Li Chengru once did not care about Guo Jingming's face, and in front of the national audience, he was scared to tears.
He also bluntly said that Zhou Xingchi's "Journey to the West to Descend the Devil" work is an unpopular nonsense performance.
Chen Kaige also could not escape Li Chengru's "poisonous tongue", and was secretly ridiculed for his film works as "hu shoot a pass".
"The Biography of Zhen Huan", a popular TV series that has been broadcast for ten years, is still criticized by him as something that is "harmful to others".
I have to say that Li Chengru is really the "ceiling of the poisonous tongue world", speaking without mercy, intimidating people without affection.
However, it was quite understandable to scare others, but he still did not tolerate his own son.
Li Chengru's son, Li Dahai, as a second generation star, had to drop out of school to work because of poverty when he was a minor.
It was hard to save some money, I wanted to take out a loan to buy a house, but I didn't expect that the interest rate was too high, and he couldn't afford it without a stable job.
So he asked his father Li Chengru for help, and Li Chengru directly replied: "What house do you buy without money?" ”
Hearing this, Li Dahai was aggrieved in his heart, he just wanted his mother, who was poor after divorce, to live comfortably.
At this time, Li Chengru's business was booming, and his net worth had already reached hundreds of millions.
However, in the face of his son's request for help, he was stunned that he did not give a dime, and he fell down.
Tiger poison still does not eat children, in the face of his son, why is Li Chengru, a straight old drama bone, so harsh and miserly?
In fact, this matter should start from Li Chengru's youth.
01
In 1954, Li Chengru was born in Beijing, and the Li family has been rooted in Beijing for generations.
It has always been a rich family full of gold and jade, and after Li Chengru was born, the family road gradually declined.
Later, when Li Chengru was only two years old, his father died and left his mother with eleven children waiting to be fed.
In the days after my father left, life was overwhelmed, and there was no overnight food at home and no warm clothes.
The mother is alone, hard work, bitterness,
After carrying one or two hundred pounds of sleepers on the railway and smashing road nails with the thickness of coins, he finally raised eleven children.
Forced to make a living, Li Chengru became a seamstress at the Jingshan Garment Factory in Beijing at the age of 16.
In his spare time, out of interest and love for performance, he often listens to plays and plays.
Once, on the way to watch a play, Li Chengru got to know Dong Xingyao, a celebrity in the industry.
Later generations admired their predecessors, and their predecessors admired their predecessors, and Li Chengru successfully studied with Dong Xingyi.
For the next ten years, every morning, there was a garment factory worker at the front gate of Jingshan and the back door of the Forbidden City.
It was also this experience that allowed him to practice solid performance basic skills.
In 1980, Li Chengru successfully entered the amateur acting training class of the Beijing Film Academy with unlimited enthusiasm for acting.
And in the second year, as a dramatist, he successfully entered the crew of "Journey to the West", and the actor's dream seemed to be getting closer and closer to him.
It was also in this year that the 26-year-old Li Chengru met his first wife in his life.
After falling in love with each other for a year, the two people who were in love stepped into the marriage hall.
In 1985, his son Li Dahai was born.
But in the years since, because there has always been no good role, Li Chengru, who can only run the dragon set, has an unstable income.
So that the family's life is very poor, and they can only live in a small house of only 18 square meters.
As a last resort, in the face of life's adversity and unfulfilled dreams,
Li Chengru had to put the dream of an actor in his heart on hold for the time being and go to the sea to do business.
Selling fruit and selling clothes, he did it all.
He also opened a "special" shopping mall with an area of nearly 1,000 square meters in Xidan.
Busy with livelihood during the day, hesitant at night.
Li Chengru, who took acting as his favorite, began to ponder the role, practice his lines, and forget to eat and sleep after work.
However, while busy with work and delving into performances,
Li Chengru did not take care of the family well, so that the relationship between the husband and wife deteriorated day by day.
In 1992, the shaky marriage completely broke down, the two agreed to divorce, and 7-year-old Li Dahai lived with his mother.
After the divorce, Li Chengru made a fortune by relying on the clothing business, successfully made a fortune, and lived in a mansion on the edge of the Forbidden City.
In the nineties, when the average salary was only a few tens of yuan, his account deposit was as high as 13 million US dollars, and the money was staggering.
At the same time, his ex-wife has always been just an ordinary housewife, and it is difficult to find a satisfactory job after divorce.
So much so that for decades, mother and son could only live in the small eighteen-square-meter house without an independent bathroom and kitchen, and it was difficult to live.
02
Fortunately, although the days are hard, Li Dahai, who is very young, is very filial and gives his mother who struggled to raise him a lot of warmth.
Poor children have long been in charge, because they know that their mothers are reluctant to buy thick shoes, and their feet are frozen tightly.
Li Dahai saved money secretly to buy a pair of thick shoes for his mother.
Knowing their poor family situation, in order not to let their mother's burden be too heavy,
Li Dahai, who is still a high school student, dropped out of school early and went out to work to make ends meet.
After having some savings, he used all the money he earned to buy a small house for his mother and let her live a good life.
