We are not afraid to speculate on the human heart with malice, but sometimes the human heart is more sinister than we think.
The most difficult thing to understand is the human heart, and the most difficult thing to understand is human nature.
After reading the experience of this mother below, you will subvert some of the original cognition, between relatives, and can not be fully trusted.
The son was "prematurely killed" at birth, and the mother's liver and intestines were cut off
Ms. Gao is a nurse and has a free love affair with her ex-husband, whose love has not been recognized by her parents.
The reason is that the ex-husband is an ordinary worker, the family is generally poor, so that the parents are very faceless, and when the wedding is held, because of the number of bride price, the two families are very unhappy.
Ms. Gao got pregnant after marriage, her parents still did not look favorably on her marriage, the relationship between the two families was very stiff, Ms. Gao in order to avoid contradictions, she moved to her cousin's house, close to the work unit.
When giving birth, only the cousin and cousin-in-law stayed by her side, after the birth of the child, the cousin told her that the child's legs could not be straightened, may be congenital disability, they asked Ms. Gao's father, the other party let discarded.
Ms. Gao was very heartbroken, the nature of maternal love, she asked to bring the child back, the cousin and cousin-in-law agreed, the two went out for a while, but when they came back empty-handed, the cousin-in-law said: "The temperature of the air outside, the child has died." ”
Ms. Gao, who was originally uncomfortable in her heart, was hit by the blow and her brain was confused, she cried like rain, and felt sorry for her ex-husband, because she was a nurse and often needed to accompany patients to take X-rays, Ms. Gao thought that this was the reason that led to the child's congenital disability.
Out of the hospital, Ms. Gao had no face to see her ex-husband, she chose to escape, went to the northeast aunt's house alone, found a job in the northeast, and stayed for 2 years.
The ex-husband was disappointed in her and sued to end the marriage a year after she left home.
Time slowly erased the scars, Ms. Gao felt that it was not a matter of always running away, so she returned to her hometown to continue her life, and under the introduction of friends, she re-established the family and had a lovely son.
Originally, she thought that life could go on like this, and once she was giving an injection to a patient, and she heard someone saying, "There was a nurse in this hospital, and the child was born and died, but in fact, she is still alive and well." ”
Ms. Gao suddenly realized that what they were talking about was herself, and when she finished the things in her hands, she went out to find someone, and the other party was already gone.
Since then, this matter has become a knot in her heart, and she is secretly determined to find the child.
Seeing their son again 19 years later, the adoptive parents demanded 300,000 yuan in maintenance
Recalling the process when she gave birth, Ms. Gao felt that her cousin and brother-in-law had the biggest problem.
She ran to ask her cousin, the cousin insisted that the child was gone, Ms. Gao had doubts in her heart, and refused to give up easily, she ran to her ex-husband again, asked if the child was not around him, the ex-husband sighed: "You are the child's mother, if you are here, why don't I let you see it?" ”
Ms. Gao looked at her ex-husband's attitude not like lying to herself, she changed directions, inquired about her cousin and cousin-in-law's relatives, and was really found to be flawed, and her cousin had a cousin who could not give birth and adopted a pair of children.
After figuring it out, Ms. Gao had a very strong idea, the boy adopted by the other party may be her own child, she went to check the information of this cousin, and learned that the boy adopted by the other party was named Liu Shangshang and was in high school.
She ran to Liu Shangshang's school, when she saw Liu Shangshang, the child looked too similar to her ex-husband, her tears flowed down at once, she thought that the child had died 19 years ago, did not expect that the child was in good health and lived well, she persuaded Liu Shangshang to go to the paternity test with herself.
The result came out, there was no accident, Liu Shangshang was her ex-husband's child, she went to find the child's adoptive parents, but the other party said straightly: "What about your child?" It is impossible for me to give the child back to you, and after 19 years of upbringing, I am better off with the child than the biological child. ”
In order to get the child back, Ms. Gao went to the police, but was told that it had passed the 10-year validity period and did not file a case, she went back to find the child, and the child was gone.
It turned out that the Liu family sent the child to his hometown to take the college entrance examination, but also deliberately avoided Ms. Gao, wanted her to retreat, Ms. Gao was crying, she ran back and forth to find her son, told the child everything, Liu Shangshang was also moved, he always thought that he was abandoned by his parents, it turned out that his mother still loved himself, he shouted "Mom" to Ms. Gao.
Mother and son have been reunited for a long time, and they no longer want to be separated, Ms. Gao often takes her son home to live, which makes the Liu family very angry, and they file a complaint demanding that Ms. Gao compensate herself for 300,000 yuan in child support.
The adoptive mother also said: "Discuss with us well, we can let the child run on both sides, so it is really difficult to accept that the child will be taken away directly." ”
I don't know where her courage comes from, as Ms. Gao said: "I can't afford to raise it?" Did my child let you raise it? I have a job, I am fully capable of raising children, you can't have children, to steal my children, why should I compensate you? ”
People's hearts are unpredictable, and the heart of defense is indispensable
Ms. Gao's experience also gave us a wake-up call.
Even relatives cannot fully trust each other, and in the face of interests, human nature sometimes shows an ugly side.
There is a saying that goes like this: "A chopstick is straight, and when inserted into the water, it becomes curved." ”
When we trust a person, we must also have a certain sense of prevention and have our own analysis of the incident.
Just like Ms. Gao, after the birth of the child, she learned that the child's legs could not be straightened, and then the cousin-in-law said that the child was gone, at least to take a look at the child, if you feel that there is a problem, call the police in time.
She believed in her cousin and brother-in-law, and found the problem years later, and could only complain about her carelessness.
But Ms. Gao's carelessness should not be the reason for the cousin and cousin-in-law to do evil, they are ashamed of their trust in their cousin, and they have lost their conscience in the face of interests, and it is difficult to calm the hearts of the people without punishment.
Ms. Gao's experience reminds me of Sun Haiyang, whose children were also raised by the buyer, and after finding the children, the buyer also offered to move around the two families.
In the eyes of the buyer, if you pay to your children, you should be rewarded, but you ignore the essence that your motivation is wrong, not only should you not be rewarded, but you should also be punished.
Because your happiness is based on the pain of others, how many mothers cannot bear the pain of the loss of their children, even if the children are found, the lost years can never be returned.
And the occurrence of these things is based on interests, and some people are very selfish and will really do things that are difficult for ordinary people to accept.
When encountering such a person, there is no need to give face, and it is the right choice to let the other party be punished as it should be, and we also hope that every child can be reunited with the mother and do not let the pain of separation happen again.
Do you think Ms. Gao should give the child's adoptive parents 300,000 compensation?