In 2015, in the program of "China Dream Show", the host Zhou Libo took the microphone and asked a girl Xiao Jingjing: "They all say that blood is thicker than water, give you another chance, are you willing to recognize your biological parents?" ”
Xiao Jingjing took the microphone, without the slightest hesitation, and shouted loudly: "I don't want to!" ”
When the biological mother heard this, she couldn't cry, and her hands kept wiping her tears, after which she apologized to Jingjing over and over again, hoping that her daughter would recognize her.
After the host on the side saw it, he also began to persuade Xiao Jingjing.
In the face of this situation, Xiao Jingjing still said firmly: "My father and mother in this life will always be Xiao Chongyang and Qi Chunlan. ”
Xiao Chongyang and Qi Chunlan are her adoptive father and adoptive mother.
Why is Xiao Jingjing still unwilling to compromise in the face of her own mother's crying and apology?
Because in her opinion, raising is greater than living.
In December 1987, the cold wind whistled, and Qi Chunlan ran to the hospital with his legs trembling.
Just as she was about to leave, she suddenly heard the sound of babies crying in the remote corner of the hospital, and she went up to look curiously and found a baby lying on a coat, and her small face was frozen tight.
Qi Chunlan quickly picked up and warmed the child, muttering in his heart: "What parents are so cruel and leave their children here, others don't want it." ”
Over the years, Qi Chunlan was not in good health, unable to have children, and after seeking medical treatment everywhere, she was still unable to have children.
Because of this incident, she was ashamed of her husband.
But at this time, a child suddenly arrived in front of her, which made her think: adopt the child home.
But she waited where she was to see if the other party would come back to the child.
After waiting for a long time, there was no one to claim it for a long time, Qi Chunlan looked at the cute child, and the thoughts in her heart became more and more intense.
When it was close to dark, Qi Chunlan, who could not wait for the result, carried the child home, and she accelerated her pace and decided to go home to discuss the matter with her husband Xiao Chongyang.
After arriving home, Qi Chunlan quickly rushed some rice paste for the child to eat, wiped her face after feeding the child, and then put her on the bed, covered with a thick quilt, and waited for her husband to return.
After Xiao Chongyang returned, he found that there was an extra baby in the family, and he was very surprised.
The wife walked up to her husband and told him about her experience in the hospital.
Xiao Chongyang looked at the cute child and liked it very much, but he was afraid that the child's biological parents would come to the door, so in the days that followed, he often wandered at the door of the hospital to see if anyone came to find the child.
Ultimately, the child's biological parents did not show up.
Because no one came to look for them for a long time, the husband and wife concluded that it was someone else's abandoned child, so they went through the formalities and formally adopted the child, and named it Xiao Jingjing. The meaning of the name is that I hope that my child's life will be full of sunshine.
Raising a child is very difficult for a family like theirs.
Qi Chunlan has congenital diseases, his health is not very good, often have to run to the hospital, Xiao Chongyang used to be a soldier, after retiring from the army, he worked in the factory canteen near his home, and he has been very financially strapped.
In order to buy milk powder for their children to eat, the husband and wife shrank their clothes and reduced their food, ate white radish on weekdays, and were reluctant to add new clothes to themselves in the New Year.
If it is only like this, Xiao Jingjing is born prematurely, her health is not good, and she often has to run to the hospital in the early days, almost spending all the money in the family.
Once, they borrowed money from a neighbor to see Xiao Jingjing, and the neighbor advised: "This is not their own child, why are they so concerned." ”
After Xiao Chongyang listened, he got angry: "Enter the door of my house, I am her father!" ”
Under the support of the husband and wife, Xiao Jingjing gradually grew up and began to call her father and mother.
But in 1990, Xiao Chongyang's work had an accident that made it even more difficult for poor families.
At that time, due to the restructuring of the factory, many employees were laid off, and Xiao Chongyang was one of them. With no academic qualifications and no skills, he did the hard work of pulling a scooter.
In order to earn more money for the children, Xiao Chongyang worked particularly hard, often running much more than others before he was willing to go home.
Hungry at noon, he directly stuffed two steamed buns and quickly dried them.
Later, when there was less work, Xiao Chongyang started the work of delivering gas.
