Thurber and White say, "Love has a wonderful magic that makes one person fall for another. ”
When we meet someone we like, we are also controlled, dominated, and difficult to get rid of. The deeper this love, the greater our change. Just in this love, it is difficult for us to detect our own changes at the first time.
In many TV series, the setting of the male protagonist is like this. Before encountering love, they are often high and cold, and even the closest people around them rarely see their smiling faces and gentle sides. They are sane enough to keep themselves calm and keep their attitude as always.
However, after encountering love, it is as if a person has changed. Compared with the previous him, it is simply impressive.
For me, the deepest impression should be Han Shangyan in the TV series "Dear, Beloved". Before meeting Tong Nian, he was a very cold person, even the people who had been around him for the longest time would feel that he had a bad temper, was prone to anger, and was always a cold and ruthless look.
But all this was completely broken after encountering Tong. Although the age difference between the two is very large, after getting along several times, Han Shangyan is indeed moved by the true feelings. Although he had not yet been able to determine his own thoughts, he had completely changed when they were together, and even the people around him quickly noticed this.
He loves to laugh, will have some childish behavior, and will also unload his indifferent side and play with Tong Nian. Once the calm and comfortable him, in love, will also be overwhelmed, will be anxious, will be nervous.
It can be seen that once a man moves the truth, there will often be these contrasts, and women do not understand.
01 will change from the indifference of the past to the warmth and fun.
Men truly love a woman, and naturally want to give women the greatest happiness and happiness, so that women feel that such a love is worthwhile, and they can go on forever.
The more important a feeling is in the heart, the more men will naturally care about women's feelings, and will often observe women's thoughts. He wants women to be happy and smiling all the time, not sad and disappointed. As long as you see that women are unhappy, men's hearts will be very anxious, and they want to quickly find a way to make women happy.
If a man still maintains an indifferent attitude, even if he loves this woman in his heart, it is difficult to make a woman really happy. Men know this well, and naturally they will continue to convince themselves and change themselves. Under the catalysis of love, men can quickly change their indifferent selves and become a warm and interesting man.
This change is what Plato put it: "When Eros pats you on the shoulder, even a person who does not know what poetry is on a daily basis suddenly becomes a poet." ”
02 Once strong, he will also show his fragile and sensitive side.
Generally speaking, when getting along with others, men often maintain their best state and let others see his strongest, most mature and stable, and most rational side. Moreover, the heart will not be troubled by emotions, and it will be able to control its emotions and states very well. Even in front of their best friends and family, men will maintain their best selves and will not let them see the vulnerable side.
However, love is different from other feelings, and it is most likely to disturb a person's mood and bring us anxiety and torture.
Lo Herrick said, "The joy of love is mixed with tears." ”
Falling in love with someone, many times the emotions are complex and difficult to control. Even sane men will have times when their emotions are out of control. In front of the beloved woman, in addition to being strong in his daily life, men are also the most likely to show their most vulnerable and sensitive side, so that women can see the most real him.
03 Even the most mature man will show his most childish side.
When there is no love in the heart, men will treat life and career very rationally. When encountering things, he can also calmly analyze and solve them, so that others can see his mature and stable side. Even if he is not mature enough, at least he will not let people see his childish side.
However, after encountering love, a man's life will change a lot, and even the change of personality will surprise people.
Just like Han Shangyan, when he meets Tong Nian, he will also have a childish side, he will be jealous, he will be anxious, he will be happy and worried about a little thing.
Schiller said: "True love is single-minded, love has a very narrow field, it is so narrow that it can only accommodate two people to survive; if you fall in love with several people at the same time, it cannot be called love, it is just an emotional game." ”
Especially in such a heterosexual relationship, it is difficult for men to accept that their beloved woman gets along too much with other men. Even with very little interaction, men will be jealous and will behave childishly.
Women should know that when a man has real feelings for you, there will be such a contrast. No matter how mature and stable he was, how strong and brave he was, how indifferent he was, after encountering love, there will be great changes, which will form a great contrast with the past.
Women feel such a contrast with men, they should understand that he has moved his true feelings for you, and he can't fake it. Therefore, don't ignore these changes in men and misunderstand men's minds.