Who would have expected that when he paid the down payment and was ready to take out a loan, he found that he was unable to repay his high interest,
In desperation, he had to ask his father for help, but Li Chengru directly refused: "What house do you buy without money?" ”
Indeed, Li Dahai really does not have any money,
Even the down payment for buying a house is all the hard money he saved by working part-time.
For this money, he brushed plates, did group performances, and carried large bags from the construction site.
But he really wanted his mother, who had been poor all her life, to be able to move out of that simple and dilapidated little house in her old age.
Living in a new house and living a good life, what is wrong with this filial piety?
At that time, Li Chengru had already made a lot of money because of doing business,
Also because he did not forget the dream of an actor, he participated in classic works such as "Addiction", "East Sunrise and West Rain", "Six Groups of Serious Cases", etc.
In the entertainment industry quickly became popular, just starring in a play is already beyond Li Dahai's expectations.
The naïve Li Dahai originally thought that his father would grant this small request that was insignificant to him.
But he did not think that in the face of his son's request for help, Li Chengru was not only stunned that he did not take out a penny, but also had a few sarcastic meals, which was very hurtful.
For the desire in his heart to buy a house for his mother, Li Dahai, who was rejected by Li Chengru, did not give up.
He wanted to try a little harder: "I can write an IOU as if I had borrowed it from you." ”
But Li Chengru didn't want to hear what his son said at all, and immediately drove Li Dahai away without saying a word.
Seeing that borrowing money would not work, Li Dahai had no choice but to leave.
Later, Li Dahai accidentally met a group of musicians.
When he first came into contact with music, he was deeply attracted by the stage that attracted attention in the spotlight.
He hopes that one day he can also be on that stage to perform indulgently.
Unfortunately, he was so destitute that he couldn't even afford a decent musical instrument.
In desperation, he had to pin his hopes on his father once again.
He thought that the value of the musical instrument was not as good as the cost of buying a house, and his father might be willing.
At that time, after Li Chengru was frank in the star journey, he remarried at the age of 48 and married Shi Yihong, a famous Peking Opera singer who was eighteen years younger than himself.
After marriage, Li Chengru bought a grand piano for Bo meiren to smile and put it at home.
Li Dahai had seen it before when he went to his father's new home, and he remembered that he cheekily went to the door to ask Li Chengru for this piano.
Cynicism and scolding are commonplace.
Unsurprisingly, Li Dahai was scolded again with a dog's bloody head:
"Do you know how much this piano costs, can you afford it?" Is that what you want? ”
Listening to his father's lesson, Li Dahai couldn't help but blush and decided not to mention the piano again.
And after Li Chengru saw his son's sad and aggrieved appearance, he didn't say anything for a while...
03
After all, blood is thicker than water.
This time, Li Dahai did not be scolded and wronged in vain,
Although Li Chengru spoke harshly to each other, he still quietly bought a piano for Li Dahai and sent it to his home.
The piano is a rare warm moment for father and son,
Since then, Li Dahai has also gained a new understanding of his father.
He understood that his father had love for him, but he had always been strict and habitual, and he would not show love.
Indeed, Li Chengru has never been a loving father, and he has always pursued a repressive education for his son.
When the host interviewed Li Chengru and asked him about his evaluation of his son, Li Chengru's words can be described as heartfelt:
"He has no ability, no ability, nothing for me to evaluate or praise."
Aside from looking like a ghost, what does he have for me to evaluate?
And he now looks like a dog, which is also given by his parents. ”
The host on the side couldn't listen anymore,
However, Li Dahai, who heard this interview, showed a faint bitter smile and seemed to be used to it.
I have to say that Li Dahai's growth experience has always been depressed.
Li Chengru, whether in front of or behind people, mercilessly denied his son in various ways.
In his eyes, Li Dahai was lazy and cowardly, confused and numb,
On paper, it is set one by one, but it is rarely put into action.
But Li Dahai felt that he had been slowly improving all the time, and he was not so demeaned by his father.
After dropping out of school, Li Dahai did all kinds of work, and he was able to support himself early.
Later, without attending any professional conservatory,
Self-taught through his own efforts, he has an exclusive recording studio.
"I'm self-taught, I've learned so much on my own, why can't I be proud of myself?"
Li Dahai, who had been hit hard by his father, finally couldn't bear to say so.
Li Chengru's repressive approach to education is not uncommon, and it represents the approach of some of the previous generation to their children.
Filial piety is born under the stick, and in their view, the blow to the child is to help them face difficulties and thrive.
However, Li Chengru's oppressive education eventually ushered in a change in a later accident.
04
In 2006, Li Chengru had a serious illness, which almost killed him.
After recovering, Li Chengru faced the empty house, and his heart was overflowing with desolation.
Alone, he thought of his son Li Dahai,
I can't help but start to reflect on why my relationship with my son is getting worse and worse, and I don't even have a pensioner in the past half a hundred years.
In order to repair his relationship with his son, Li Chengru took the initiative to say that he wanted to buy a car worth millions for Li Dahai.