Every day at dawn, he was ready to go out, casually pull a few mouthfuls of last night's leftover meals for breakfast, put on his hat, and hurried to work.
Sometimes because I lifted the gas for too long, my waist hurt so much that I couldn't straighten up, so I had to take a break. Although the work is very hard, he is very comfortable thinking that he can earn money to buy food for his daughter.
From childhood to adulthood, the couple did not mention her origins to Xiao Jingjing, and specially asked relatives and neighbors not to mention it in front of the children, so as not to make her sad.
But the secret can not always be hidden, Xiao Jingjing in elementary school, heard some gossip, saying that she was not born of her parents.
Xiao Jingjing was very sad, returned home and looked at the mirror, she really didn't look like her parents, her mother's nose was straight, mine was collapsed; her father's face was square, I was round.
The more she thought about it, the more upset Xiao Jingjing cried loudly, and Qi Chunlan, who was beside her, was frightened and ran forward to understand the situation.
After knowing what happened, Qi Chunlan was sad, but he still picked up his daughter first and coaxed: "Don't listen to their nonsense, you will come out of my stomach." ”
Comforted by her mother, Xiao Jingjing was soon not sad.
In 2001, an accident occurred at home.
Qi Chunlan's health was getting worse and worse, and despite the doctor's best efforts, she was ultimately unable to recover.
Before leaving, Qi Chunlan could not rest assured xiao Jingjing, thinking about it, she decided to tell her daughter that she was not her biological mother.
She asked her husband to discuss, but Xiao Chongyang was not very supportive, why should she tell her daughter, can't she keep it hidden?
Qi Chunlan was very hesitant, and finally decided not to say it, if Jingjing's biological parents came to find her in the future, it would be up to her to decide.
At the last moment of her life, Qi Chunlan squeezed Jingjing's hand and said, "Mom and Dad will always love you!" ”
Xiao Jingjing watched her mother leave and wept bitterly.
After her mother left, Xiao Jingjing became stronger and vowed to study hard and take good care of her father in the future.
Two months later, Xiao Jingjing was admitted to Hunan Xiaogan No. 1 Middle School with excellent results.
High school costs more money than junior high school, and Xiao Chongyang's burden is heavier. In order to let her daughter successfully complete her education, in addition to carrying gas cans, she will also go to take some loose work.
Years of physical labor have made his health worse and worse, and from time to time there will be some problems, but he is reluctant to spend money to see a doctor, always simple treatment.
Xiao Jingjing did not live up to her father's expectations, graduated from high school, and she was successfully admitted to Huazhong Agricultural University.
The "high" tuition fee is a big expense for Xiao Chongyang, and the daughter is very distressed about her father and wants to drop out of school to work to reduce the pressure on her father.
But Xiao Chongyang resolutely refused, holding an attitude of "smashing pots and selling iron, but also for you to go to college".
Xiao Jingjing had no choice but to listen to her father's words and obediently carry her school bag to school.
Coming to college, Xiao Jingjing applied for a student loan and went to school while working part-time to share the pressure for her father.
When other girls fall in love on campus and dress up beautifully to go out shopping, Xiao Jingjing is either working part-time or studying in the library.
Because of her excellent grades, Xiao Jingjing can also get a scholarship every semester.
In her sophomore year, she did not ask her father for money again.
On the other hand, since his daughter went to School in Wuhan, Xiao Chongyang's heart was empty, and it was boring to be alone at home after work.
He also thought about finding a wife for himself, but he could not let go of his wife in his heart, so he did not continue to look for it.
Xiao Chongyang's daily life is to carry gas cans and eat, sometimes he cares about greeting his daughter, and watches some news in his spare time.
He also went to his daughter's university twice, every time Xiao Jingjing saw her father come over, she was very happy, and when her father came, he would take out a few hundred yuan from his pocket and give it to her, Xiao Jingjing couldn't help but shed tears when he saw it.
She asked her father to stay and leave again tomorrow, but his father refused, always staying with his daughter for a while, and then hurried back.
In 2009, Xiao Jingjing was admitted to graduate school. After that, she was also sent abroad by the school to study for a doctorate, and xiao Chongyang, knowing that his daughter was out of work, ran to Qi Chunlan's grave to share the good news with her.
