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Li Chengru
Li Chengru, through business, has acted.
In the early 1990s, Li Chengru founded China's first self-selected clothing store" "Special Special", making money effortlessly and spending money like dirt:
Clothes should wear 70,000 or 80,000 suits, more than 10,000 ties, socks for 100 US dollars a pair, and a set of changes for each day.
When others are still stepping on the bicycle to take the bus, he has begun to enter various types of cars, seventy or eighty thousand dollars in full purchase without mercy, in and out of the hotel clubhouse is happy, tip is from one hundred dollars.
At that time, Li Chengru, how rich was he?
In 1991, he had 13 million US dollars in his foreign exchange warehouse, which was 60 or 70 million yuan, and it was only in the 1990s, put to the current value, you calculate carefully.
Of course, there are ups and downs,
Less than two years after such a scenery, in 1993, Li Chengru's investment failed, and after putting all his wealth into it, he did not give up, but returned to the show business circle and began to act seriously.
Li Chengru's acting is not covered, after participating in dramas such as "Addiction", "East Sunrise and West Rain", he starred in "Six Groups of Serious Cases", "Longsugou", "Big Names" and other dramas that caught fire.
Although today he is not as beautiful as in the 1990s, the skinny camel is bigger than Ma, and his family's courtyard is on the edge of the Forbidden City, and all kinds of antiques and antiquities collected at home are of great value.
In short, mentioning his name is like seeing the renminbi, and in recent years he has gone out of the circle with a "poisonous tongue".
Whether it is various comments on the show, or expressing opinions on peers, even to his own son.
He criticized his son for achieving nothing, and he was afraid that his son had no money to buy any house, saying that his son had nothing to praise except that he looked like a dog.
People who have seen Li Chengru's remarks do not have any good feelings for him, because no matter how successful his career is, as a husband and father, he is a failure.
Li Chengru and his son Li Dahai
In fact, is this really the case? Is what outsiders see all? Not surprisingly.
01 Impressions of fathers
Born in Beijing in 1954, Li Chengru had 11 brothers and sisters, the youngest of whom he was.
Their family lived in poverty since childhood, and his father died when he was two years old, and it was his mother who pulled them to grow up.
Li Chengru did not eat a full meal when he was a child, and often beat people up because of a steamed bun.
Perhaps it was precisely because he had suffered such suffering that he was looked down upon, so he was so profligate after his later development.
However, Li Chengru does have this capital,
Not only did he suffer, but he could afford to lose, and when he fell down, he got back up, and this spirit was in itself worthy of admiration.
It's just that the times are different, and then the path he has traveled, the hardships he has suffered, and the education he has received should be placed unchanged on his son, so that it may only be counterproductive if he does not feel any father's love.
Li Chengru had two marriages, and his son Li Dahai was born to his ex-wife.
Young Li Dahai with his mother
For Li Dahai, his childhood was unhappy.
Li Dahai was born in Beijing in May 1985, when Li Chengru was still just a migrant worker who was running for his life and was busy, and naturally had very little time to accompany his son.
In Li Dahai's memory, he has been with his mother since he was a child, even if his father is occasionally at home, he is very harsh on him, often inexplicably beaten, and every time he beats quite fiercely.
When he was young, he didn't know why his father beat himself, he couldn't feel his head, he was very angry, but the memories of these beatings became the sweetness of later memories, because at that time, his father was around, even if he was beaten, he was happy.
Li Chengru and his son Li Dahai
This sounds so sad that as long as the father is around, he is willing to be beaten.
In the depths of Li Dahai's heart, he is extremely eager for his father's love, but in the most important years of his growth, his father was seriously absent, which became Li Dahai's inner pain, but also became Li Chengru's regret, he felt guilty about his son.
02 Dependent on the mother
When Li Dahai was 7 years old, Li Chengru and his mother divorced because of personality discord, and after the divorce, Li Dahai and his mother depended on each other for their lives.
At the height of Li Chengru's scenery, when he was spending money outside, his son Li Dahai and his mother were crammed into a hut of only 18 square meters.
