"Would you rather have a chance to meet your birth parents?"
In 2015, the host of "China Dream Show" asked Xiao Jingjing this question.
There is a folk saying that "the grace of birth is greater than that of man, and the grace of nurturing is greater than that of heaven." In simple terms, it is the biological parents who give life to the child, bring the child into the world, even if the child is abandoned, the grace is greater than others...
Xiao Jingjing was abandoned by her parents since she was a child, fortunately her adoptive parents picked her up and pulled her up, in order to provide her with a study, her adoptive father came out early every morning and returned to carry a gas can to earn money, and offered her to study as a doctor.
She came to the "China Dream Show" to support her sister to participate in the program, but unexpectedly, the program team arranged this drama for her, brought her biological parents to the scene, and asked this sentence.
So, in the face of the host's question, how did Xiao Jingjing answer? How does she choose between her biological parents and her adoptive parents?
Abandoned by their biological parents
The story begins on a winter day in 1987.
Because the snow a few days ago had not yet melted, the whole land still looked like a silver-clad, white expanse, and the branches were bent by the snow, falling from the air and smashing into Qi Chunlan and Xiao Chongyang who were walking on the road.
The two are a couple who have just come out of the hospital.
The couple looked back and thought, which bear child hit me? Looking around, there was a figure nearby, maybe it was the snow falling from the tree, just when Qi Chunlan was about to continue to walk forward, the cry of a baby was faintly heard in his ear.
"Whose child is crying, why didn't you hear it just now?" The couple talked to themselves and followed the sound, and they saw a bamboo basket next to a garbage can not far in front of them, and the sound came from the bamboo basket.
The couple rushed over, and when they saw the baby inside, their hearts pounded.
The baby in the bamboo basket was wrapped in a torn blanket, the small face was purple by the cold wind, and the corners of the mouth were dry.
The couple looked at each other and made a look of discussion, and then the wife picked up the child from the bamboo basket, and the husband quickly took off the cotton jacket he was wearing and wrapped the child tightly.
Coincidentally, after Qi Chunlan picked up the child, the child did not cry.
"Oh, poor boy."
"Maybe her parents just made a decision temporarily, regretted it and came back."
"Otherwise we'll wait here for a little while."
The couple stood in the cold wind and waited for a long time, but they could not wait for the child's biological parents to return.
Qi Chunlan glanced at the child in her arms, and the two looked at each other, and the child smiled at her.
This smile hit Qi Chunlan's heart and touched the softest side of her heart, she couldn't bear to leave the child here, so she hugged the child tighter.
Qi Chunlan looked at her husband: "This child is related to us, you see, as soon as she arrives in my arms, she will not cry." ”
Husband Xiao Chongyang heard the meaning of his wife's words, he shook his wife's hand, and said in a firm tone: "Let's take this child home first, it is cold outside, and it is not okay to freeze the child." ”
In this way, this baby, who was abandoned next to the garbage can, was brought home by Qi Chunlan and Xiao Chongyang.
A few days after the child was brought back, the couple had been inquiring about whether anyone had lost the baby girl, but they had not landed for several weeks, and they had returned to the trash can where the baby girl was picked up again, but still had not found any clues left by the child's biological parents.
One day, Qi Chunlan said to her husband: "The parents of the female doll are afraid that they don't want her, and I can't bear to send her to a welfare home, so why don't we adopt her?" ”
Xiao Chongyang pondered for a while, and under his wife's expectant eyes, he finally made a decision: "Isn't it just one more person to eat, we can afford to raise, this female doll, stay." ”
After making the decision, the couple went to the relevant departments to go through the adoption procedures and named the child Xiao Jingjing, and since then, Xiao Jingjing has officially become a member of the couple's family.
Xiao Jingjing's arrival has made the whole family more joyful, teaching children to talk, guiding children to crawl and learn to walk, for the couple, every growth process of children is so interesting.
Qi Chunlan often said half-jokingly that this child had long eyelashes and a small face that looked handsome, and when he grew up, he would definitely become a big beauty, and they took advantage of her when they picked her up.
For the sake of the child's mental health, the couple specifically told their relatives and friends not to tell her the child's origins, as if this were their own children.
This is a way for the couple to protect the healthy growth of their children, poor parents in the world, it can be seen that the couple really raised Xiao Jingjing as their own child.
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As the child gets older, the expenses of raising her grow larger, making families who are not wealthier more vulnerable.
But the couple felt that they would rather be hungry than treat the child badly, and since they had adopted her, they would be responsible for her future life, even if they were tired and tired, they would raise her as an adult.
