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As the saying goes: "The rich think of the coming year, the poor think of the present." ”
Truly visionary rich people will definitely think about the development of the coming year. Only short-sighted poor people will stare at the acres and thirds of the land in front of them, and have no preparation for the future.
The real pattern of a person is not how much money he makes, nor how much wealth he has, but whether he is prepared for the worst.
When people live for one lifetime, we cannot have everything going well, nor can we be lucky forever. In this way, we need to plan for the "future" and even "prepare" for the worst.
How can we "avoid" the worst? In general, risks cannot be avoided and can only be mitigated as much as possible. More importantly, prepare in advance to cope with changes with the same.
For example, for the elderly after the age of 60, what should they do if their children do not filial piety to them?
Whenever we talk about such a problem, I believe many people will say, how can there be such an unfilial child in this world? This is absolutely impossible.
This overly positive view will kill many people. There is no regret medicine in this world, and once we do something wrong, we need to bear the corresponding consequences. Therefore, acting cautiously is the king.
After the age of 60, if your children are not filial to you, you may as well do so.
02
If your children do not obey you, then you must "guard" your own family property.
The best way to deal with a crisis is to have plenty of material. The best way to deal with filial piety is to keep the assets in hand. Your assets are the key to indoctrinating unfilial piety.
We may wish to think about a question, why is the child not filial piety, why the child's will can not stick to the end?
In a word, the lack of a certain amount of money is the root of the child's filial piety. The human heart changes with material changes. The four words of mercenary figures apply wherever they are placed.
Some people feel that if you measure family affection with money, it is a bit too "tacky".
In this materialistic world, no one wants to live a tacky life. But if you don't do it, someone else will. In this way, we can only become "tacky" scrooges.
There is a good saying that everyone is complaining about the sin of money, but everyone is accepting a lot of money. In essence, money is what most people seek.
This is very realistic.
03
If your children are not filial to you, then you may wish to have a good relationship with your wife.
Sons and daughters and wives, who is closer?
In terms of blood relations, it is definitely a relatively close child. However, from the perspective of actual life, it is definitely closer to the relationship with his wife. Wife, that is the lover who accompanies us to the old age.
As long as our wife has not left, then our life is absolutely comfortable and warm. On the contrary, as long as the wife leaves, even if we sleep in the big bed, we may not feel comfortable and warm.
Children have their own lives, and the wife has a common interest pursuit with us. In this way, having a good relationship with your wife is the choice of a wise person.
As soon as some people retire, they return to their hometown with their wives to retire and live a dull two-person world. Although the days are simple, both sides can support each other and be happy until old age.
As soon as some people retire, they travel with their wives everywhere, and the more they get along, the happier they are. This is the valuable old age.
04
If your children do not obey you, then you may as well take up the legal weapon to protect your rights and interests.
There is one thing that if you can avoid, then try not to do it, and this thing is "going to court".
Some time ago, I saw a news. A 65-year-old father took his children to court, saying they were not filial enough to not only fail to pay alimony, but even often play missing.
Many people have put forward their own views on the old man's behavior.
Some people feel that the old man is doing this just to make the "ugly family out of the house". The old man did not do it right. If you have the option, it's best to fix these issues at home.
And some people feel that the elderly do this, is to use legal weapons to protect their rights and interests, not to be humble, not to let the filial piety of their children bully, worthy of praise.
In fact, both of these views have their own truths. However, there is a reason we must understand that as a person, we still should not live too humblely, and when it is time to stand up, we must stand up, otherwise we will nest for a lifetime. That's all.
05
If your children do not obey you, then you must adjust your mentality and maintain your physical health.
There is a saying that is very realistic: "There is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, and there is no virtuous wife in the long-poor family." ”
The reason why children are not filial is because they can't stand their elders who are sick in bed. In the case of disgust, then their choice of "filial piety" is also in line with reality.
If we want to get closer to our children, we still have to keep our bodies and minds healthy and try not to cause them trouble. In this way, both parties can maintain the relationship that they should have.
In the old age of people, whether they are physically and mentally healthy or not, the gap between before and after is really very large.
Speaking of this, I believe we will understand that the source of filial piety in children is either money or parents are sick. As long as we try to do these two things well, we believe that the relationship between the family will not become too bad.
Although the relationship between children and parents is said to be "blood thicker than water", once it is affected by reality, it is still vulnerable. Therefore, it is a little more realistic to be a person, to be kind when you should be kind, and to be cruel when you should be cruel. This is the way of Mingzhe to protect himself.
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