On January 3, the mother of a takeaway worker in Jinan, Shandong Province, took her child out to deliver takeaway. Because the child is playing in the mall, he is found after being looked for by the mother, and he yells at the child: Because of you, the mother is about to time out.
Anxiety fills the screen, poking at the pain points of the majority of working mothers, causing heated discussion on the Internet.
According to a group of news reports, 70% of women in China participate in the work, the highest proportion in the world. This shows that 7 of the 10 women are working and carrying babies, and the pressure is high.
So, how should working mothers cope?
1. Of course, the old man helps. The first choice is to let the mother-in-law or mother come to the house to help take care of the children. It is only when the mother-in-law takes care of the child, due to different concepts of life and understanding, it is easy to cause contradictions and frictions.
Women need to be open-minded, respect the elderly, see more of the elderly's efforts, worry less about the details, and pay attention to the ways and methods of getting along.
2. Get your husband involved. It is necessary to learn to divide the work, let the husband take on his due responsibilities, and cannot be a "loner" who takes care of the children.
Assign the husband something he can, such as picking up and dropping off the children, playing with the children, telling stories to the children, and so on.
In this way, while cultivating the spirit of the husband's responsibility, it can promote the formation of parent-child relationship and the child's good character.
3. Appropriate use of other people or institutions. Anyone who has been a mother knows that before a child goes to kindergarten, it is the most tiring and difficult period to carry.
If economic conditions permit, hiring a nanny is also a safe approach.
If you really can't find a reliable person, and there happens to be a custodial institution such as a custody center and a care center around, you can properly host it to give yourself a time to breathe and adjust.
4. Establish the Bao MaMa Alliance. Good at using the power of friends, and often contact with mothers with children to communicate the confusion and pressure in parenting.
While helping the child to meet friends, there is a mutual care with the mother.
If there is an emergency to go out, you can also temporarily drag the pipe to solve the urgent need.
5. Choose a job that is flexible and conducive to childcare. If the above few can not be used, you can only bring it alone, the difficulty is most.
It is necessary to choose a relaxed and tolerant job as much as possible, and put economic income second.
After all, different stages of life have different priorities.
6. Try to keep pace with your child's schedule. Coordinate time reasonably and strive to keep pace with your child's life, schedule and rest.
During the day, when your child sleeps, you can do something quiet, put on a mask or take a nap.
When children play, they can do some housework. At night, try to rest in sync with your child and maintain sufficient physical strength.
7. Don't give up on your hobbies. To love oneself is to love others. Sometimes, hobbies that seem useless to outsiders are precisely the sustenance of their own emotions.
When others take children or children to sleep, read books, exercise, listen to songs, dance... give yourself a space to be alone and enjoy a good time.
8. And the most important point: maintain emotional stability. A woman's emotions are the most important feng shui in the family.
We must realize that when we must take on our own responsibilities, we must have a calm mind and correctly face the problems encountered.
Busy without losing measure, impatience without disorder. Be strong in gentleness, be gentle in strong.
Seeing children grow up healthily and work smoothly is also a great achievement and happiness.
However, even if many methods are used, sometimes it is inevitable to lose sight of one or the other, so what does it matter?
After all, you don't have three heads and six arms either. So, forgive yourself.
Just remember, when your anger fire is about to erupt, first let yourself take a deep breath, count from 10 to 1, from 1 to 10, and do it as it is, do not vent anger, do not expand emotions.
Do a good job of guiding, explaining, and then speaking out your opinions.
At the same time, it also calls on more people to pay more attention to and understand the hardships of working mothers, and to have more understanding and more care within the scope of their own ability.
Mother, not only a title, but also a responsibility, a responsibility, a pay.
Companionship is the most affectionate confession. When children are happy because of their mother's company and have a happy and regretless childhood, I believe that this is the best gift that every working mother can give to her child.
It is precisely because the working mothers carry the weight forward that the children's years are quiet.
Let's try to dance in a more harmonious way when we dance with "shackles".
After all, the happy smiling face of a child is the greatest encouragement and comfort for us. You tell me?
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