In 1990, Xiao Chongyang's cotton spinning mill was restructured and a large number of employees were laid off, including his name.
The news of the layoffs almost crushed his entire family, at this time Xiao Jingjing was still in school, if she couldn't find other jobs, how could she afford her daughter to study?
But he doesn't have a skill, how to find a job? Suddenly, Xiao Chongyang fell into a trough and confusion period in his life.
In the first few days of being laid off, he had a bitter face every day, his mind was chaotic, and he didn't know how to do it.
Xiao Jingjing sensed that her father was unhappy, and one day when she came home from school, she took her father's big hand and said, "Daddy, you squat, I have a gift for you." ”
After Xiao Chongyang squatted down, Xiao Jingjing opened her arms, threw herself into his arms, and whispered in his ear: "Dad, I think you are a little unhappy, I hug you, you don't want to be unhappy." ”
This action of his daughter directly touched Xiao Chongyang's soft atrium, he was instantly awake, his thoughts turned a thousand times for a while, he thought, he should not give up lightly, nor should he be decadent, his daughter is still young, still reading, he must cheer up and support this family.
Thinking of this, Xiao Chongyang picked up his daughter and smiled: "Thank you my baby, go, Daddy will go to the kitchen to make you food." ”
"Wow! Dad is the best! ”
Qi Chunlan looked at this scene, her eyes couldn't help but get wet, her husband cheered up, everything in the future will develop towards a good place, how could she not be happy.
After that, Xiao Chongyang was introduced by acquaintances and found a job to deliver goods to others, sending a salary to settle once.
In order to make more money, he pulled the scooter delivery from morning to night, others may only pull a dozen trips a day to finish the work, but Xiao Chongyang pulled dozens of times a day, when there is no work, he will also take the initiative to ask the boss if there are other goods to pull.
At the beginning, the work distributed to Xiao Chongyang was still quite much, and the income was considerable, but as the market situation became more and more bad, the work distributed to Xiao Chongyang became less and less, and the income became less and less, and the money he got every month was only enough to barely maintain the family's expenses.
Xiao Chongyang realized that it was not enough to support his family with this little money, he also had to support his daughter to go to college, and he still had to save money in his hands, so he could not make ends meet like this.
In order to make more money, in 1995, Xiao Chongyang found a job delivering gas cans.
Qi Chunlan, on the other hand, does some needlework for others at home to subsidize the family.
Every day, before his wife and daughter woke up, Xiao Chongyang got up early in the morning and went out, pedaling a dilapidated tricycle full of gas canisters to deliver gas cans through various communities.
In those days, most people's homes did not have elevators, which required him to carry the gas canister on his shoulder and climb up the stairs to carry the gas canister.
Some low-rise residents are better, but when sending high-rise users' lists, they can often tire Xiao Chongyang half dead.
Ordinary people do not carry anything, climbing the sixth and seventh floors will be breathless, not to mention Xiao Chongyang, who is carrying a gas canister, so when the high-rise residents open the door to receive the gas canister, they can often see him sweating and panting.
For Xiao Chongyang, sending the gas canister to the residents' residences is only one part of the work, and he also needs to reinstall the gas canisters for the residents.
Generally after entering the house, he will take out the wrench from the toolbox he carries, and then aim at the nut at the interface to twist hard, the nut will "bell" a sound to the ground, and then he will pick up the nut, align the gas canister at the interface, insert the gas pipe on the gas canister, and re-tighten it with the wrench.
After a set of process operations, his work tasks are completed.
In the work of sending gas cans, some people saw him sweating, would pour him water, let him rest for a while and then go, but Xiao Chongyang never stayed in anyone's home, for him, every minute and every second is an opportunity to make money, he does not want to waste time, just want to send more gas cans, save more money for his daughter to go to college.
One day, after her daughter finished school, she saw her father who pedaled a tricycle to deliver a gas canister at the school gate, and after seeing this scene, Xiao Jingjing's heart was bitter, and she trotted all the way to her father's car, planning to talk to her father for a while.
Xiao Chongyang told her: "Daddy's appearance has humiliated you, you should walk away quickly, don't let your classmates see it." ”
After Xiao Jingjing heard this, she couldn't help but have tears in her eyes, just at this moment, her classmates came over, and Xiao Jingjing introduced her classmates: "This is my father!" ”
This sentence touched Xiao Chongyang, who looked at his daughter with gentle eyes and smiled involuntarily: "You talk, I still have work to be busy, go first." ”
Riding a tricycle, Xiao Chongyang, looking at the white clouds in the sky, was in a surprisingly good mood, he thought in his heart, his daughter grew up, filial piety, and knew how to take care of his mood, he had such a daughter, what is not satisfied...
