Idle, once again opened the official website of the Ministry of Education, the website "winter vacation to the parents of primary and secondary schools across the country" came into view, a cursory look at the content of this letter, I feel that the Ministry of Education's suggestion is quite reasonable. The second point in this letter speaks of the importance of "parent-child companionship.".
The general content is that the winter vacation is the best time for children to "grow together" with their parents. Some people may wonder when they see this sentence: children "grow" is just enough, and why do parents need to grow? Isn't that a sick sentence? In fact, there is nothing wrong with this sentence, because parents really need to grow up.
In today's society, teachers need to be trained to become principals to be employed, employees need to be trained to become factory directors to be competent, and parents are almost a kind of "long" who can directly "take office" without any training, which means that there will always be some incompetent existences in the parent team. The winter vacation time, to put it bluntly, is the "training" time for parents to make parents more competent through the channel of parent-child companionship.
In this time period, how parents should communicate with their children, how to encourage their children, how to accompany their children to participate in extracurricular reading or even read the same book, chat about the same story, in the process of witnessing the growth of children, the knowledge of parents is also growing, the parents' family education ability is also improving, and the parents themselves are constantly moving closer to the standards of qualified parents.
The "finishing touch" in the suggestion of parent-child companionship is: during the winter vacation of students, it is recommended that parents do not replace parent-child time with cram classes, do not use extracurricular tuition as a "master key", and parents should give their children "three senses" - let children have a sense of happiness, trust and security at home.
Let's start with security. Some parents are like "tyrants" when tutoring their children's homework: the slightest mistake in the child will directly yell and scream, and even beat up the child. In such a situation, can the child still calm down and do his homework? Does your child still feel safe when doing homework? Can a child who doesn't even have a sense of security become the legendary bully?
Let's talk about trust. Some children, they have a heart and will not tell the parents, because their parents have always distrusted them: the test results are super high in the eyes of the parents must be "copied", the money found in the eyes of the parents must be "stolen", the road fell down and the scars must have been "beaten" by the classmates in the eyes of the parents...
When children are not trusted, they often "break the jar and break it", and they gradually learn to "let go of themselves" - "Anyway, my parents don't believe me, do I still need to be strict with myself?" Do I still need to be diligent and studious? When this kind of thinking rises, the "double poor students" with poor thinking and poor learning will come into being. Therefore, a sense of trust is very important for every child.
Finally, let's talk about happiness. I think the first thing parents have to do to make their children feel happy is that even if they are not so loving, they must get along with each other. Some students' parents, at every turn, perform "armed dramas" in front of their children, wrestling in front of their children, and children spend every day in fright, where is the happy childhood? If the parents divorce because of incompatibility, then the child is often ridiculed by other classmates, where is the happiness? Home and wanshixing, there is no contradiction between husband and wife, running a home requires both husband and wife to accommodate each other, take a step back from the sea and the sky, and a warm family is the key to children's happiness.
Parents and friends, after the winter vacation, how will you get along with your children? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.