This cottage, there is no separate bathroom, only a few pieces of old furniture and some of the must-use daily necessities of Li Dahai's mother and son, in addition to which it is difficult to turn around.
But such a house, Li Dahai and his mother lived for 28 years, can not imagine how difficult the life of their mother and son at that time, a single mother dragged her young son crammed into such a small space.
There is no kitchen in the family, it is shared with Li Dahai's fourth uncle's family, and most of the time it is necessary to wait for the uncle's family to run out, Li Dahai's mother can make their mother and son's food in that small kitchen.
In addition, to go to the toilet, you have to run to the far away public toilet, even in winter, the cold wind has to be so.
These conditions seemed very difficult to outsiders, and Li Chengru felt that it was just pediatrics, because he experienced more hardship than this when he was a child.
To make matters worse, Li Dahai's mother later lost more than 200,000 yuan in debt because of stock speculation, and in order to earn money to repay the debt, she transferred Li Dahai to boarding school.
A poor family with single parents, shabby clothes, and a transfer student, Li Dahai has become the object of ridicule by his classmates.
Li Dahai is very intimate and sensible, he ignores the sneers of others, but he is sad about his mother's hardships.
In order to help his mother share the burden, Li Dahai dropped out of school to work at the age of 17, he worked as a waiter, served dishes, and did sales...
Because he likes music, he goes to the street to sell songs while working as a waiter, 10 yuan a song, but because he is a novice, he often sings only seven or eight pieces.
When Li Dahai worked hard every month just to earn that meager income, as a father, Li Chengru remarried at this time, and the other party was Shi Yihong, who was 18 years younger than him.
Li Chengru and Shi Yihong
Originally, there were not many opportunities for father and son to meet before, and after remarriage, Li Chengru cared less about Li Dahai.
Li Dahai once counted that in 20 years, he had met his father no more than a hundred times, an average of once every seventy days.
In this regard, Li Chengru responded, "There are a lot of people who have a career who stay with their sons all day." ”
It is not that Li Chengru did not care about this son after he became famous and remarried, in fact, as a father, who has the heart to ignore his children, but the lack of companionship for many years has caused a deep gap between father and son.
At that time, Li Chengru often went to the school to see Li Dahai with things, and he was driven out.
Li Chengru knows that he owes too much to his son, from the age of 7 to 17, his most important decade, he has not fulfilled the responsibility of a father, and the lack of fatherly love for many years has left him and his son with an insurmountable gap.
Li Chengru was at a loss for this, in fact, in the depths of Li Dahai's heart, he had always longed for his father's love.
It's just that over the years he has been used to relying on his mother for his life, watching his mother pull himself up with hard work, he doesn't know how to balance this relationship, so he can only try his best to be himself.
Li Dahai and his mother
03 Father-son relationship breaks the ice
Li Chengru knows that he has owed too much to his son for so many years, and it is normal for him to be "hostile" to himself, but he has never given up his efforts, he believes that "no hatred is no father and son", and he has always loved him in his own way.
The first time the relationship between father and son eased was before the Spring Festival in 2002, when Li Dahai was injured by a car rear-end while riding a bicycle, and immediately fell unconscious.
Li Chengru rushed to the hospital when he heard the news, and learned that his son was in urgent need of blood transfusion, so he quickly went to a blood test to transfuse his son, and Li Dahai woke up to see his father, who was sitting by the bedside and became pale because of the blood draw.
He felt his father's love for the first time, but he still said to him with a hard mouth: "No matter how good you are to me, some things can't make up for it." Li Chengru also did not speak, he knew that he was ashamed of his son, but he stayed in the hospital until his son was discharged.
Li Chengru and Li Dahai
In fact, Li Dahai's personality is somewhat similar to his father, and he talks harshly to the other party in his mouth, but in fact, he loves the other party in his heart.
Although he often talked to his father harshly, he did not need him to take care of himself, but as he grew older, after that rebellious period, he began to become more sensible, and he could better understand his father and read his good intentions.
After the relationship between father and son gradually broke the ice, Li Chengru tried his best to help him in life and career, making up for his debt to his son because of his marriage.
