Hello everyone, I am Xiaoyan, the mother of the second child.
Recently, six-year-old Dabao began to learn piano, and I became a mother of piano children. In order to better accompany her to learn the piano, I began to study the topic of interest selection and persistence, and found that many parents have many misunderstandings about piano learning, I deliberately consulted a lot of books and literature, hoping to grow up with the parents of the piano children.
Myth 1: Musical initiation is learning musical instruments
The "Mozart effect" makes many parents feel that music can not only cultivate children's emotions, but also enhance children's intelligence and help children's learning and concentration.
As a result, many parents send their children to an instrument class, thinking that their children's learning of the piano can help them learn. At a very young age, children begin to care: "What instrument should the child choose?" When is it better to start learning the piano? ”
It is estimated that in the minds of many people, music enlightenment is equivalent to learning musical instruments, and if you want to know whether your child's music is good or not, it is necessary to continue to practice the piano and take the exam, and only the exam can reflect the child's level.
After watching "Parents Are the Best Music Teachers for Children", I learned that learning the piano is not a musical enlightenment. If there is no musical enlightenment, pushing the child to the piano to learn will not only fail to cultivate the child's musical cells and artistic appreciation, but also destroy the child's innate love and sensitivity to music.
On March 26, 2022, Chen Xiaochun posted a video of his two sons, Jasper and Hoho dancing to music, which made people laugh. In particular, the younger brother was completely intoxicated in his own dance, always dancing with the music, and did not care about the demonic laughter of his brother next to him.
In fact, his younger brother Hoho danced with music to express himself with music.
So, musical initiation is not about learning an instrument, but about using the instrument we are born with— our body, from the throat to the hands to the limbs, to listen to music, to feel music and to express music.
Myth two, there is no talent for music learning, that is, white practice
The world's well-known pianists such as Bach, Mozart, Beethoven, Lang Lang, etc., are parents, brothers or grandparents who are musicians or engaged in music, thus laying the musical foundation for their success. They succeed because they have a musical talent, they are born.
And we ordinary people, without musical talent, learning the piano is a waste. Some parents feel that they are incomplete and that they are not engaged in music at home, so they are not suitable for learning music.
A survey by Edwin Gordon, the most famous contemporary music educator in the United States, found that 68% of newborns are born with general musical potential, 16% have upper middle musical potential, and another 16% have lower and middle musical potential. And a child's musical talent has nothing to do with heredity!
In fact, every child is born with musical cells, and our body is a natural instrument that allows us to express ourselves through dance.
In ancient times, our ancestors often sang around the hearth, and sacrificed or celebrated festivals through music and dance. And we are born with musical cells, but we just don't dig into them.
When children are young, if we play music to them, we will find them dancing briskly. And all we can do is play a lot of music, preferably classical music or nursery rhymes from various countries, and dance with children.
Myth three: Learning music delays learning, and going to college is the right way
One of my cousins liked music and dance since he was a child, and let his parents buy CDs to learn to dance, but his parents felt that dancing was not a proper job, and every time his cousin listened to music and danced, his parents blamed him for wasting time, urging him to study well, and discouraging him from dancing badly.
Later, the cousin was reluctant to dance, but he was not interested in learning, which broke the parents' hearts.
Zheng Youhui preached in the book "Parents Are the Best Music Teachers for Children" that interests other than homework will not delay children's homework. Most of them do not have their parents behind them, and parents have an attitude of trust and respect for their children's own decisions, but let them respect themselves.
Many college entrance examination winners, such as Tang Chukey of the 2020 Hubei Provincial College Entrance Examination, and Meng Linghao, the champion of the Shandong Provincial College Entrance Examination, not only have excellent results, but also are versatile, piano level 10, running, violin and so on. Learning music or interest classes does not delay their learning, but will add icing on the cake, giving them a touch of green and spices for their busy study life.
Myth four, children learn the piano, parents must accompany the school
Parents are the best music teachers for their children? If parents do not accompany the school, the child cannot insist? If you want your child to learn the piano, parents must follow along?
In recent years, with the rise of family education, parents have begun to attach importance to companionship and accompanying school, but what follows is a huge parent-child contradiction and chicken flying dog jump.
For parents who understand music, children who sing out of tune and play the wrong tone must be corrected one by one, because they are always staring at their children. For parents who do not understand music, in order to better accompany their children to insist on learning the piano, parents must follow the teacher to learn the piano together.
However, if a child learns the piano, will parents accompany him to the school? In my opinion, this is not the best companionship, but a catalyst for children's music learning.
When children learn to play the piano, what they need is not a teacher, not that parents must understand music, not that parents must be able to guide their children, but learn to be a child's audience, learn to appreciate their children's music, and be a supporter on the way for children to practice.
Herbert Spencer's Book of Happy Education preaches that little Spencer was criticized by his aunt for not practicing well, and he didn't want to practice the piano alive or dead. The father did not rebuke him, but told the child that he was tired after a day of work, and could he invite him to play a song for himself to relieve the fatigue of the day.
Later, every time his father came home, he asked his children to play a few songs for him. During the child's playing, he closed his eyes and completely immersed himself in the child's playing. In the appreciation and companionship of his father, little Spencer fell in love with learning the piano again and took the piano as his hobby.
Therefore, when children learn the piano, we do not have to understand and accompany the learning, but learn to appreciate the children's playing and be the audience of the children, not the teacher or referee.
Write at the end
Instrument learning is only a tool of music, as well as sight singing ear training, singing, music appreciation, etc., the ultimate purpose of our children to learn the piano is to let children learn to appreciate music and use music to express themselves.
Musical enlightenment is not to learn musical instruments, but to listen to music in large quantities; children without musical talent can also learn music, as long as we are enlightened; learning music will not delay learning, but will also be beneficial to learning; children learn the piano, parents do not need to accompany the school, become the child's teacher, but learn to be the child's audience.
Every child is born with a musical cell, and what we parents can do is not to guide and judge, and stifle the child's musical talent. It is to tap children's musical talent, let them perceive the world in the melody of music, and have the ability to be happy, which is also the best gift we give to children.