On a homecoming, Xiao Jingjing took her boyfriend from Inner Mongolia with her.
The two said to Xiao Chongyang: "Stay in Hubei to work and take care of you in the future." ”
Xiao Chongyangle blossomed, laughing and telling them: "Just live according to your favorite lifestyle." ”
Just as they were immersed in the yearning for a better life in the future, the two "guests" broke this calm day.
Xiao Chongyang's home suddenly ushered in a middle-aged couple, and one of the women preached: "Hello, are you Xiao Chongyang?" ”
Xiao Chongyang felt inexplicable, but still nodded in response to her.
The couple became excited, and they told Xiao Chongyang: We came to recognize each other, and Xiao Jingjing was our daughter.
Xiao Chongyang was confused, he should come or come, his mouth seemed to be stuck, suddenly did not know how to answer, and finally replied: "I can't do this matter, I want to ask Jingjing." ”
After Xiao Jingjing learned about this, she acted very calmly, but asked why she was not wanted in the first place?
Her biological mother, He Yuanfen, cried and explained that her husband had lost money in business and had the eldest daughter Yang Chengyan to raise, and she really couldn't afford to raise another child.
Later, he made money and raised two more children. This time, I came here to take you home.
Xiao Jingjing responded to her biological parents: "If it wasn't for my mother Qi Chunlan adopting me, I wouldn't have known where I was struggling, they worked hard to pull me to grow up and provide for me to go to college." ”
He Yuanfen said that because of this, they brought 500,000 yuan as compensation to Xiao Chongyang.
Xiao Jingjing continued to ask, "Then you live so close to us, why didn't you come when we were in the most difficult time, and now that we have a good life, we have come to recognize each other." ”
It turned out that Xiao Jingjing's biological parents had been living in a small town not far away, and they knew that their daughter had been taken in by Xiao Chongming.
The biological parents were dumbfounded, turned to Xiao Chongming for help speaking, and promised him that after they met, they would be good to their daughter.
Xiao Chongyang still said that sentence: "Let Jingjing decide for herself." ”
Xiao Jingjing's attitude was very tough: "I only have one father, named Xiao Chongyang, and only one mother, named Qi Chunlan." Go ahead, I don't know you. ”
No matter how He Yuanfen cried and pleaded, Xiao Jingjing was not moved, and they had to go back.
Later, He Yuanfen and his wife came to the door many times, but they were all rejected by Xiao Jingjing, and they saw that their daughter was so determined, they never bothered again.
When Xiao Chongming saw his daughter insisting on recognizing herself as her father, her face was full of emotion.
After that, they returned to a peaceful life, but this kind of day was once again interrupted by Xiao Jingjing's biological parents.
During this period, Xiao Jingjing's sister Yang Chengyan contacted her, and the two sisters got along very well and often went out together.
Xiao Jingjing believes that being discarded was the decision of her biological parents and had nothing to do with her sister, so she could get along normally.
In 2015, Yang Chengyan participated in the "China Dream Show" and invited Xiao Jingjing to cheer herself up.
For the sisters' small request, Xiao Jingjing gladly accepted.
Originally, she thought it was just a simple participation, but she did not expect to be introduced into a scam, on the show, the other party was ready to let her and her biological parents come to the scene to meet the earth.
Therefore, there is a scene at the beginning, Xiao Jingjing's attitude is very firm, only recognizing Xiao Chongming and Qi Chunlan as parents.
In the end, she cooperated with her biological parents and her family to take a family portrait.
After the program was broadcast, it caused a lot of controversy, some people thought that Xiao Jingjing was not right, family affection was priceless, and the biological mother cried and asked you to call your mother, and you resolutely refused.
In the face of everyone's discussion, Xiao Jingjing posted content on Weibo: unwilling is unwilling, and raising more than life is my principle.
This incident also led to a discussion in the village: "Is it greater to raise than to live, or is it greater than to be born?" "After all, it is not easy to conceive in October.
But more people still support Xiao Jingjing's approach, and the cultivation and companionship of more than 20 years of hard work cannot be replaced by 500,000.
There are many opinions on raising more than being born, or being born more than raising, but one thing is very good, companionship is priceless.
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Author: Small Ocean
Edit: Blue Orange