Li Dahai also understood his love for himself in the re-engagement with his father, and once the father and son were on the show together. Recalling the bits and pieces of his childhood, although he only had the memory of being beaten, he felt very happy when he grew up, because if there were no experiences of beatings, they might not be with each other today.
When Li Chengru heard his son say this, his heart was warm, and he couldn't help but turn back to thank his son.
Because over the years, he watched his son grow up day by day, but because of the divorce, he could not be with him, in fact, in his memory, his son was very close to him when he was a child, and his heart has always been deeply in love with his son.
However, in education, he has always adhered to high requirements, and he hopes that his son can independently own his own career.
That's why there are those fierce words, he criticizes his son for not being bullshit, he has no money to buy any house, and he has never given his son affirmation, which is a way for him to sharpen his son.
04 Father's love is like a mountain
Li Chengru is a typical "Chinese father", he has requirements for you, never said love to you, and even will be all kinds of "suppression".
You may not understand or even resent it at first, but when you grow up you will find that he is actually giving you the best in his way.
Li Dahai is also a stubborn person, he wants to build a personal music studio, Li Chengru let him raise his own money, he will go to the stall himself, sing to make money; he wants to buy a house for his mother to make her live comfortably, but after buying the house, he can't open his capital turnover to borrow money from his father and make an IOU.
Li Chengru asked him: You don't have money, what house do you buy? Just as a lesson, don't push yourself too hard in life. The next day Li Dahai sold the house.
Both father and son are stubborn, one desperately wants to get his father's approval, and the other does not give affirmation when he dies.
But in fact, Li Chengru is not as unkind as he appears in the show, Li Dahai is not as tragic as he sounds in the show, and there is another answer at the end of those stories.
It is true that Li Chengru did not lend money to his son to buy a house, but the house where Li Dahai and his mother now live was provided by Li Chengru;
He also changed his son's car; he didn't let him move away from the piano he had just bought for his new wife, but he bought him a new one...
Li Chengru felt that his son could not sing, but he suggested that his son learn to act, and he has been filming a lot with his son for many years.
He is strict with his son, hoping that he can be a down-to-earth person, break out of his own heaven with his own ability, and let others remember that he is Li Dahai, not Li Chengru's son.
Over the years, Li Dahai has also been down-to-earth and active in the circle as a singer, actor and musician.
Although he has not become popular, he has never hyped up any lace scandals, and his image and acting skills are only a chance away.
In addition, Li Dahai has also been low-key support for public welfare undertakings, insisting on volunteering to do psychological counseling for disabled friends in the Dongcheng District Disabled Persons' Federation, and communicating with them in the form of music, which has been loved by many disabled friends.
Today, Li Chengru is also nearly old, and his marriage with Shi Yihong ended as early as 2007, and after the divorce, he put more energy into the father-son relationship, and the father and son have long changed from the initial water and fire to the father's kindness and filial piety.
At present, for Li Chengru, his biggest hope is that Li Dahai can meet a person who truly loves each other, form a happy and happy family, and not marry and divorce twice like him.
For Li Chenghai, who is already 36 years old, before the age of 35, he has experienced everything, in his own words:
Before the age of 35, I tried everything, did everything, followed the hengdian that should be run, followed the group, and acted out of the album is what I like to do, I think it is worth it.
After the age of 35, I want to do something else, also out of love and affection.
As a father, although Li Chengru did not affirm his son in words, he had already recognized his son in action, and he would try his best to make up for his son in life and career for the rest of his life.
His love for his son, as the writer Ergen said: "Father's love is completely different from mother's love, he is more subtle, more speechless, he is silent and inclusive." ”
Li Dahai is grateful for everything his father has done to himself, grateful for his support for himself, and he has read his father's love like a mountain in his father's honesty and sternness.
No matter how the outside world looks at it and evaluates it, it will not hurt their father-son relationship, although he may not have reached the height of satisfying his father now, but he still insists on doing what he likes, and is still willing to toss.
In this world, there may be parents who do not hurt their children,
But that's only a minority, and it's hard to call parents; more parents love their children and hurt them to the bone.
I hope that every pair of parents and children can read each other's love and expectations, and do not let yourself leave regrets and debts, blessings.
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