"You look like a dog, but bullshit isn't either!"
"What do you have to boast about?"
"Without me, who knows who you are?"
Such fierce words did not come from two people who deeply hated each other, but from Li Chengru, an old drama bone.
This is what he said when he evaluated his own son, Li Dahai.
When Li Dahai was six years old, his parents divorced, he lived with his mother, and the mother and son lived in an old dilapidated house of only 18 square meters, living for 28 years.
His father, Li Chengru, lived in a spacious courtyard on the edge of the Forbidden City, and for more than 20 years, the father and son met no more than 100 times, an average of less than 5 times a year.
When Li Dahai became an adult, he wanted to buy a house for his mother and asked his father for help, but Li Chengru retorted to him, "What house do you buy without money?" ”
People often say, "Fight the tiger brothers, fight the father and son soldiers." ”
Li Dahai, Li Chengru, the father and son, why are they so intolerable?
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In November 2013, Li Dahai participated in the Zhejiang Satellite TV variety show "I Am Not a Star", and at the same time, the contestants also included Pan Yang, the daughter of Pan Changjiang, and Zhu Qingyang, the son of Zhu Shimao.
Like other contestants, Li Dahai participated in the show to prove that although he was the second generation of stars, through his own efforts, he got rid of the aura of his parents and achieved his own piece of the sky.
Unlike other players, Li Dahai has really not relied on the aura of his father Li Chengru since he was very young.
Not only that, he also grew up in his father's years of denial and blows.
The program team interviewed Li Chengru, hoping that he would say a few words, evaluate Li Dahai, praise a few words, encourage his son, and give his son some confidence.
Li Chengru did not shy away from it, and directly asked the program team: "Do you think he has something worthy of my praise?" Playing billiards did not become a world champion, singing did not have masterpieces, and acting did not have impressive works. ”
"What does he have to boast about?" Without me Li Chengru, who knows him Li Dahai? ”
"He also looks like a dog when he goes out, just this appearance, or his parents gave it, what does he have?" Bullshit is not! ”
One sentence, the staff was speechless.
In the program, when talking about his achievements over the years, Li Dahai was a little timid, and he said that no matter what he did, he most wanted to get the approval of his father Li Chengru.
Li Dahai has such a personality, which has a lot to do with his growth experience.
In 1985, when Li Dahai was born, Li Chengru worked as a drama crew in CCTV's "Journey to the West", when the conditions were difficult, the crew went to multiple places to shoot in the north of the South China Sea, and Li Chengru was often too busy to go home.
His relationship with his wife is also increasingly estranged. When Li Dahai was six years old, Li Chengru divorced his wife.
The mother and son almost left the house and moved out of their original home, living in an old house with only 18 square meters.
The house is full of old furniture from the 70s and 80s, and everything from mother and son is piled up in the house, and the space is narrow, and people can't turn around after entering the house.
Not only that, this house does not have a separate kitchen, cooking must be shared with Li Dahai's uncle's family, often waiting for the uncle's family to finish cooking, Li Dahai's mother can use the kitchen.
This little home, there is no separate bathroom. Even on a cold and bitter winter night, to go to the toilet, you have to walk to the public toilet dozens of meters away.
Li Dahai and his mother, just in this house, lived for 28 years.
After becoming an adult, Li Dahai saw his mother working hard and wanted to buy a small house to take his mother to live comfortably, but he did not have enough savings.
Li Dahai found Li Chengru and hoped that he could help.
Who knew that Li Chengru not only did not help, but also sneered and said, "What house do you buy without money?" ”
In a word, block Li Dahai back.
In the eyes of his father Li Chengru, his son is useless, has no achievements in his career, and is afraid of hardship.
It is no wonder that Li Chengru has this view, after all, he himself has struggled from having nothing to this position today.