The father's sudden overtures made Li Dahai a little flattered,
Just one million is too expensive for him, who has been suffering since childhood.
But this attitude of the father's intention to maintain a relationship with each other,
And let Li Dahai reluctantly resign this hard-won father's love,
So he compromised and suggested to his father:
"If you really want to buy it, buy a 200,000, the cost performance is higher."
Hearing Li Dahai's heart-wrenching remarks, Li Chengru couldn't help but sigh with emotion and said what was in his heart.
"Today's children have not suffered hardships, nor can they bear to suffer, and my son Li Dahai lacks the manhood in me."
Then he said:
"I have never had a father since I was a child, and I have never felt the love of my father.
I don't know how to be a good father, how to love my son,
Before the rich but refused to buy him a house, tantrums at him,
I hope that he can grow up on his own like me and gain experience in practice on his own. ”
Poor parents in the world, Li Chengru's explanation, some netizens have expressed understanding and recognition,
Indeed, relying on one's own hands to feed oneself is something that every independent adult must do.
But some netizens do not recognize his way of education,
I think that Li Chengru did not pay attention to his son for 30 years, and then he sneered and ridiculed, and there was no emotion at all.
Some netizens feel that his educational philosophy is biased.
Children should not be blindly suppressed, which will only make children lose self-confidence from an early age.
Li Chengru may also realize that his education for his son is indeed inappropriate.
Therefore, he gradually changed his attitude in the future with his son, and became much more gentle and gentle.
Li Dahai likes to play billiards, and wants to change careers at the age of thirty-five to play billiards full-time.
He even wants to become a national billiards champion before the age of forty-five.
You know, professional billiards players have been training since they were about ten years old.
At the age of thirty or forty, it is the age when normal players are almost retiring.
But Li Dahai only entered the industry in his thirties and wanted to become a professional player and win the championship at this time, unless there was a miracle.
I thought that Li Dahai's idea of such a fantasy would be criticized and strongly opposed by his father Li Chengru as usual.
Unexpectedly, Li Chengru changed his normal behavior this time:
"I respect his choice, young people have their own ideas, and I don't want to hurt the father-son relationship anymore."
Compared with before, Li Chengru's attitude this time can be described as a three-hundred-and-sixty-degree change.
05
With the change of Li Chengru's attitude, his relationship with his son has also improved.
Licking the calves with deep affection, recalling Li Dahai's life for more than thirty years in the past,
He had never helped his son for half a point, let him run around, stumble, and couldn't help but feel guilty.
After learning that his son intended to act, Li Chengru began to do his best for him.
In 2015, Li Dahai starred in the movie "Spy Lotus"; in 2017, Li Dahai was selected for the "Youth Film A Plan".....
Every opportunity in the circle is inseparable from the intentional help of his father Li Chengru.
Now, Li Dahai has withdrawn from the screen and chosen to turn to the background.
Father and son are father and son, broken bones and tendons,
Li Chengru and Li Dahai father and son used their affection to overcome all estrangement and reconciled.
However, soon after, Li Chengru added a new annoyance to his son.
Li Chengru, who has long been more than half a hundred years old, has not had excessive luxury for career and feelings.
He began to set his sights on his son, hoping that he would have a happy marriage.
However, with the passage of time, Li Dahai, who has long passed the age of establishment, has always been single.
As early as 2015, Li Chengru urged his son to find a suitable person to marry.
Seeing his father's urgent appearance, Li Dahai said:
"The matter of feelings is urgent, I am looking for it, and then consider getting married after two or three years."
Three years later, Li Chengru once again urged Li Dahai to get married, and in desperation, Li Dahai confided the truth to his father:
"Dad, can you be happy to get married?" You've been married twice, you've been divorced twice, and you're still alone. Marriage is so horrible that I don't want to get married at all. ”
Li Dahai's words made Li Chengru's heart ache like a needle,
Only then did he understand that his unsatisfactory emotional experience had caused his son to have a lingering shadow of fear of marriage.
In order to ignite his son's yearning for love marriage, Li Chengru has always consciously or unconsciously instilled the benefits of marriage into his son since then.
And take the loving couple around them to give examples and examples to their sons.
He will also take him to the weddings of various relatives and friends, so that his son can feel the happy atmosphere of a couple starting a family.
However, the shadow left by the original family on Li Dahai is not a little bit.
In 2019, Li Chengru asked his son again: "Will you still reject marriage now?" ”
Li Dahai answered truthfully:
"I still don't want to get married, and I'll probably fall in love later."
Li Chengru's eye circles were red:
"The sea, Dad's biggest wish now is to see you start a family, Dad hopes that you can have someone to take care of you in later life." 」
Pity the hearts of the parents in the world, unfortunately, under the persuasion of Li Chengru's bitter mouth, Li Dahai's willingness to marry is still not strong.
Presumably, Li Chengru never thought that his divorce experience would bring such a big harm and shadow to his son.
If he had known such an ending, he would have maintained his marital feelings and taken the marriage seriously.
Taking this as a lesson, I sincerely hope that couples in the world will grasp their feelings well, treat marriage well, and give their children a happy growth environment.
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