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As we all know, the newborn baby has a strong milk smell, and this unique smell of the infant stage is called "baby smell".
Because the baby is soft and cute, and there is a blood relationship between parents and children, so the baby smell is favored by many parents, and even some parents smell the child's smelly feet and feel fragrant.
The opposite of the baby flavor is the old man's smell that is disliked by many children.
When parents gradually grow old and their physical functions slowly deteriorate, their bodies or rooms will emit a faint smell similar to mold, which is often considered to be related to living habits, so it is often disliked.
In a family, when the baby flavor meets the old man's taste, the "eccentricity" of Chinese parents is very obvious.
Li Fan is a mother, due to the late marriage, 38 years old to have their first child, at this time Li Fan's parents are 70 years old, usually a family of five live together.
After the baby was born, Li Fan loved his daughter so much that he was eager to stay with his daughter every day, and the baby smell on the baby's body also caused Li Fan to come closer to smell it, only to think that this was the best smell in the world.
The birth of the child made the whole family transfer their energy to the baby's body, as a grandparent, Li Fan's parents naturally hurt their granddaughter, but at the same time, they also felt the change in their daughter's attitude towards themselves.
After a bath, Li Fan and his parents broke out into an argument.
Because his parents are older, bathing and changing clothes are not as diligent as before, which makes Li Fan mistakenly think that his parents are not hygienic, so he directly complains:
What's wrong with taking a few more showers? Don't know that you have a heavy smell of old people on you? It is also unhygienic to hold the child like this!
The daughter's words stung the hearts of the parents, and after returning to the room, the mother shed tears at her wife: people are annoyed when they are old, the smell of the baby rushes to smell, the smell of our body is too bad, it seems that the child will never be as good as the parents to the child.
There is such a set of comparisons on the Internet.
On the first day of school, many parents stayed outside the guardrail, even if they could only see the situation inside the school through the gap, they resolutely refused to leave, in the eyes of parents, the child's every move was enough to worry themselves.
But in nursing homes, it's a completely opposite.
Some elderly people habitually stay in front of the gate, staring at the distance, hoping that their children will often come to see themselves.
But unfortunately, the expectations of the elderly always end with disappointment, in addition to the new year, few children come to the door, even if it is a holiday, because they have to take care of their own small families, most of the children will stay in the nursing home for half an hour.
No wonder some netizens lamented that the "eccentricity" of Chinese parents began from the birth of their children.
Do parents always love their children more than their parents?
In life, this problem will often be taken out to discuss, let's first see what netizens say:
"Must, for example, the parents are seriously ill, the child may not necessarily sell the car and sell the house to treat the parents, because he still has his own small family to take care of, but if the child is seriously ill, the parents will definitely smash the pot and sell iron to treat the child." 」
Although I don't want to admit it, the reality is really sad, parents love us forever unconditionally, but children will have a lot of scruples about their parents."
"When not married and have children, children love their parents 100%, but after having their other half and their own children, their children's emotional investment in their parents will not be so much, and they will be more inclined to their own small family."
The maintenance of parent-child relationship focuses on "decency"
As parents, our energy is often very limited, when young people form their own small home, for the elderly and children will inevitably have a little emotional tilt.
In fact, this phenomenon is very common and normal, but how to maintain a good parent-child relationship, not only can let the elderly feel the filial piety of their children, but also let the children experience the concern of their parents, is indeed a problem worth thinking about.
In fact, the maintenance of parent-child relationship focuses on the word decency. For young people, we need to pay decently, although children may occupy more of our time and energy, but we can not favor one over the other, favor children and dislike the elderly.
As an old man, you should also know how to withdraw decently, but participate more in the small family of your children, but complain too much about your children, rather than pinning your joys and sorrows on your children's attitude, it is better to develop hobbies and please yourself.
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