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Li Chengru is a post-50s birth, the youngest son in the family, when his father died when he was two years old, it was his mother who pulled up 11 children. When Li Chengru was a child, he didn't have enough to eat, and for a steamed bun, he beat people to the head and bleed.
At the age of 16, Li Chengru was assigned to work as a worker in the Jingshan Garment Factory, and because of his interest in literature and art, he also performed dramas in his spare time.
The work of the garment factory, Li Chengru has been doing it for ten years.
By the age of 26, Li Chengru went to the Beijing Film Academy at his own expense to study acting, and then found a job as a drama manager in the "Journey to the West" crew, laying the foundation for his later career in acting.
However, Li Chengru, who has not yet entered the industry of acting, has the experience of a garment factory, and he went to the sea to open a "special special" clothing store, which is also the first self-selected clothing store in Beijing.
In 1991, Li Chengru, who was flexible and good at management, already had 13 million US dollars in the foreign exchange warehouse, which was converted into almost 100 million yuan, and he also divorced in this year.
After the divorce, Li Chengru entered the industry of acting, participated in classic works such as "Addiction", "East Sunrise and West Rain", "Six Groups of Serious Cases", and began to become popular.
After earning money, Li Chengru bought a large courtyard on the edge of the Forbidden City, less than five minutes away from the Forbidden City, and planted 500 cherry trees in the courtyard.
In Li Chengru's view, he started from scratch and struggled for many years to have his current life, while the life of his son Li Dahai was much better than when he was a child, one heaven and one earth.
Speaking of his wife and children living in a dilapidated old house, Li Chengru felt that this was not at all wronged, and this life was not bitter at all. "What's called bitterness, it's all pediatrics."
The pediatrics in Li Chengru's mouth, in terms of Li Dahai, are really difficult.
Because his mother is not a showbiz person, the work income is very limited, Li Dahai also feels that his mother is too hard, in the second year of high school, he took the initiative to drop out of school to work, reducing the burden on his mother.
Li Dahai worked in a pizzeria and learned to make pizza. Due to his good performance, he also moved to the back kitchen. But working in the restaurant was only 800 yuan a month, and the income was too low, and Li Dahai turned to singing.
Since he was interested in music since he was a child and had studied for a while, Li Dahai decided to use music to support himself and his mother. Holding the guitar, he began to ask people on the street and in the subway, "Do you want to listen to a song?" ”
When someone needed it, he would play the guitar and start singing; when no one wanted to hear it, he would play and sing by himself.
After singing for a while, Li Dahai felt that there were more opportunities in the bar, and he turned to the bar to continue singing.
Others can get 10 to 15 yuan for singing a song, and Li Dahai is only 7-8 yuan for a song because he is a newcomer.
But with such a life, he is also very satisfied. The purpose of his desperate efforts to do all this was simple, he wanted to get the approval of his father Li Chengru.
But the father and son have rarely seen each other for many years, and Li Dahai has not had the opportunity to show his heart to his father.
It wasn't until 2013, when Li Dahai participated in the "I Am Not a Star" program, that he finally had the opportunity to stand in front of the stage and say what he thought.
03
In fact, long before the "I Am Not a Star" program, Li Dahai and Li Chengru had a chance to participate in the show together.
In the show, Li Dahai spoke for the first time about the hardships of his life with his mother over the years, and his loneliness about the separation of father and son.
Since Li Chengru and his ex-wife divorced, in the past 20 years, Li Dahai and Li Chengru have met no more than 100 times, and no more than 5 times a year.
Li Dahai felt that there were too few opportunities to meet and too few, and he longed to see his father often. And Li Chengru feels that this opportunity has been many, see you several times a year, what else to do?
Not only that, Li Chengru was also very disgusted with Li Dahai's daily dress.
In fact, Li Dahai's ordinary life is no different from the current young people's dress, sometimes to participate in the show need makeup, red lips and white teeth, in Li Chengru's view, it is also very inappropriate.