Xiao Jingjing is well aware of the hard work of her parents to provide her with education, in order to live up to her parents' expectations, she spends all her time on learning, excellent in character and learning, almost never falls out of the top three in the class, and the award certificates are pasted all over the entire wall of the home.
Time passed day by day, and just when everything was changing for the better, the mother's body was in trouble.
In the winter of 2001, her mother, Qi Chunlan, spent almost all of her time in a hospital bed, and the doctor said that the patients did not have much time left, so they asked the family to take good care of them.
Perhaps realizing that she was leaving, after returning home from the hospital, Qi Chunlan had been hesitant to tell her about her daughter's origins.
After several days of ideological struggle, Qi Chunlan called her daughter to the bed, and she took her daughter's hand and said, "I'm leaving, there are some things you should know." ”
"Mom." Xiao Jingjing held her mother's hand tightly, and her eyes were full of tears.
Qi Chunlan sighed and said, "You are not our biological child, your father and I picked you up next to the garbage can, in the future, your biological parents will find you..."
"No!" Xiao Jingjing interrupted her mother's words, and she said firmly: "I have only one parent in my life, and there is no second!" ”
Due to the reason that her mother was seriously ill, every day after school, Xiao Jingjing almost trotted home, she wanted to accompany her more in her mother's last days, feeding, wiping her face and other work to take care of her mother, she also always rushed to do it with her father.
The company of her daughter made Qi Chunlan's heart have a great comfort, and also made her spirit improve slightly, but she still did not carry this winter after all...
After Qi Chunlan's death, the scenes of the past flashed in Xiao Jingjing's mind one by one, and the pictures of her mother calling her to eat, picking her up from school, and playing with her were always hovering in her mind and refusing to leave...
Xiao Jingjing cried for several days, this was the mother who raised her from childhood to adulthood, and her heart had long been connected, and now that her mother had died, how could she not grieve.
After a few days of sadness, Xiao Jingjing quickly perked up, and now that her mother has died, only her father and her are left, she is determined to study hard and find a good job, treat her father well in the future, and let her father enjoy the happiness of heaven.
In this way, the father and daughter rely on each other, the father strives to work outside the home to earn money, and the daughter studies seriously in school.
With Xiao Jingjing's efforts, she was successfully admitted to the university, and was admitted to graduate school in 2009, and after completing graduate school, she was guaranteed to study abroad for a doctorate.
When she told her father Xiao Chongyang the news, Xiao Chongyang burst into tears with excitement, and at this moment, all the efforts of the father and daughter were rewarded.
The biological parents came looking for them
On the day he learned of being admitted to a foreign university, Xiao Chongyang took Xiao Jingjing to his wife's grave.
Xiao Chongyang took his daughter's hand, and his face was full of gentle smiles: "Chunlan, do you see, our daughter is going to study abroad for a doctorate." ”
"Yes, Mom, I went to college, I finished graduate school, and I'm going to go to my Ph.D. soon."
After Xiao Jingjing finished saying this, she knelt on the ground and prostrated her mother a few times.
However, what neither father nor daughter expected was that just a month before going to Canada to study, Xiao Jingjing's biological parents came to the door.
That day, Xiao Chongyang went out to work as usual, and Xiao Jingjing cooked at home, waiting for her father to return.
While cooking, Xiao Jingjing suddenly heard a knock at the door, she thought that her father had returned, and while opening the door, she murmured: "Why did you forget to bring the key again, what if I am not at home?" ”
As a result, after the door opened, there was a strange couple outside the door.
"Who are you?"
Xiao Jingjing asked.
I saw that the middle-aged woman kept shedding tears after hearing Xiao Jingjing's words.
This frightened Xiao Jingjing, and just when she was overwhelmed, her father Xiao Chongyang happened to return.
Seeing the stranger, Xiao Chongyang subconsciously blocked in front of his daughter and asked about their intentions, and under Xiao Chongyang's inquiry, the couple showed their intentions.
It turned out that they were Xiao Jingjing's biological parents, and they came here this time to recognize their relatives.
While crying, they said: "We are sorry jingjing, we failed in business that year, we owed a lot of money, plus the family gave birth to four daughters in succession, I really can't afford to raise one more." ”
"So you abandoned Jingjing?" Xiao Chongyang asked.
