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On the one hand, loneliness in marriage has more responsibilities, can not arbitrarily buy drunk, can not linger between the lights and wine, especially with children, do everything to think about what the children should do? How many people endure the oppression of two people who are relatively speechless and under the same roof for the sake of their children.
Can singles go wherever they want? Whoever you want to chat with is a chat! It's just that sometimes you can't find anyone to talk to, you can do something by the impulse of the heart, don't be too rational, don't need who is responsible for yourself, and don't have to be responsible for whom!
On the other hand, the loneliness in marriage with a faint sadness, getting along in the same room, sitting together without words, not tacit understanding, nor a sharp mind, but can not find the topic, sometimes will make you feel that the air is depressed, there is a special desire to escape, how many people do not want to face the indifference of the family atmosphere, choose to use work to anesthetize themselves.
A person's loneliness is boring, boredom, fidgeting, especially if there is no special hobby, that kind of loneliness, have to work to pass the time!
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Since you feel lonely in your marriage, why not divorce? Maybe two people live better than one person, although they are usually relatively speechless, but they can still help each other at key moments! Maybe because there is a common concern - children!
Isn't the bottom line of divorce two people, stronger than one person?
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A friend talked about the current state of her marriage, and she didn't know when she and her husband had never slept in the same bed again, and she couldn't remember when it was!
The family's money is also spent separately! She can do things herself, never go to her husband to accompany, go to the supermarket alone, go to the gym alone, go for a walk alone, when she is sick, go to the hospital alone, and only call her husband during an operation, because she needs the signature of the family, she also needs her husband to take care of it.
She said she was like a woman.
We tried to persuade her, woman, just be more spoiled! She said, you don't understand, not a spoiled personality is also impossible to do, even if it will seem awkward, she said, her husband does not eat that set.
In addition to laughing, she also said that in the beginning, we had quarreled over some small things, and we didn't know when we would stop arguing, and we were doing our own things in the same room, and there was very little communication.
We asked, don't you feel depressed? She said, nothing! It's good to live this way, no one interferes with anyone! Talk when you have something to do, and do your own thing when you're not working!
Don't you feel dull? The word loneliness, we didn't mean to say it. After a half silence, the friend said: After a long time, I am used to it.
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Why not try to change it? Maybe it's easier said than done! Perhaps once a family has formed a deep-rooted mode of getting along, it may be difficult to change, because everyone feels that they are right and agree with their own ideas, although they may also feel that they should change this family atmosphere.
What is the world? Life and death follow, cut continuously, rationalize and chaos, say it is not clear, and the Tao does not understand! Because of this, the world has a variety of family life patterns, and the happiness and unhappiness of feelings are known only to themselves!
Wish: Heart, no longer lonely!