and she secretly vows to get ahead and live up to her parents' expectations of her.
In 2005, Xiao Jingjing was admitted to Huazhong Agricultural University with excellent results.
After her daughter went to college, Xiao Chunyang's burden became heavier. In order to give his daughter a better life, in addition to carrying a gas canister, he also found a odd job. Years of fatigue made his health worse and worse, often with a sallow face and severe shoulder pain. But every time I play a video for my daughter, I have to carefully put down my face in advance, afraid that my daughter will see it and worry.
Jingjing is a child who understands filial piety, and she knows her father's efforts for herself. In order to reduce her father's burden, she would work part-time when she was not in class, setting up stalls and handing out leaflets. Every semester, you can get a first-class scholarship, basically self-sufficient in the living expenses of the sophomore year, and save some pocket money to buy clothes, shoes and other daily necessities for your father.
Father and daughter rely on each other and have long regarded each other as the most important person in life.
In 2009, Jingjing was admitted to the master's degree. After graduating with a master's degree, he was sent to Capilano University in Canada to pursue a doctorate in engineering and veterinary medicine.
On the day he learned of his admission, Xiao Chunyang took his daughter to his wife's grave and told his deceased wife the good news. Let her relax in another world.
But just a month before Jingjing set off for Canada, a strange middle-aged man and woman suddenly found the door. This made Xiao Jingjing's father and daughter panic for a while.
4. The biological parents come to the door
That day, her father went out to work, and Jingjing was at home to cook dinner, so that her father could eat a hot meal as soon as he came home from work.
Suddenly there was a knock at the door, and Jingjing thought that her father had returned. Hurriedly went to open the door, and before he could react, he was hugged by a strange woman, who cried out, "My child, my good daughter." ”
When Jingjing was overwhelmed, her father Xiao Chunyang returned. As soon as he pulled Jingjing back to his side, the other party showed his intentions.
It turned out that the other party was Jingjing's biological parents, who had 4 daughters in succession in the family that year, and owed a lot of foreign debt due to business failures, and really couldn't afford to raise a child, so they had to discard Jingjing. I thought that I would bring her back when I had the conditions later.
Now Jingjing has been admitted to the doctorate, the family also has a younger brother, their family has also developed business, this time they brought 500,000, want to compensate the Xiao family for so many years of raising their daughter. I hope that Xiao Chunyang can accept and agree to their recognition with their daughter.
After listening to the other party's crying, Xiao Chunyang sat on the stone bench without saying a word, and only after half a moment did he slowly open his mouth, "Let Jingjing make a decision." ”
Almost without any hesitation, Jingjing replied, "In my heart, there has always been only one parent, my father's name is Xiao Chunyang, and my mother's name is Qi Chunlan." ”
Then he got up and prepared to send them away, no matter how much the other party cried and wept and played the emotional card, Xiao Jingjing was still unmoved. Although she was not related to her adoptive parents, in her heart, she had already regarded them as her biological parents.
They pulled her into adulthood with hard work, and the grace of childbearing even had the pain of being pregnant in October. But the grace of nurturing has a double ten. Chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, twenty-four spring, summer, autumn and winter, careful care, summer to cold.
My father got up at dawn to carry the gas canister for him to read. How much suffering he had suffered for her to raise her to this day, and gave her love that was thicker than water, she could not forget. Her biological parents' home was obviously only a few kilometers away from her adoptive parents' house, and they ignored her for twenty-four years.
Thinking of this, she was full of grief and indignation, and deliberately took a few steps back, standing far away from the strange men and women, and there was a feeling in her heart that she could not say that she was violated.
In the end, Xiao Jingjing did not choose her biological parents and still lived with her adoptive father. For Xiao Chunyang, he was very relieved that his daughter still chose to be with him, but he was also a little sad that her daughter had to suffer with him.
5. Accompany your biological sister to participate in the program and leave a family portrait
After returning from studying in Canada, Xiao Jingjing settled in Shanghai and took her father Xiao Chunyang to live at home. But her biological parents still want to recognize her, but Xiao Jingjing has been indifferent. But she and her own sister saw each other as they were, and their relationship was very good.
In 2015, her own sister wanted to participate in a Chinese talent show "China Dream Show", and she came to the scene to support.
Without her knowledge, the program team deliberately brought her biological parents to the scene to let them know each other.
Host Zhou Libo said, "People are not Shangang, there are always times to meet, they are your parents after all, if there is an opportunity for you to recognize your biological parents on the spot, are you willing?" ”
Xiao Jingjing's attitude was resolute, and she replied categorically, "I don't want to." ”
At the moment when Jingjing turned her head to see her biological parents, it was not joy or emotion, but her face was full of embarrassment and overwhelm. He was not swayed by the moderator's persuasion, nor did he choose to compromise in front of a wide audience.
Finally, under the arrangement of the program team, a family portrait was taken together. But the thorn in Xiao Jingjing's heart still couldn't let go. She said she had promised her adoptive parents that they would only be their daughters for the rest of their lives, and he could not break his word. Be filial to them and don't want others to shake their status.
Now Xiao Chunyang has also become a grandfather and has a lovely grandson. The young couple went to work during the day, and he walked around the nearby park without a problem, waiting until the afternoon to pick up his grandson from school.
Compared with the past, the living conditions have undergone a qualitative change, and for them, what finally greets them is no longer the pressure of day after day, but a clear tomorrow. A family of four in Shanghai, living happily.
If you are born but not raised, you can return your fingers; if you are not born, it is difficult to return in a hundred lifetimes. The person who gave birth to you only gave birth to you from the body, and the person who raised you is giving birth to you from the heart.
What's more, the care and love given to her by Jingjing's parents can't be hidden, for her to stand out, always support her, she is a child who is held by love.
There is a Chinese saying that "repays the parenting grace of parents." "That is, what needs to be repaid is the kindness of raising you and educating you. Whoever has nurturing grace for you should repay whom.
Is the grace of nurturing greater, or is the grace of procreation greater? Xiao Jingjing used her actions to give the answer.