Children are the continuation of the parents' lives, parents want their children to be the best, painstakingly educate the children, cultivate the children, for boys and girls, the parents' way of education is different.
There is an old saying in China: poor children and rich women, manhood will stand tall in the future, bear heavy responsibilities, parents should spend more effort to raise their sons, let him become the dragon and phoenix among people.
Many parents feel that boys are more difficult to discipline than girls, compared to boys, girls are more well-behaved and sensible, and boys are mischievous, and parents' teachings are also left ear into the right ear out, which makes many parents very headache.
In fact, not all the shortcomings of boys parents have to be deeply managed, boys with these two shortcomings, if the parents do not have deep management, the children will grow up to be more prominent.
First, allow children to cry appropriately
Xiao Zhao said her recent troubles, she has a son called Mango Pie, for Mango Pie, the family is more spoiled, but also attaches great importance to the education of children, but their family found that Mango Pie is very fragile in heart, often bullied and crying.
Last week he played with the children, the beloved toy was damaged by the children, came back crying and crying, today went to the kindergarten, and he wanted a good child because of the scramble for the small cake scratched his arm, when the father went to the kindergarten to pick him up, the child's eyes were still tears, tears told the father that he was bullied.
Xiao Jing's family is very worried that the child will not have the ability to resist pressure in the society in the future, and will cry when he encounters anything, so how to be a person who stands up to the sky in the future, but the family does not know how to educate their son better.
Many people and Xiao jing have the same troubles, think that the son sometimes cries, too fragile, the old saying is good: boys have tears do not flick, not to mention that after growing up, the pressure will be greater, how to cry at every turn, some parents will force their children not to cry.
In fact, parents are to allow children to cry appropriately, for children, crying is the most effective way to relieve when they are sad and stressed, and it is also an innate way to alleviate, they are not like parents, they can choose many ways to decompress.
They have no way of emotional divergence, they have been holding their emotions in their hearts, over time, the child may be autistic, we can think in a different position, if we have been unhappy in our hearts, there is no way to alleviate, we give others the feeling of not like: melancholy little prince, melancholy little princess.
Such a child is not willing to play with him, and over time, the child becomes withdrawn, and what is more, the child may be depressed.
To allow the child to cry appropriately, the boy has tears and does not flick the next sentence, but when he is not sad, when he is really sad, the boy will also cry, crying is only a way to vent, not a manifestation of cowardice, after venting, the child becomes calm inside, and sometimes, crying is also an advantage.
Second, let the child be appropriately mischievous
Colleagues have an eight-year-old son called pineapple bun, the child was well-behaved and obedient when he was a child, who saw it and praised, but now the child gradually becomes mischievous, yesterday colleagues and friends went out to eat, pineapple bun alone at home, he called out to several of his good friends to play together.
Several people in the house to fight, pineapple bag bed is full of black footprints, his pillow and quilt ran to the living room, the floor of the home is also black footprints, colleagues came back also thought that the family into the thief, into the pineapple bag room, colleagues are even more out of breath to fall over, white sheets are full of black footprints, books on the bookcase on the floor, there are several pages.
Colleagues do not fight out, see colleagues angry, those children are very scared, they said that the pineapple bun took the lead in stepping on the bed, took the book down to fight, colleagues let these children leave after the black face to clean up the pineapple bun.
Many parents may have experienced such a thing, can be killed by the child's naughty mischief, girls are better, girls are relatively well-behaved, only the boys' exuberant energy and naughty mischief make many parents bitter.
In the face of children's mischief, some parents will punish their children and tell their children: I don't want you if you are naughty and mischievous, and if you are naughty and mischievous, I will send you to others as children, in fact, parents should let children be naughty and mischievous.
The naughty age of children is actually only those years, and after puberty, they will gradually become sensible, and do not let them have an unhappy childhood because of their parents' dissatisfaction.
Parents can also think differently, whether they will be naughty and mischievous at the child's age, or whether they will be more mischievous than their children, empathy may understand their children better.
Bringing up children as adults is a sacred duty of parents.