"At that time, we were also forced to think that she would be adopted by a well-meaning family, and when we had money, we would bring her back."
After saying this, they also explained that this time they came to bring 500,000, and this 500,000 was given to the Xiao family, thanking the Xiao family for their nurturing grace for Jingjing for many years.
They pushed the money in front of Xiao Chongyang's eyes and said, "Our only wish is to recognize Jingjing back." ”
Xiao Chongyang did not accept this money, he looked at his daughter and said: "I can't make a decision, this is Jingjing's own business, I will not accept this money, you have to ask Jingjing about this." ”
Under the expectant gaze of her biological parents, Xiao Jingjing refused without hesitation: "You go back, since you chose to leave me behind, it proves that there is no fate between us, in my life, there is only one father and mother, my father is called Xiao Chongyang, and my mother is called Qi Chunlan!" ”
After listening to Xiao Jingjing's words, the couple cried even more sadly, and they kept begging for their daughter's forgiveness.
"Dad couldn't help it back then, and he couldn't let you suffer with us."
"Mom knows you have a knot in your heart, it doesn't matter, we'll keep waiting until you recognize us."
"Dad will do his best to compensate you, and we will agree to any needs in the future."
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Xiao Jingjing looked at her biological parents crying indifferently, not at all moved, not that she had an iron heart, but that she really had no feelings for her biological parents.
Not long after she was born, her biological parents abandoned her, it was her adoptive parents who pulled her up and gave her a warm home, in her memory, there was no shadow of her biological parents at all, so she would not be moved in the face of the crying and repentance of her biological parents.
Xiao Jingjing stressed again: "It is useless for you to cry, as I said, I have only one father and mother in my life!" ”
After saying these words, Xiao Jingjing stood behind her father Xiao Chongyang and stayed away from them.
Xiao Chongyang smiled helplessly at the couple and sent them out of the room.
When the door closed, Xiao Jingjing breathed a sigh of relief, she took her father's hand and said firmly again: "Dad, I will only have one father in my life, I will not recognize them." ”
Xiao Chongyang's eyes lit up with tears, he opened his mouth, and he didn't know what to say, so he had to run to the kitchen and serve dishes for his daughter.
After raising his daughter for so many years, when his biological parents came looking for him, his daughter was still towards him, perhaps, at this moment, Xiao Chongyang's heart was very happy.
A month later, Xiao Jingjing said goodbye to her father at the airport, and she was going to Canada to study for a doctorate, and after many years of going, it was inevitable that she would not be able to rest assured of her father.
Before the security check, Xiao Jingjing hugged her father tightly, and she told her father: "Dad, when I come back from my doctorate, I will definitely find a good job and take you to a good life." ”
After bidding farewell to her father, Xiao Jingjing took her luggage through the security check, and after the security check, she waved to her father, and her eyes were full of reluctance to do anything else.
In the years of studying for a doctorate abroad, Xiao Jingjing's vision has been greater broadened, her own ability has also been greatly improved, when she graduated, her classmates advised her to stay abroad to work, but Xiao Jingjing refused their kindness, her father is still waiting in China, she must go back.
After returning to China, Xiao Jingjing found a good job in Shanghai, and in order to repay her father Xiao Chongyang's nurturing grace, she took her father to Shanghai to live with her.
It is worth mentioning that after settling down in Shanghai, her biological parents still wanted to recognize her, and even visited her home many times, but Xiao Jingjing never agreed.
With the more and more exchanges between the two families, Xiao Jingjing also met some relatives who were connected to her bloodline, among them, she and her sister were as good as ever, and the relationship was very good.
In 2015, when she learned that her sister was participating in the "China Dream Show" talent show, Xiao Jingjing specially pushed off her job and ran to the scene to support.
But what Xiao Jingjing did not expect was that the program team hid from her and brought her biological parents to the scene, hoping to take this opportunity to let them recognize each other.
The moderator said to her:
"People are not mountains, there are always times to meet, they are your parents after all, if there is an opportunity for you to recognize your biological parents on the spot, are you willing?"
Xiao Jingjing looked at her parents who came out from behind the curtain, and her attitude was as resolute as many years ago, she said: "I don't want to!" ”
This is Xiao Jingjing's answer, for many years, she has never changed her mind, in her heart, her father is called Xiao Chongyang, and her mother is called Qi Chunlan, and she has never changed!
Although folk often say that "the grace of birth is greater than that of people, and the grace of nurturing is greater than that of heaven", in Xiao Jingjing's heart, the grace of procreation is always greater than the grace of nurturing, and her answer on the show is the answer.