"Everyone says that Lao Tzu is a hero and a good man, and this Li Dahai has not inherited a single bit of manhood from me."
Originally on the show was hoping to get the approval of the father and ease the relationship between father and son, but I did not expect that in addition to the denial is a blow, which makes Li Dahai feel very depressed.
Not only that, Li Chengru even directly threw 2,000 yuan to Li Dahai, asking him to go to the northwest alone, "Go for three months, exercise and exercise, and see if it is still a small white face." ”
Although the host has been playing round, indicating that Li Chengru is evaluating the children of this era with the ideas of his own era, which means that it is not fair.
But Li Chengru did not feel that there was anything wrong with him doing so, and repeatedly said, "Because this is how I came." ”
In front of his strong father, Li Dahai has no right to speak, although he also wants to try to ease the relationship with his father, but his father does not think the same as him.
Li Chengru is "not close to people", in addition to wanting to train his son, there is another important reason: he remarried.
A few years after divorcing Li Dahai's mother, Li Chengru met and fell in love with Shi Yihong, an 18-year-old Peking Opera master who was 18 years younger than him, and married in 2001.
At that time, Li Dahai went to his father's new home and saw a beautiful piano at home, and he who loved music proposed to Li Chengru that he especially wanted one.
Unexpectedly, li chengru broke out and scolded, "Do you know how much this piano costs, can you afford it?" Is that what you want? ”
Li Dahai did not dare to mention the piano again, and Li Chengru divorced again after six years of remarriage.
After the divorce, Li Chengru's heart gradually softened, which made him have more contact with Li Dahai.
04
After all, it is his own flesh and blood, if Li Chengru has completely ignored Li Dahai in recent years, it is not very objective.
As early as 2002, when Li Chengru was popular, he filmed the TV series "The Story of the Criminal Police", he took the 17-year-old Li Dahai with him, and also played a small policeman in the play.
At that time, Li Dahai cried and wanted the piano, although he was scolded by Li Chengru, but after scolding, he quietly bought the piano and sent it to Li Dahai's home.
This move also made Li Dahai understand his father a little more, he knew that his father actually loved himself, but he was strict and habitual, and did not show this love.
After the piano incident, the father and son were no longer as tense as before, but the relationship between the two eased and became close, after Li Chengru's second divorce.
In 2008, Li Dahai participated in the TV series "Young Chess King", and when he was promoting, he did not shy away from saying that the reason why he could receive this role was the recommendation of his father Li Chengru.
The following year, Li Dahai participated in the TV series "Longsugou" starring Li Chengru, and the father and son also broke the wasteland to participate in the variety show "Very Parents".
In the variety show "I Am Not a Star", Li Dahai won the third place of the show with his outstanding performance.
Such good results also made Li Chengru, who has always been strict, finally have some smiles on his face.
Li Dahai knew that if he wanted his father to approve of it, and even look at him with admiration, he would continue to work hard.
In fact, Li Dahai not only loves music, he also especially likes to play billiards. This time, the good result of the third place made him more confident in himself.
After work, he still did not give up his love of billiards, and often asked friends to practice.
In addition to billiards, Li Dahai also insisted on making music, and he created public welfare songs such as "Different" and "Light in the Palm of My Hand".
In 2017, Li Dahai joined the "Youth Film Project A" and became one of the outstanding newcomer directors.
In addition to work, Li Dahai is also enthusiastic about public welfare and charity.
He is not only a psychological rehabilitation mentor of the Beijing Dongcheng District Disabled Persons' Federation, but also invited Li Qinqin and other seniors in the industry to set up a star public welfare service base for psychological and behavioral rehabilitation training.
From Li Chengru's son to Li Dahai, the conversion of different titles also proves that Li Dahai finally stepped out of his father's aura and began to have his own name.
Looking forward to the day when he can use his excellent creative ability to change Li Chengru's title to "Li Dahai's father." ”
I believe that Li Chengru, as a father, is also happy to see this day.